please all you guys and girls answer! i'm about to commit suicide! :((?

Question

one day i met a great guy with the kindest and most beautiful eyes and heart, he did things for me no one else would i didn't realized it... after 6 months i realized that i wasn't being as nice as i was supposed to be but i did always love him tremendously,
i have tried to be the perfect girl (physically and emotionally) since then and we've been together for a year now yet i feel like the love in him is dying, just because he's sad and i can't figure out why... i want to help him but he tells me he's happy and in love even though his actions say otherwise , he's trying too hard to keep me happy that he doesn't realize my happiness will only come when HE's happy(even though i've told him), we are starting to drift apart and neither one of us know why, i need help we both do, we both are fighters help... please.. my heart is breaking and i'm tired of tears...i'm really depressed :(

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Answer 1

OK sweetie, suicide is the most selfish thing in the world you can do. Please please PLEASE call the suicide hotline and talk to a professional who can talk you thru this.
800-784-2433

Answer 2

Well, no to sound too harsh but apparently you don't really care too much about others in you life... Would they think this is a good idea ? What kind of example would you set for little sisiter or brother, or cousins ? What effect could this have on Mom or Dad ? Take the wuss way out and make the ultimate Romeo and Juliet statement. I don't think so. I'm not a real religious person, but if the great one exists, I believe he will throw issues at us designed to turn our spirits into hardened steel.

Another thing, how do you know this is the guy ? You don't. There is most likely, by all odds, another person looking upon you in a silmilar light. Please don't take it personal, but I can see by your photo here that you don't really have a lot of experience in the dating world as you could possible have down the road. Can't really say opps! Do over! after the fact. We all have things to learn in life and no one said this was easy. Relationships are difficult, we all have ups and downs and at different times. We can't be happy all the time... right ?

Get to know more people out there. One thing that suprised me as I got older is the number of different personalities out there. You will find worse, you will find better. I guess the famous quote, "let it go. If it never returns it was never meant to be." or something like that applies here. Please... experience life. Take pleasure in the good and the bad. This is how character is developed.

For one, I am glad to know you are on the same journey as I. It should be comforting to you to know you are not going through life alone, others have experienced the exact same thing. It is self-centered to think otherwise.

Good luck in life to you. :) And smile!

Answer 3

Life is about ups and downs. If you two were happy all the time, then you would not be in the real world.

Try to work thru things. Look at the positives. Some people have a guilt complex, and do not want to be happy. He could have depression and needs to see a professional.

There is nothing wrong with struggles or problems in a relationship. This is the real world, not some Hollywood chick flick.

Answer 4

Don't try to be the perfect girl, be yourself, I've done the same thing before, and without realizing it, you'll ruin the relationship if you act like anything but your self. If you aren't happy when you are yourself, the nmaybe you weren't meant to be, and you'll find someone else that fits who you really are. But in the mean time, tell him exactly how you feel, go on a mini vacation (like just rent a hotel for a weekend) and be yourself, don't hold back and worry about anything, just have fun. But sometimes you have to let someone you love go, if its just not working out any longer, it may not seem like it now, but it will be worth it in the long run. The familiarity may be all that's keeping you together. Good Luck

Answer 5

The two of U need to really sit down and tell each other what's really going on and how U feel. If U both love each other then you can make things work. All relationships go through their ups and downs so maybe right now ur just on the down side, but things will look up. You didn't say anything that has caused this specifically so my opinion you can work it out. Find the root of the problem and solve it.

Answer 6

How old are you? I know you love him but maybe you guys were meant for each other to learn from not to live happily ever after. I no it sounds bad but it gets easier with time. If you are just growing apart try finding a Hobby or sport you both really enjoy (don't try to convince yourself it will be fun because he wants to do it) and start doing that Hobby or sport together. It will give you a lot to talk about. Maybe try new things together (ie go take a rock climbing class or any fun class at your local college) best of luck.

Answer 7

Suicide is not the answer. Guys and boyfriends come and go. Believe me, if he loves you as much as you do he will stay with you. You can try to fight for the relationship, but if its going sour, then you should end it before you come out of it with a lot of pain. and again, Suicide is not an option. Speak to a friend or a family member about it so that you can feel better, but please don't let some guy bring you down. Men come and go. Just relax and left life takes its turn, don't cry for someone that isn't from your family. Live your life and you'll see you'll find someone better. Believe in yourself!!

Answer 8

first, you shouldn't joke about committing suicide!

second, how old are you?

third, have you sat down and REALLY talked with him? or are you just going by gut? because if you haven't talked to him yet about what's bothering you how is he suppose to know?

my impression is perhaps you are still a bit young and you haven't grown into yourself enough to realize that if he isn't happy, and he does want to leave, there is nothing you can do about it and you are enough of an individual to go on. it's okay to love someone and have someone in your life... but you have to be secure enough within yourself to know that life doesn't begin and end with someone else! we have all been there and lost someone we thought we would be with for the rest of our lives! if you do end up breaking up, just remember after a while of hurt and pain life does go on.

my last bit of advice is maybe find out if perhaps he has a personal issue he is dealing with that he isn't telling you about. if that's the case help him work it out and maybe that will help you two grow closer together!

Answer 9

I really hope you are not going to end your life over someone else. That is sadder and more depressing than the situation you just described.

Loves come and go, but they are what shape who we are. Think back to your life before you met this man. Now, picture yourself out of this relationship, 10 years down the line. If you can't picture yourself anywhere at all, FORCE YOURSELF to. It's proof that you will live on after it's over.

The right person is out there for you. First loves usually take their toll and hurt once they're over, but you will survive.

Answer 10

whoa...you look like a hottie...well how should i start....a guy(or girl) no matter how much you love them, is not worth your life. so you should try to get that suicide idea out of your head, cuz i bet that there are many guys that are the same if not better than the one u r dating...so start by getting that suicide idea out of your head....he's not worth it

secondly, it sounds like you might need some time apart....sometimes a couple needs to take some time off, to really find out how much they need each other...once you take some time off, you can decide whether you still need each other alot, or whether it was kinda of a crush, and you have no feelings for each other no more......

lastly, and i dont wanna break your heart, but you know like they say "the truth hurts" ..one posibility is that he's seeing someone else, and thats why he feels sad, cuz he knows hes doing wrong....

hopefully you can work things out, n if u need someone to talk to...just give me a holla...

Answer 11

If you were a fighter, you wouldn't end your life. That is a sign of weakness. Communication is key. Find out what is making you both happy or unhappy and fix it. If you don't talk about it, nothing will be solved.

PS don't kill yourself over a guy. You can work it out if you try hard enough.

PS again--your pic is adorable. I hope it works out for you two.