My questions are simple. Why do the good females go for the loser guys that treat them like trash? Why is it hard for females to trust you around the mother of your child? Why do females not want you to bring up what they did in the past, but continue to do it themselves?
2007-06-06 05:41:53 · 12 answers · asked by slbeezie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, in the first case it's low selfesteem or that they care more about looks than personality. second question- women are jealous and territorial. if you have a child with someone there's and unbreakable bond there we can find threatening. lastly, we're just plain crazy. surely you've already figured that one out for yourself by now!
2007-06-06 05:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I am a female myself I can honestly say that we are some stubborn b**ch's. Okay. Unlike me, these nice gurls that don't know what to do with themselves always go for the loser guys cause of the fact that the b**chy trashed out gurls are attracted to those kind. The nice gurls always wanna fit in. I don't understand it but that's them. I'm the type that has to be herself.
It's hard for us to trust you when around your baby mom cause obviously yall had a thing together and we don't know if you would do us dirty just to go back with the mom. I think that no matter who you with, it will always come up. That will never change.
Females are very sensitive. It hurts us to remember what we've been through. The reason why we bring up your past is because we want to know what really happened. We are not afraid to tell you our past. We tell you once and then that's the only time that you'll ever hear about it. We also wanna see how you react to your past.
Girls are very complicated and basically you just have to go along with it. Sorry to say that all girls have a certain way of being and you will always have to figure it out.
2007-06-06 12:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, each of your questions should have included the word "some" because by far the majority of the 3+ billion females on this planet don't behave as you describe, and you just put a big ol' blanket over all of us.
Females and losers: The losers have more confidence and are the ones who ask them out...if the "nice guys" would get some cohones and step up to the plate more often, they'd 'get the girl' sometimes too. Most girls don't realize they're with a jerk until they've been with him a while, but some have the screwed up idea that dating anyone is better than being single, so they stick it out...or try to change him.
Trust: Insecurity due to knowing you had sex with that person in the past and now you've got the lifelong bond of a child. Insecurity isn't a good quality in a partner, but it can be tough to know your man (or woman) is frequently seeing their ex due to child issues. Many of us have heard stories of exes getting back together.
Past? Each person has their own rules about that I guess. My advice to you is if someone doesn't care to discuss their past with you, remind them of that when they ask about yours. Some past issues are valuable to a relationship, but if it's a judging contest (like "how many partners") then it's a poor subject to broach. Don't ask questions about a persons past for the sole reason of judging them. They may be a VERY different person now than back then.
2007-06-06 12:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We don't intentionally pick losers, we just see traits that others RARELY see. The trust around the mother of your child...the general is no one (male or female) will trust you around someone you've already slept with. Bringing up the past...our wrongs in the past normally pale in comparison to the wrongs we think you've done.
2007-06-06 12:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by shesher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a girl thinks she is stuck there cause she cant do better. And will settle for less because she has a self esteem problem and doesn't know that there is better out there. Most guy know this a take advantage of it. And as for the past thing eather one they are ashamed of it or they want you to know of it but not talk about it
2007-06-06 12:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by littlecowgrl26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 I don't go for losers. My husband is a wonderful man. Loving to me and our child. Hard-working. Giving.
#2 Not sure what you mean by this one.
#3 Because men don't know when or to whom it is ok to talk about "the past". So we'd prefer you leave it up to us to decide when we talk about "OUR past".
2007-06-06 12:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by manybagolike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this... girls tend to be attracted to thier fathers. Not in actuality but metiphorically. If the father treated her mother like crap, then more then likely she will be attracted to those type of men. It's what they grew up knowing.
2007-06-06 12:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ashie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
COS WE MOVE ON and accept what we did...and love conquers all so if he treats us like trash we wouldn be with him
2007-06-06 12:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
CUZ MOST OF DA TIME DER GOOD LOOKING AND WE GET CARRIED AWAY WITH DA LOOKS...BUT MOST OF DA TIME DA GOOD LOOKIN ONES THINK OH IF SHE MESSSES UP IM MOVING ON...EITHER WAY I COULD JUST GET SUMONE BETTER SINCE IM GOOD LOOKIN..SO DEY TREAT ALL OF US LIKE SH1T
2007-06-06 12:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that.. is one good question. i guess we girls are attracted to bad boys. its not our fault. its just the way things are
2007-06-06 12:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by meeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋