What is the appropriate age to lose your virginity?

Question

First off I'm only 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and we have been dating two months but I already like him soo much. He leaves at the end of August to go to boot camp for the Marines and I won't see him for 13 weeks. I have never had sex before and a lot of me really wants to with him but I don't know if I am too young. Some of the girls at my school have already have sex and my friends think of them as whores and I don't want to be known as one. By the way my boyfriend is a virgin too. HELP!

First off I'm only 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and we have been dating two months but I already like him soo much. He leaves at the end of August to go to boot camp for the Marines and I won't see him for 13 weeks. I have never had sex before and a lot of me really wants to with him but I don't know if I am too young. Some of the girls at my school have already have sex and my friends think of them as whores and I don't want to be known as one. By the way my boyfriend is a virgin too and he has said that he wants to but he will wait until I'm ready. He said he doesnt want to push me.

Answer 1

13 weeks is not long at all...you've already gone 16 and 17 years respectively anyway...and it's not like he's gonna "do it" with anyone else while he's gone.
If you decide to do it now, you'll wish that you hadn't once he's gone...you'll say to yourself "We could've waited", he'll be thinking the same thing too.

Plus, regardless of what anyone says on this board...AS LONG AS YOU ARE LIVING AS A MINOR CHILD UNDER THE ROOF OF YOUR PARENT/GUARDIAN you aren't ready...heck, you can't even take care of yourself, how can you possibly be ready to take on the ANY of the issues that can arise from the emotional and physical aspects of a sexual relationship.
What happens if you do this and he leaves you?
You think if he left you now you'd feel bad, if he left "with a little piece of you" you'd feel 1,000,000 time worse b/c you could have saved yourself for your "true love".

Answer 2

Its really great that he's being so supportive by not pushing you. Its a good sign that you're in a pretty strong relationship already, and that your boyfriend has as much self-respect and decency as you have as he himself is a virgin also.

But....pay no attention to those girls who are having sex already, its not a race!

I'd say, take your time, don't rush yourself. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19, and I've been with my fiance for almost 7 years. He was a virgin too, and he's the same age (well, 6 months older than me!)

We talked about sex before jumping right in, and actually found that it wasn't a big deal. What mattered more to us was being able to connect as people with a spark.

So, talk to your boyfriend about it, and see how he really feels about the whole thing. Take it one step at a time and only do what feels right.

You say your friends refer to the girls who are already having sexual relations as "whores," and personally I think that if their opinion of you was to drop that low on account of a decision you made after careful thought and consideration, then these people are not your friends. Friends respect and care for one another no matter what.

And, who said you had to tell any of them you were having sex anyway? When I started having sex with my boyfriend, we kept a promise which stuck-What goes on in the bedroom, stays in there. What goes on in our relationship, stays in it.

Only do what feels right to you-if it feels 100% right then it can't be wrong. If you're that confused over it though,or questioning it that much then it could be you're not ready yet. In that case, I'd talk to your boyfriend and let him know you'd rather wait 13 weeks until he comes back. If he's keen, he'll come straight back to you!

Remember though, for when you do have sex, make sure he wears protection-making a responsible, mature decision means taking responsible, mature precuations; be safe.

Answer 3

There is no set age limit as to when you should have sex, but if you're not sure about having sex then don't. If hes a virgin also then he won't pressure you into something that you're not ready for, and two months isn't a very long time to be with someone either so I say wait until you're sure and not you're hormones telling you that you're ready. And if you decide to cash in your v-card then just make sure that you use protection, protection , protection even though hes a virgin also cause you can never be too careful.

Answer 4

No there isn't. I know a pregnant 11 yr old girl. Sex really isn't a game. Are you a whore? A lot of ppl say marriage and yea thats the perfect time b.cuz ur partner wont care about experience! Plus knowing that u waited will make everything special. But thats just the majority of opinions. Others say relationship matters, like how long and how serious of a relationship ur in. im not gonna go on about STDs or pregnancy or watever cuz i no that ppl always just rebuttle with "condoms" n "pills" but really-nothing can protect u from heartache or getting hurt.

Answer 5

I think you should wait until your married.You said that you like him but you never said that you loved him.Which is fine because you've only been in a relationship with him for 2 months.What I'm saying is your first time should be special.You'll know when it's the right time.You asking if it's appropriate is telling me you might not be ready.Which is fine.I just don't want you to think that because he's leaving you should go ahead and have sex with him.Who knows it might be worth waiting.Take your time you have all the time in the world!

Answer 6

I did it for the first time when I was younger than you. I am 30 now and I wish I would have waited to do it for the first time with the girl I am with now. I can never give her that because I ruined it with someone else. Don't just do it to get it over with. You are not going to stay with this guy. Think about the long term.

Answer 7

If in doubt, don't do it. 16 is very young and a time of rapid change. Two months is a very short amount of time in thre grand scheme of things, and not long enough of a time to decide that you want to have sex with someone. Concentrate on growing personally, and don't complicate your life by having sex, especially with a boy who is going to be leaving. I can guarantee that you will regret it if you do have sex with this boy. Maybe not right away, but in future years you will regret it. Hold on to your virginity until you're 100% positive that you're ready to give it up.

Answer 8

when u get married

trust me on this one, once u loose it, u can never get it back!

and yes once uve done it, ppl look at u a different way, u dont want to do this, u will regret it, and when u actually do get married and your first time is not with him, then you will regret that too, but if you wait then you share that special moment with your husband, he will know that u are a loyal person and u respect yourself and he will love u even more because no one but him has touched u,

and about your boyfriend, if he loves you then he would wait too, and maybe he is the lucky guy who u will marry

about the ppl at school.. well if you do it, then you are just like them, y would you want to be a **** like them and have everyone touch u, it is so much hotter for a girl to be a virgin from a mans point of view, just be yourself and different, you will thank youself if you wait trust me

srry its so long but i hope it helped

God bless

Answer 9

everybody says o wait until you are married...okay....since that is the right thing to do i am not going to say that....i say when you find that special someone that you can actually share the same interest in and actually trust then go for it...but to not pressure it...if you have to ask when the right time is then you are not ready...patience is a virture and waiting until you are sure about the situation and yourself is much better....everyone makes mistakes and regrets things but you only learn from your mistakes....so basically it is your decision...

and about those girls that are called whores if they keep there mouth closed about what goes on in the privacy of their bedroom they would not have such names...i will be glad when females can keep their personal relatiionships in the mist of their own...

Answer 10

If you have to ask if you're too young, you're too young. Don't give up something that special just because every one else is doing it...they aren't. I didn't lose mine until I was sure I was responsible enough to handle the consequences that happen after you have sex. Be sure you're ready for them too before you make any decision.