My brothers wife drives me crazy!
She always does annoying things and I hate being around her.
Like, last week we went to her house for dinner and instead of sitting at a table and eating normal food- we sat on cushions ate fruit, cheese and watched spartan movies. SHE AND MY BROTHER WORE SHEETS OVER THIER CLOTHES.!! i hate it- everytime we go over we never have normal food! last time we ate with chopsticks and listened to japaneese music!
my mom and my brother think its cute. but i think it is so stupid. everything she does is pointless.
she goes to flea markets, buys old junky furniture and then paints it and uses it in thier house!
everytime she comes to an event at our family's house she talks to my grandad in GERMAN!
and she never wears jeans. she only wears skirts or dresses. even when it's raining!
she just- bugs me.
I'm nice to her face but i hate being around her.
I really thought my brother would have ended up with someone more normal
what do i do?
2007-06-06 07:57:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your reasons for not liking her are all extremely shallow. Not one reason has anything to do with her being a mean person.
You need to start looking at the kind of person she is inside and find ways to like her.
2007-06-06 08:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister-in-law is just different and likes to try different things. I am assuming you are young because you cannot see the fun in doing the things she does. Why not just eat a burger before you go and sample some of her food just to be nice. Different is not always bad but we can't all be the same. I think she is just making their life exciting. Why don't you invite her out to join you for dinner or shopping so you can get to know her better. Maybe even learn to speak a little German so you can impress your grandad. Spend some alone time with her you'll be surprised. Ask her why she likes to do all those things. Listen to her answer...ask her to let you help her plan a family dinner and make some suggestions of foods you like. Good Luck sweetie, be patient when you are older you'll understand.
2007-06-06 09:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could sit in a dark corner sulking and sucking your thumb and then throw your hair ribbons on the floor.
Or you could accept that your brother is married to a creative and loving woman and learn to appreciate your SIL.
I personally think there's something more than just your SIL bugging you - like somehow you feel threatened - like you're no longer everybody's princess - that you actually have to SHARE your parents and brother with someone else.
In other words, grow up honey.
If I were you I'd give my SIL a big hug, tell her that you're sorry for not truly accepting her into the family - and that from now on you're going to be much nicer to her. For real this time.
2007-06-06 08:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a really fun person, dinner at her house must be awsome! lol.
It sounds like you have a bad attitude,if you don't like to be around her and she bugs you then don't come near her, talk to someone else and if you don't like to come over for dinner then don't come (make an excuse), she's the way she is and there's nothing you can do about it, she sounds really "creative and different." If everyone was the same, how boring would the world be? You said you thought your brother was going to end up with someone normal...what is "normal" anyways ?
2007-06-06 08:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by m○○♥m○○ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, isn't it amazing how your brothers marriage didn't turn out to be about you!!!!!!!!!!!!
You should be grateful that you brother is happy. I do fear that if she was the opposite type of person you would be complaining that she spends too much of his money on fancy clothes and furniture and that every meal is the same or boring.
Simple solution, realize that people are different and if you don't like her dinner parties don't go.
I hate to say this but how they decorate their house is none of your business and the decide the type of entertaining that they do and you roll as an invited person is to accept or decline the invitation not complain about the event.
She may find you completely materialistic and a snob but probably has more class than to admit it.........
2007-06-06 08:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sam, I am in the same predicament as you. My husband's mother passed away when he was 6 years old, and 5 months later his father moved my husband and my sister in law down to where they live now. Two months later his father remarried the most insane woman you have ever met. The first time I met her she immediatley asked me if I was a virgin, if I was a gold digger, and if I was a christian. I was so flabbergasted by this. The woman is a complete bible thumper, who walks out of church and her christianity fails to remain with her when she leaves. I also have to grin and bare spending time with my in laws but I do it because I wouldnt have my husband if he werent raised by these people. My husband gives me rewards for having to deal with my mother in law, sad I know but its the only way I can be in the same room with her.
2016-05-18 02:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by loma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... Breathe. Next; figure out what is REALLY bothering you. Is it that she does all this different stuff to act more "sophisticated" than you, or it because she is just a curious person who likes to try unique and different things? Does your grandad speak German? lol. I'm assuming he does. Again, define it. Is it her actions or her attitude? (or the lack of edible american food making you cranky?) When you figure it out, First relax. Then, try and limit your contact with her. My in-laws HATE me. Everybody else in the entire world thinks I'm a great guy... but they despise me. (wrong religious denomination, wrong "style", wrong "outlook" on finances and life etc) so what do is try and limit contact. When I can't, I pretty much stay in a separate or least occupied room in the house, watching TV, or playing with my nieces and nephews. AND --- definitely eat b4 you goto anyone's house. Busy yourself with washing/rinsing dishes, cleaning up, playing with kids..WHATEVER you can to stay away from her. I wish I could tell you it'll get better...but it won't. You've just got to be more proactive.
Good LUCK!
2007-06-06 08:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Asking 1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the way she is. She wants to try different types of food. It is her home so she has the right to do whatever she pleases. Yuo dont have to go if you find it offensive. Perhaps you should be a little open to the variety of food out there.
Why are you so annoyed at her for not wanting to wear jeans? It is her choice to wear whatever makes her comfortable. Why can't you be more like her instead of putting her down all the time. There is nothing wrong for being different. I think it is refeshing. I applaud her for being the way she is. That is why your brotehr married her!
Perhaps if you actually try to enjoy yourself instead of being so negative, you might find be enjoying it.
2007-06-06 08:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You quit acting like a spoiled b@#$% and start enjoying the little bit of culture she brings to your pathetic little self-centered life. What a cow you are to get on here and complain about someone so creative and fun-loving just because you're so jealous you can't stand it. Grow up "princess"!
2007-06-06 09:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by KatB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very unique to me! In my opinion unique and different is interesting and she doesn't sound like a boring person at all.
If you hate her that much, stop being two-faced and just don't go over anymore.
2007-06-06 08:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by cuban_wahine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋