she chopped of my hair?

Question

my friend is a hairdresser and i really needed a cut and asked her to cut it to about 3 inches BELOW my shoulders ( it was right down my back. well long) but she cut it up to my jaw. i cried sooooo much. she said i was being silly and vain and she just misunderstood what i wanted.we had a HUGE row. do you think she was being nasty and jealous and i shouldnt forgive her or am i being to vain and should i forgive her?

Answer 1

This is what I absolutly HATE about hairdressers. They always think they know better when it comes to your hair. I am sure she is well aware of what you asked for...I'm sure as you were telling her you would have indicated with your hand as well, its instinctive and really she should have double checked she knew what she was doing before she started.

I once went to get my hair cut to shoulder length with a few layers put in and ended up with quite literally a boys haircut it was so short!

If she is a good friend you should forgive her, but she should also apologise to you. You are not silly and vain, its very distressing when something like this happens and can make you feel really self consious if you really hate it.

Answer 2

Hi, Weather its your friend or not she is a hairdresser and half the time they dont listen to what you say anyways. I have had many disaster when I have said dont take anything off the length and its ended up by my ears. Im sure hairdressers are only tought one way to to one thing an not other.
I know with normal hairdressers I just let them do the job, but if it was my mate and I could clearly see she was cutting it a bit to short I would of said " Dont cut it too short," or "Dont you think your cutting too much off " as she was cutting it.

You just angry that she cut too much of you long hair, but I cant understand how she could misunderstand you. It seems she has ballsed it up and had to cut it that short to cover her mistake. I think you should forgive her after all she is a mate just dont let her do it again. I would of asked her how she could misunderstand below shoulder length when she then goes and cuts it too your chin. You will laugh about it now, but when long hair that has taken a lot of growing ids concerened i wouldnt be happy.

You not vein though, you will just need time to get use to your new hair do.

Answer 3

Yes, you should ultimately forgive her for the cut, she is your friend and she made a horrible mistake. But...you had every right to be so upset! It sounds like she cut off around 9 inches to a foot of your hair! I've never known a stylist who didn't check and triple check to see if that dramatic of a change is what you REALLY wanted before they began. I would have cried too. Hair takes a long time to grow out, and like it or not, is a big part of our identity!

But what really makes me mad is her reaction to her mistake....that instead of crying with you, she belittled you by calling you silly and vain to take the heat off herself! That's horrible, and I see why you got into a fight with her. As a stylist, she should know better. She should have felt terrible and apologized profusely! (Unless she did, and you kept picking at her for a month, in which case she may have just lost it at some point.)

I hope your friendship is salvaged, but if it happened as you say it did, she needs to change her attitude...I sure wouldn't want to end up in her chair at the salon. Hope you're used to your hair now. Something similar (not so drastic) happened to me, and I ended up loving it. Thank god.

Answer 4

Seems like a pretty big misunderstanding. I can't say if it was on purpose or if you should forgive her, but I do know that it is ok to be upset over your hair. Especially such a drastic difference. Nothing about that makes you vain. However, don't let it bother you too much. Forget that it's not what you wanted. And spend your days learning how to dress it up. I used to have my hair cut that way. It can be veery sexy! Enjoy it.

Answer 5

aww darlin thats such ashame.x
i got my hair cut too short & i cried.x
I'm sure she didn't mean it on purpose.x
first of all think to yourself about her personality type.x
is she the kind of friend that would do this??.x
calmly explain to her that your hair reflects your personality & if its not the way you want it then you feel you don't look right.x
make her know that you don't blame her.x
if your close friends surely shes had a bad haircut that she was upset about.x
if so then bring that up & explain you felt the same.x
why don't you buy extensions too if you seriously want it changed.x
maybe you should just point next time & say that i want it cut up to here.x
good luck x x x

Answer 6

unfortunately not a lot just let it grow back but dont let her cut it again no youre not being silly or vain as for forgiving her that is your decision

Answer 7

you told her what you wanted and if she didn't listen or understand then i think it was unprofessional of her.
I don't think you are being vain my hair means a lot 2 me if someone cut it wrong I'd be furious. but i do think you should try and talk to her and explain how you felt/feel

Answer 8

You should me mad. I went to a hairdressers years ago and the same thing happened to me....i haven't been back since to any hairdressers...I can't understand how someone can mis understand the simplest of instructions.

Answer 9

People always do the opposite of whay I ask hair grows back but maybe your friend is an idiot so you may need to get rid

Answer 10

heya
i know hair is a precious thing to us girls but friends are even more previous. maybe she thought you said 3 inchs, i don't know but the point is if she's a good friend you will regret it if you don't forgive her and it will probably be too late then.