Hi, I have been dating my current girlfreind off and on for about a year and right now this is our 6th month straight and im starting to get bored.
i care about her and i don't want to hurt her i don't know what to do. I don't get to see her as often as i like and i've tried to get her parents to loosen up (im 18 shes 17) so we could see each other more but that looks like a no go. I know it would hurt her if we broke up but i really care, I feel like im stuck between being in a relationship that i would have no fun in and losing someone I care about
2007-06-06 07:21:11 · 18 answers · asked by justin_digitaldevil07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
break up again- it's one of those "off" times. An 18 year old guy should be out having fun, not tied down in high school.
2007-06-06 07:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been dating off and on. Obviously, something keeps bringing you back to her. What is it? What is it about her that's so inexplicably appealing?
Think of that and remember it when you are together. Try to remember what made the relationship fun when you first got together, or even before that.
And if it seems you often get bored this quickly, or you have never lasted this long to know, I've got news for you--6 months of dating will never be quite the same as the first few weeks. The initial thrill will be gone. But if you still think there is something worth salvaging in this relationship, stick it out. You won't have this much trouble seeing her forever, will you?
Please e-mail me. I'd like to know what exactly is boring you so I can offer better advice on what to do. I have been through an 8-month relationship once, and thinking about what worked in that may not only help you, but it may help me revive my 2-month relationship.
2007-06-06 14:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 18. You're basically still a kid. Don't worry about whether or not it will hurt her. I know that that sounds harsh, but if you're feeling bored now it's only gonna get worse. End things now before she has even more time to develop deeper feelings for you. And you don't have to lose her. There is friendship after dating. One of my best friends is a guy that I dated for 5 years. We were even engaged. It didn't work out, but we care about each other which made it easy to stay friends. Don't worry so much. Things have a way of working themselves out.
2007-06-06 14:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll see her a lot less than you already do, if you end things.
If her parents are going to quit acting like lunatics (ONE f***ing year difference and they're acting like that?) once she's 18, then I'd say wait out whatever time is left, although if they 're not going to let her live her own life even then, I think it'll be a worse problem because you two will never know when they're finally going to leave her be.
2007-06-06 14:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur getting bored .....that isnt the right relationship you should be in. that spark isn't there. You need to break up with her...i know it'll be hard..and you probably dont want to, but it's the right thing to do....talk to her...tell her..that the relationship isn't gettin any better..and that it's not as exciting as it used to be...tell her u still really care about her...tell her u really do still love her..but if she really cares about u...she'll let you go and she'll b happy if ur happy. Tell her you still want to b close friends. Good luck....i know it'll be hard..but dont give up! <3
2007-06-06 14:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by izzyapark31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bored in any relationship, its time to call it quits....because its only a matter of time before cheating works its way onto the table. 18-26years of age are suppossed to be the best years of your life to go out, have fun, have new experiences. Don't waste them dude.
2007-06-06 14:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Julie W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to break it off if you are not happy. Don't waste the years you are supposed to be having fun because you will only hate her for it in the long run like she held you back. You will end up resenting her.
2007-06-06 14:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young, and if you break up with her, you both will have the opportunity to find other people and be happy. If you are that bored with the relationship, than there is better things out there, and she will always find someone else!
2007-06-06 14:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, if there's restrictions concerning age, then there's no point, dude. you're sort of legal, and she's currently not. you're probably going off to college soon, which is a good time to find new people, maybe find a new girlfriend. experiment, don't limit yourself... bottom line, have FUN!
2007-06-06 14:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by dBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you wanna stay with your girlfriend, then split your time up between her and your friends. if she really care bout you then she will understand and let you have the fun you wanna have. thats the big thing in my relationship-were both young (only 19) and i let my b/f know that its ok for him to go out and have fun with his friends, and do things he hasnt gotten to experience yet because we are young. but if you feel like she is holding you down, then dont let her. you dont wanna loose your youth to her. its really up to you!
2007-06-06 14:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by betsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋