my son bites me sometimes and sometimes it really hurts. I tell him no in a really stern voice and lately I have smacked him in the mouth very lightly. When he bites me he thinks it's funny. I'm beginning to wonder if someone has taught him how to do that. What should I do to get him to quit biting me and other people?
2007-06-06 06:24:31 · 16 answers · asked by a_bai04 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
my son is not teething!
2007-06-06 06:31:15 · update #1
AWw so painfully cute..They found the power of teeth.. He is bitting you because of one your reacton..As well as this is completely normal for them to do this..But if you start the hitting and saying no he will become a hitter too..It is an easy out to react on compulshion and pain.. But as well as do not bit him back..This does not teach the child anything..And he will contiune doing it..First off remember they are new to the world and he is in the world of EXPLORATION Infants and toddlers learn by touching, smelling, hearing, and tasting. If you give an infant a toy, one of the first places it goes to is the mouth. Tasting or "mouthing" things is something that all children do. Children this age do not always understand the difference between gnawing on a toy and biting someone.
CAUSE AND EFFECT - Around the age of 12 months, infants become interested in finding out what happens when they do something. When they bang a spoon on the table, they discover that it makes a loud sound. When they drop a toy from their crib, they discover that it falls. They may also discover that when they bite someone, they get a loud scream of protest!
ATTENTION - Older toddlers may sometimes bite to get attention. When children are in situations where they are not receiving enough positive attention and daily interaction, they often find a way to make others sit up and take notice. Being ignored is not fun. Biting is a quick way
to become the center of attention - even if it is negative attention.
Some times its a signal to you they are tired, hungry,or just want to play..you need to see if it is at the same time of day if not then it is he wants to play and again loves your reaction..He does not understand anger or the emotions.It is just funny.. then it is he wants to play..
My daughter did this along with tones of children I watched..The best thing and sometimes it is groowling to the parent are caregiver..You remain Firm and consistnet and Simple.Toddlers do not have an ablity to understand long drawn out explanations..Simple and frim...
NO BITE..That hurts..
No Bite..Teeth is for Food only..
Take him away from the area and go play..
Here is a link to some of the above mentioned things I said..
2007-06-06 07:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not bite him back! this just reinforces the behavior!
My son went through a hitting phase (only with me) when he was about that age, and I would give him a firm "no hitting" and actually put him across the room. Tell him "mommy doesn't like when you bite" and walk away.
Occupy his mouth with chewies or teething rings as well.
Good Luck - biting is tough!
2007-06-06 13:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Melly Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the smacking's gotta go- he will start doing this to YOU soon. monkey see, monkey do. Give him time outs, really. When he bites, say NO firmly, then set him in his crib or play yard for 2-3 minutes, walk away. it takes time and patience and consistency, but if you keep doing this, he will stop biting because he knows biting means playtime stops and Mommy goes away. i know your frustration, my 15 month old does it too, but it has been decreasing in frequency since we started the time outs.
And the biting back thing- TOTAL CHILD ABUSE. Think about it- if you wouldn't do it in the middle of the grocery store for fear someone will call the cops on you, you shouldn't do it at home eaither. Not saying all the biters are hard core child abusers, but I find it totally inappropriate and cruel- and you WOULD be in trouble for it should someone find out.
2007-06-06 13:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by magy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter bit me last week - she is 13 1/2 months. It suprised me and it hurt and I yelled "OWW - NO BITE" a little louder than I should. I scared her - because she started crying. That was the first time I ever yelled at her. Anyway - when she is tired, she'll come up to me and start to put her mouth to my knee and before she does anything I'll gently say "no biting" and she stops. I was upset with myself that I yelled at her the 1st time, but apparently it worked because she stops in her tracks when I gently say - no biting!
2007-06-06 13:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have heard that biting the child back has worked. I have three boys, but none went through that stage. If he is laughing though, he has had someone laugh at his new deal. Stay strong and stern with him. It's more than likely a phase.
He may be teething....
Good luck.
2007-06-06 13:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a stage every toddler goes through. When he bites, swiftly tell him "NO BITING" and remove him from the situation--if it's you he's bitten then put him away from you. If it's another child he's bitten after you remove your son then go to the child that was bitten and comfort them-and let your son see you doing that.
2007-06-06 13:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with 2 of my children. I really don't think they understand how much it hurts the other person when they bite. I actually had to bite them to make them understand how painful it was. Please don't think I left marks, but I did bite just enough to make them understand what they were doing. And I only had to do it once....they never bit again.
2007-06-06 13:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by amanda r 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have experience with children, and i would say that your one-year-old is teething! If he bites you, you should give him something else to chew on, like one of those chewy rings that you can freeze. He is biting because it is very painful to be teething, so there is nothing to worry about, really.
2007-06-06 13:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by FTW! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's doing it to get a reaction out of you that he thinks is funny! bite him back hard but not too hard.... just enough to show him that it hurts! i did it to my son and he hasnt bitten since!
2007-06-06 15:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by jk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase. just keep being firm. it will eventually stop
but no smacking in the mouth pleas. you're joking about that right? never hit a kid.
LOTS of kids go through this phase.
people who have kids will understand that it's not your fault. their kids probably did it too.
2007-06-06 13:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋