He rarely puts much into it and we only do it like once a week. We have been together for 3 1/2 years now, and in the beginning we had sex as much as we could. I always want it and he is like i am sick or I am tired. Is it me, do i not attract him enough>? Or is he just lazy? He is a very lazy person though, that's a fact.
2007-06-06 05:35:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think for one he should get his head examined...intamacy passion romance is a very important part of a relationship. If you love someone that much its a way to express those feelings toward the one you love....and 3 years together he should want to keep the flame alive and romantic.
Talk to him if hes not into you like that then maybe hes not the one.
2007-06-06 05:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a big question. There may be many factors. One thing to remember though is that it is not you it is him, and how he is feeling but it is not a blame thing. At the beginning of the relationship you were both on a high so things were different and now it has settled down. Peoples sex drives are different and his may not be the same as yours.Also you say that he is lazy. Could it be that he is depressed? This would affect his sex drive, as would other factors in your lives. You would benefit from exploring this with some outside help if possible as sometimes you can be too close to the problem to see it objectively. Good luck lol x
2007-06-06 12:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Yoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the luckiest guy in the world and he's either too dumb to notice or too lazy to take advantage of it! Move on. 3-1/2 years with a jerk is long enough for anyone. You'll have no trouble finding a guy who really appreciates your high libido. I sure as hell would!
Best of luck.
2007-06-06 12:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by crow3862000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can assure you that it is not you.
So that leaves him.
Here are the possibilities:
1. He's gay (how does he dress?)
2. He's got another girl.(spending time & money differently?)
3. He's a slug (dump him)
4. He's depressed (get him to a doctor)
5. He's got a drug / alcohol problem (see 4) - and what's his family like and who are his friends? Big clues there.
2007-06-06 13:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lorenzo Steed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this honey but... a lot of guys have low sex drives with their girlfriends/wives when they are getting sex some where else.
2007-06-06 12:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Operator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the thrill is gone.....nothing personal against you, its just that when we have something all the time, we get bored with it or dont want it anymore. Back off for awhile and he will wonder what's going on...........psychologically, he will want you because he thinks you dont want him..............
2007-06-06 12:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are both of you? could also mean he is seeing someone else. if he is older than 30 then his sex drive might drop.
2007-06-06 12:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shockingly enough... some men dont want alot of sex maybe he one of them
2007-06-06 12:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ashie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His testosterone levels could be very very low...
2007-06-06 12:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋