after being with my boyfriend for a year i have developed really strong feelings for him but i just want to spend more and more time with him... what the hell is wrong with the world? can't a girl love her baby purely and to the fullest no matter what?!!!!!
are we supposed to always play games? act aloof? or act like we don't need you guys when we actually do? why don't you guys like it when we are honest? i'm tired of games when i tell you guys what do i do you tell me i'm desperate tellin me how unattractive i am for being like that why?!
i don't understand why you guys don't want true, deep love, what is the harm? :(( i have been crying for ever i wish i could be a guy for at least a day or week to understand!
God life is judt so depressing!!!!
2007-06-06 07:47:04 · 6 answers · asked by Meow! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-06-06 07:48:18 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend more time together. Most of the time, some men use that as a excuse because they will want what they want. Try to find a person that wants to be in a relationship instead of wanting that one thing and that's it. If you get a man that will really get into a relationship, you have a person that you want for the rest of you life.
2007-06-06 07:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... to love someone is needy, clingy, insecure, developing lack of confidence, jealousy, fear of loss etc, because that's what love is. If you don't feel any of these, you do not love that person, either you are with that person for sex, or material needs. Thus, if you have those feelings for someone, there is nothing wrong with that, the only thing that is to be worried about is being over-obsessed, and/or any of these feelings has gone beyond the limits.
We are never supposed to play games, if things start as a game, it should stay like that for short time and the game must end and things move to serious. People pretend to be "strong/secure/confident........." by giving signals to partners like "I do not need you or you have to play my game or I am the ruler etc", when the true love exists, all of these things are senseless. Thus, you, if you really feel in love, even if he would dump you someday ( I would not believe he would, because guys would die for a true love, except for those who don't have any sense of love), do not regret it, there is nothing more valuable and priceless than feeling the true love, even if lasts for just a second.
Good luck.
2007-06-06 08:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Artan S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're confusing intensity with strength. Yes, your love for him is intense and pure and overwhelming, and there's no need to play games or act aloof or deny how you feel.
But it doesn't mean your love is strong or well-rounded or deep or long-lasting. Your love is bordering on obsession, and that's when it becomes unhealthy. Wanting to spend every single minute with him is sweet, but it IS needy and desperate... by giving him everything, you keep nothing for yourself, and you can't grow more love out of nothing, so eventually you will have nothing to offer him. You need to focus on developing yourself as a well-rounded person, and less on devoting yourself to him. Ultimately, a man wants a partner, not a slave, so you have to be the best YOU you are capable of, even if it means taking time away from him in the short-term.
If your love is truly strong, then it can easily handle distance and time and separation.
2007-06-06 08:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too much pressure to be the center of any-ones universe. Male or female. I want my husband to love me, but at the same time I want him to have other interests besides me. I have other interest beside him, it doesn't mean I don't love him, it just means I am secure enough in our relationship to let him have some space, just like he's good with me having my space. Life would be boring if all he was interested was me, what would we talk about?
2007-06-06 07:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love and neediness are two different things.
Love is where you care about the other person's happiness, and you do what you think will make him happy -- even if it means leaving him alone for awhile.
Neediness is where you want attention (for yourself) all of the time, and you don't care what he wants.
Love is about trying to make HIM happy; neediness is about trying to make YOURSELF happy. Two totally different things.
Try to strike some fair balance between his need for independence, and your need for attention, and you should do fine.
2007-06-06 07:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cuz if your literally being dragged by his feet. then thers somethign wrong with you. a guy doesn't want a girl that will get super clingy very fast because that makes him feel like shes too crazy about him and that he cant get out of it and that you will sooner or later demand all of his time and effort and he wants time to do what he wants
2007-06-06 07:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by AdrianAP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋