I am 22 and my husband will be 21 in october. We are both in school and will be graduated by fall of '08 and have been married a year in Aug. At the moment we are financially in the hole like most people. I would love to have a baby now but he wants to waite for a few years. What should I do. I dont mind waiting but not a few years. All of our friends are having babies and I know that they are not financially stable so I shouldnt go off of what they are doing but I really would like to have one. Please help.....
2007-06-06 08:08:30 · 9 answers · asked by nickole m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
A lot of factors go into the decision. . .my husband and I are were married for a little over three years when I got pregnant.
We waited until we were financially secure and bought our first house.
I was 25 so the age was right timing-wise for us. If you got married young, you may want to wait until your are older. How many children you possibly want can factor into when to start as well.
We waited until we were ready to focus on someone besides ourselves full-time.
Don't let anyone pressure you. No one knows what is right for your family but you. Our decision to have an only child gets questioned all of the time but we know that is right for us.
When you feel you are strong and secure as a couple as well as individuals and feel that you can totally change the focus of your life to revolve around another human being and his or her wants and needs, then you will be ready.
2007-06-06 08:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing would be to keep digging yourself out of debt, both finish schooling and work a bit to get ahead before bringing an added cost of raising a child into it. Don't you want to be able to provide all you can for a baby? If you do it now it would be very tough if your financially in the hole, and getting out of that hole would be nearly impossible. Just because friends are doing it don't feel pressured to follow, wait a couple years get your finances on track and then have a baby. Your friends will be still struggling to get by with all the costs of raising kids and you and your husband will be glad you waited till you were a little more money stable. Your husband has the right idea on this, and your marriage will be a little older by then and much stronger the longer your together.
2007-06-06 15:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you graduate and may be a little more than that. You would want to give your baby yoour very best and this may not be the right time.
A newborn baby needs a lot of attention and energy. You might be able to give that much. You don't have to be very wealthy to hve a bay but stable enough to provide easily for the baby without worries.
2007-06-06 17:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by fragnantrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you have graduated from school. A newborn takes so much time and energy that you may not finish school if you have a baby first. Personally, I was married at age 23 and had my first baby at age 26. We have four now. Unless you want a very large family, you have enough time.
2007-06-06 15:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by pennypincher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe there is no right time to have a baby. I don't believe you are ever ready til it happens! How many people are financially ready or emotionally ready to have a baby?? I'm 23 and pregnant and I also know lots of mom's and in reality life isn't perfect. The right time is when you think it's right.
2007-06-06 15:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 21 and waiting to find out if i am pregnant. i think that if you are emotionally and financially stable, then you should do what you think is best. i think personally that 21 or 22 is a great age to have kids.
2007-06-06 15:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think since your married its a good time you know but then again when you feel is right i would wait till graduation that way everything is settle and done you get me??well wat does it mater if your friends are doin it think about maybe your hi=usband is not really ready yet give him time
2007-06-06 15:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 and older
2007-06-06 15:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by I am woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish school and get established in your job first..you will thank yourself! you are still young, you have a lot of fertile time left.
2007-06-06 15:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋