How can you truly get over an ex, when you still love them and they are over you?

Question

I'm still in love with my ex-fiancee and he doesn't love me anymore. He is still single and tells me that I'm very special to him, but he doesn't love me. I need to get over him in order to find someone else. But, it's not easy and I truly believe that he is my soulmate. Help!!

Answer 1

well first off , you wont get over him by communicating with him. You are still holding on to a false hope b/c he isn't with anyone that the two of you might still work it out somehow. It may take the slap in the face of watching him marry someone else to wake you up. Put distance between the two of you. You have no idea how lucky you are. Its so much harder when you have kids together and can not put that distance there.

Answer 2

I hate to break this too you girl but... sometimes the men that are in our lives aren't the "soulmates" that we think they are. If your ex fiance doesn't love you anymore, you have to let him go. Once you do that, you will see that there are many more men out there for you to meet and your soulmate will be right infront of you. Also... hey... this man may be your soulmate and HE may not know it. Maybe he just needs some time. But... in the mean time... get a hobby. Take a class at a local Community College. Do something to get your mind off of your ex. Good luck girl. I know how you feel. I dated a man that I thought was my soulmate and I found out later that he cheated on me and got married and later made me his mistress without me knowing. Now... I am engaged to a man that I was friends with for 6 years before we even started dating. We are getting married in August of this year. Good luck girl.

Answer 3

This happened to me, and your gonna miss him for a while, and think your never get over him. But why did you break up in the first place? If you fight a lot, then there is someone out there for you who you will get along with and love more than you did him. If he simply doesnt love you anymore, then you have to try your hardest to forget, and move on. And once your sure you can't be in love ever again, put yourself out there! Try different ways of meeting people, weather through friends, online, clubs, or whatever works for you. Put on your hottest outfit, and invite your girlfriends to go to a club or singles meeting with you. Your not desperate, just looking. So I hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 4

It will take time the best advise ever given to me and I was surprised when it worked is this. When a man leaves or breaks up with you they expect the water works and the neediness etc. you get the picture the trick is let them BELIEVE that your fine with out them. You didn't need him Men are attracted to strong confident women not the weak clingy kind so be strong buck up you may be surprised when he comes a knocking on your door again. Extra pointers don't call or go buy to see him go out with guy friends don't approach him in public let him do all the work. Don't be afraid to look him straight in the eye and smile that smile that says I don't need you. If he doesn't come back after awhile you will see that its not an act anymore you are over him. Good Luck

Answer 5

First you need to stop talking to him at all right now, at least until you get this resolved. You should concentrate on you. Go get a makeover, buy a new outfit, or just do things that make you feel good about yourself. Getting over someone takes time and it is ok to mourn the loss for a brief time, but after a certain point you need to make the choice to get up everyday and move forward with your life. You don't need him or any other man to tell you that you are special. You can do that for yourself.

Answer 6

wow, i truly feel you on this one. I think its very hard to let go of the person you truly love, but you must try to really grasp the fact that he no longer loves you. that should be enough motivation for you to work even harder in trying to get over him. Here is what I have done in the past and it helps a bit. It takes time and you must loose touch with him completely.
1. Take care of yourself. examples: change the hair color or cut, get a man and ped, buy a cute outfit.
2. Spend time with friends and family.
3. Be positive, smile all the time. (they say that when you smile, even when you are upset, it will change your mood).
4. Take a class or join a club.
5. Date, date and date.
6. Enjoy life! find other things to do that will keep you entertained.

Answer 7

an ended relationship is always hard, it always will be and sometimes you just wont get over that person.. what i had to o was get rid of everything that meant something to me, or at least stash it away.. closure it most important in at the end of a relation ship, some people would rather just not see the person ever again.. i never had closure with my last relationship, sometimes it bugs me but at the same time, if he doesn't love you, its not worth hanging on.. forget about it! (easier said than done, i know!).. go out with some friends, take a trip, have some fun but dont go crazy thinking about it, you will never get over it if u think too much abt it.. good luck

Answer 8

Soulmate.
If he was a true soulmate, both of you would have that "magnetic charge" of inseparability that describes soulmate.
But it's not.
You subconsciously latched on to something unique about him that's akin to family likeness or a value. Well, that likeness or value became a false dream.
Re-examine your feelings and be brutally honest with yourself. Had you discovered your soulmate wasn't for real after you're both married, you would have had a poor relationship.

Answer 9

Soulmates are rarely lovers/life partners so if he is one of your soulmates it doesn't mean you two are a good romantic match.

It's your choice to move on or not...are you really still hung up on him or the relationship you wish you had with him? By clinging to something that's over, you are only hurting yourself and missing out on other opportunities.

Make up your mind to let go and focus on the future...then do it. Good luck! ☺

Answer 10

It takes time and you just need to realize that he is an Ex for a reason.......I am an Ex with the love of my life for a reason and it took forever to get over him but in time you will and when it happens you will be very grateful and wonder what took you so long to realize you were not really meant to be! It is hard to see from your eyes but there is a reason! Trust me........