My fiance is totally cool with it, and says his mother is fine with it. She does not live in our city, and may not even
be able to make it due to her own birthday party her family
is having for her (which my man is choosing to miss- he isn't
close to them).
This is not all as bad as it sounds, REALLY, but I do feel
bad and our wedding is in ONE month- we love eachother,
our child is going on nine yrs old and we both want to get
right with GOD already...Jesus is coming back soon!
2007-06-06 08:23:54 · 22 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I My man left it to me to choose a date (just like a man!) and I had always said that 07-07-07 would be great.
AFTER I chose the date, my man reminded me it's his mom's bday (again, she doesn't live here).
I always heard the bride does most of the planning, and the groom usually just goes along with it- AND that's what we're going through...so, in all the planning and stress- I really didn't remember her bday. I am super forgetful!!-- yes, even for important things like that. I felt sooo bad and asked if he wanted to change it...he said no.
He is close to her but still says its okay. Although it may be too late to change the date, I probably still would.
SO, I just wanted input on what most ppl would do...hopefully you all are normal like me!!
Also, most Christians love the idea of 07-07-07, and it helps that it's a Saturday (weekend).
2007-06-06 09:02:43 · update #1
With just a month left, its a little late to go changing things. If your MIL is ok with it, and your fiance's ok with it, then just go forward and get married already. Oh, and be sure to send the MIL a birthday card and maybe some flowers.
2007-06-06 08:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's ok with your fiance and your mom-in-law 2 be, then go for it. But don't marry because Jesus is coming back. People have been saying that for centuries. There were people who killed themselves in 1000 AD because they thought the Lord was coming back right then. The early Christians (who lived when Jesus did) did not have sex or procreate because they thought that Jesus was coming back (right away). It wasn't until about 50 years after Jesus died that the Christians decided they'd better procreate to make more Christians because their numbers were dwindling!
Lots of people have said Jesus is coming and the signs are there, and they've all been wrong. The Bible even says that no man shall know the hour of the coming. Don't listen to the hype from the pulpit. Make sure your beliefs are couched in YOUR knowledge of the word. Read it yourself. Get concordances and figure out what it says yourself.
Marry your man because you love each other and want to tell the world of your lifetime commitment to each other. I am sure your child is thrilled! :) I hope he/she is in the wedding and you take lots of pictures! :)
Good luck! :)
2007-06-06 08:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You were together for about 10 years. You should have known that it wa MIL B-day. There is a 365 days a year a you chose to leave out your MIL on your wedding day. Plus you skipped her birthday. Don't be surprise when your child chooses not to make you a special part of there wedding day. This was a bad Idea.
2007-06-06 08:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. If your fiance is fine with it and your future mom inlaw is fine with it then no worries. You wedding is coming up so you should be focused on other things and just let this go so you can maybe have more fun finishing your other wedding to do's before the big day!
2007-06-06 12:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cool. Have the dj or band wish your mother in law a happy birthday, and think about maybe buying her a small cake for before or after the reception. You can even have the person who's making your wedding cake make you another small cake with the same recipe.
2007-06-06 08:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Helen Scott 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years and you want to straighten it all out now??? And in a month??? And the birthday is the big issue here?? Do your own thing and get over it. Jesus will still love you even if Mom can't be there--it's your life--not anyone elses. When Jesus gets back---say HI
2007-06-06 08:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the reception hall and the church is already booked, you can't really change anything now.
When did you decide on the date, and how far back was it? I personally would want all of my family there. And it sounds like none of his family will be there because they will be at the birthday party.
Good luck, I hope it all works out well
2007-06-06 08:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem somehow like it might not be the BEST idea, but if your fiance is cool with it and especially his mom is cool with it, go ahead (what made you guys pick that day though? does it have some other significance for you?). Good luck and God Bless your marriage.
2007-06-06 08:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Kateqd30. Why would your fiance's mother go to a birthday party instead of her son's wedding? I guess she doesn't think too much of you or your upcoming marriage.
2007-06-06 09:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother in law adores you than have the marrige that day buy her and her husband a ticket and send it to her for a birthday present I think if she wants to have it that day the Go for it have her stay in a hotel and come see you and your spouse it is a Great Idea!!
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2007-06-06 08:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋