Hi Im 15 and my girlfriend keeps on going on asking when we are going to have sex. I don't feel ready and want to wait with her but also really dont want to upset her. We have been together nearly 8 months now and really close but I don't know what to say. What should I do?
2007-06-06 07:14:45 · 34 answers · asked by simon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not ready to have sex, then don't. You should sit down, have a conversation with her and both of you need to see eye to eye. If she does not care enough to respect your wishes, then maybe she is not the one.
2007-06-06 07:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at 15 and I wish I had waited. I let my boyfriend pressure me into it and I regret it every day.
You need to let her know how you feel and if she loves you and cares about you, she will wait until you are ready. There is no need to rush this. You have your whole life ahead of you and I know you've probably heard this before, but Im only 21 and it didnt take me long to realize that the people who told me the same thing were right.
Your virginity is a very special thing and the time and place need to be just right. Not in some classroom or in the back of a van or any other place where you have to sneak around. When the right time comes, you'll know.
2007-06-06 07:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by lanaii_the_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't by any means rush into sex especially if you are feeling pressured. If you are not ready for sex then expain that to her. Tell her that you like/love her and you think she is beautiful and attractive but you are ready for sex. There is a good chance she might break up with you and if this is the case, you can do better than her. In a relationship there should be respect for each each other. If she can't wait until you are ready then she has no respect for you and/or your wishes. When you decide you are ready for sex, you will know because it will feel right physically and emotionally. Good Luck
2007-06-06 07:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not ready to have sex tell her so, if she really cares about you she will understand. If not, her loss obviously she didn't care that much about you in the first place and you are better off without her. You are only 15 and there is no need to rush into things. Sex is something that is best when both individuals are ready and in love. Don't rush respect yourself and others will respect you!
2007-06-06 07:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles_65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT! you have sooo much time before you need to make that decision. and no offense 8 months isn't very long to know if you wanna do that yet. To be honest you shouldn't have sex until you are ready and if she doesn't respect that than she is only after one thing. but I can't tell you what to do, but you need to be very careful cause having a kid at 15 is harder than hard.
2007-06-06 07:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by lbitsports 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simon, you may not like this bit, but girls mature faster than boys and like to think they are grown up women. I think you are a strong in holding back from her demands. At 15 you are still a little bit young to enter the world of such a responsibility, but you are strong enought to ask for help, so that gives me a sence that you have your head screwed on the right way, congratulations to you and your parents. Talk to your girlfriend and explain your reasons for not wanting to have sex with her. If your relationship is strong and you put it in the best way possible, it is with hope that she will understand. Good luck Simon
2007-06-06 07:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a desire as well as a way to express your love. Thats the reason the ones who are is regular sex life have a stronger emotional bonding. So one or the other day you'll have to do it.. If not ready atleast estimate by what time you will be ready and let her know it..This will surely help you out.
2007-06-06 07:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anmol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That tells me you wont be her first... be careful- thats a big decision. Im proud of you for being strong.. If you were to have an accident being a parent at 15 would be a big thing!!
Id explain to her that you arent in the relationship for that. Or maybe that you want to wait till you get older though she may not understand, just be the stronger person.
2007-06-06 07:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. You dont want to. If she is upset by this then she will have to deal with it. Its your right to choose what you do with your own body. If she cannot respect this then she definitely doesn't sound like someone you should be sharing a bed with. Hold your head up high and dont allow anyone to pressure you into sex.
2007-06-06 08:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell her that you aren't ready. If she really cares about you then she will respect your wishes. If she gets angry then obviously she is not as nice as you think she is. Anyone who pressures you to do something that you are not ready to do ONLY CARES ABOUT THEMSELF. Not to mention the fact that you guys are only 15. What's the rush? Sex complicates things, especially when you are that young. Continue to hold out. If she doesn't respect your decision, then cut her loose. You deserve better.
2007-06-06 07:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋