alright so i had this girlfriend... everyone told me she could do so much better than me but i didn't think she could.
we broke up a bit ago and i'm starting to see what people were saying.
shes:
funny
smart
hot as he.ll
great personality
always makes people laught, even when she's in a bad mood.
takes care of everyone she cares about
very independent
very outgoing
always tries to help
i guess i didn't realize how good she was til she was gone.
the problem is i dumped her and i've started dating a new girl. and she's so got this thing for a guy who, i'm not ashamed to admit, is better than me.
he has a great job, new car, very caring, anytime she's needed him whether we were together or not he'd come help her.
i guess i'm feeling that i lost a good thing... how can i make sure i made the right choice by dumping her?
2007-06-06 05:04:04 · 26 answers · asked by True_Blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it urks me that everyone is telling her she could do better. i mean even people i thought were my friends are like dude adam, natasha could do better than you... she was all for you and did everything you wanted... and you aren't that great... think how awesome she'll be to someone better than you.
why would they tell me this shi.t... i don't wanna hear how bad of a boyfriend i was.
2007-06-06 05:10:01 · update #1
why i dumped her?
good questions. i thought i knew the answer to it too but i guess it was all rumours.
i kept hearing **** from other people about her and i got so tired of it that i dumped her.... later to find out all of the rumours were false... yea, makes me look so great huh?
she's been nothing but faithful to me. i guess she was too there. i mean she was always there. but not in a bad way... when i was depressed she's put a smile on my face. and i talked to her and her only responce was ex's are ex's for a reason... i don't fall for my past.
so i'm pretty much done now.
2007-06-06 05:16:13 · update #2
Tell her what you wrote right here. If that is how you feel she needs to know. If she still doesn't want you back you move on and live and learn from your mistakes. I did the same thing you did. She never came back and now she is engaged to the guy she met right after me. It hurts to know I messed up, but I learned from it and now I have met someone who is even better. Like everything, practice makes perfect. LOL!
2007-06-06 05:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why the low self esteem?
You say people keep saying that the girl could do so much better than you...how insulting and rude! What makes you so unlikeable? You need a better class of friends first of all...
Secondly, she WAS with you, wasn't she? Well, there had to be a reason for that..oh wait, she LIKED you...hmmm..Perhpas there is more to you than what you think, or others say, you lack.
Perhaps you are a great guy, even though you feel you are a screw up of some sort.
Everyone at one time or another, loses a person they then look back on and say "what a mistake!" I should have stayed with that person.
Why did you dump her? Did you think you weren't good enough? Well, my friend, it is something you are going to have to work on because this will just keep coming up as an issue in your life no matter who you are with. Your problem seems to lie with your self esteem, not with the young lady.
Try to improve the things you feel are not up to par. If you didn't pay her enough attention, or cheated on her, then see if she will take you back and DON"T DO IT AGAIN. If you want her back ,that is.
If she doesn't take you back, then learn from this and find yourself another girl and remember,if she goes out with you then there must be something about you she feels is worthy of her attention.
Tell your friends to go pee up a rope if they say that about you again. Clearly they are not supportive and "friends" is not something they seem to be.
2007-06-06 05:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily01ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems to me that she took that choice away from you after you dumped her and started seeing this great new guy. As sad as it is, more times than not people take each other for granted and then when it is too late they realize just what a good thing they had. If you really care for this then you let her get on with her life which now includes this other man. And take it as a lesson learned.
2007-06-06 05:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by jambofan1226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the only way to know that you did the right thing would be to examine the reasons why you broke up with her. A lot of people have really great qualities, but if you don't mesh, you don't mesh. If there was a good reason for you dumping her, think back on all the factors leading up to it. People can be really awesome, but not right for you at the same time.
2007-06-06 05:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Wary Buyer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends on why you dumped her, you never said.
People make mistakes, it happens all the time. You know the old saying "Don't know what you got til it's gone".
Then again, maybe you didn't make a mistake at all and you are just experiencing jealousy. That can also happen when someone you were once close to moves on to someone else.
2007-06-06 05:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure did not made the right by dumping this girl just because you could not appreciate what you had you through away precious stones and then coming to look for it , did you not heard the saying never know the use untill u have it no more sorry pops but its all your falt. i hope you will feel what you have done to that nice girl.
2007-06-06 05:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y'know, the profanity filter is here so people don't use profanity, not to find ways to get around it...question why you don't feel you can get your point across without it.
Next...life and dating are a gamble. Did you make the right decision by dumping the first girl? *shrugs* That's for you to decide...point is, you did it and that's that so move on and don't second guess yourself. If you feel you broke up with her in error, then learn the lesson and don't make that mistake again...that's the key.
Don't worry so much about if you did something right in the past...it's over and you cannot change it. Just make sure you learn from your past so you make future decisions you feel are sound.
2007-06-06 05:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Every one keeps saying you blew it! Dude we all make mistakes, but it is never too late to rectify what we've done wrong. If you truly feel you made a mistake, express what you are feeling to your ex, I am sure if she is willing to work things out you two will be fine, but value what you have and realize what you take for granted some one else will treasure.
2007-06-06 05:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did lose a good thing you mentioned all the qualities she has and you couldnt see any of them plain as day. maybe you just took her for granted but then again you said you dumped her so maybe its more that you dumped her because side by side she is better than you and you want to be noticed more so if shes around that would limit that....sorry not trying to be rude just answering your question in my opinion
2007-06-06 05:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh,...there is no making sure you did the right thing...
the only thing i can tell you is that if you broke it off with her...there was a reason behind it...
i was with a great guy who did it all for me, and the object of all the other girls desires..but for some reason he just didnt do it for me, we broke up and he ended up with another girl and they have been dating ever since...obviously they have a better connection than we did...though sometimes i regret being alone right now and everything, i know it was for the best.
2007-06-06 05:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋