My boyfriend recently reconnected with an old friend. They hadn't spoken in 4 years and decided to email back in forth which was fine, until they started flirting. He argued that because they were friends, it can't be considered as flirting and I want to know what you think. They sent each other pictures and he called her beautiful, talked about an old photo he still has of her, tellng her how cute she looked back then. He wrote to her saying that he looks forward to getting her emails everynight, and that they are what he looks forward to at the end of the day. She told him that he looks great in his photos and that she still keeps an old valentines day card that he gave her in underneath her matress. She actually came down to see and while she was here my boyfriend and I took her out where they continually walked of wihout me, leaving me behind.
Do YOU consider it flirting? Let me know!
2007-06-06 04:50:00 · 29 answers · asked by short n sweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's reconnecting a tad bit too strongly for my tastes, honestly. It's the "you're what I look forward to at the end of the day" that does it for me. He needs to stop investing that kind of emotion in a friend, and start using that energy on his relationship with you.
2007-06-06 04:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you described, I'd say that's mild flirting at the least. But there is definitely a connection between the two. Be honest about your feelings and tell him what's bothering you. He will probably become defensive -- don't take it personally if he does. It will be hard for you to tell him what's on your mind without him feeling like he's being accused of something.
Keep an eye on him. He's probably just excited about seeing his old friend -- it sounds like they were very close, and still have some sort of affection for each other (especially her, seeing as how she kept his valentine under her mattress). Hopefully your boyfriend has enough integrity to not let it affect his judgment. Make it clear that, no matter what the case, you two are still dating, and you expect to be treated accordingly.
2007-06-06 04:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by hbomb8404 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend has a thing for his "friend". You seriously might want to have a talk with him about his feelings for this girl. I would consider it more than flirting, more like an old flame that has come back or something. You should be what your boyfriend looks forward to every night, not emails from an old "friend".
2007-06-06 04:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by AprilleM 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I would consider that cheating, if he is interested in pursuing her fine he should...just not while in a relationship with you. Think about it what friends guy or girl email each other everyday!? I don't with any of my good girlfriends and I have some really close ones. Besides that, if your feeling uncomfortable about it, shouldn't it also be taken into consideration. I think relationships are a two way street and if your partner feels uncomfortable about a situation you should talk about it and come to a conclusion, where both people win.
2007-06-06 04:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say yes. I think it is more than flirting. He is being so rude and inconsiderate of your feelings.If I were you I would have a talk with him and her. Tell them that if the behaviour does not stop than he needs to go. He should be looking forward to seeing you at the end of the day, not getting this chicks emails. I would put a stop to it now before something happens between those two.
good Luck
2007-06-06 04:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and in a very dangerous way..it sounds like they were more than friends before, and still have it out for each other.
I can understand him telling her she is beautiful but he over stepped boundries by the other things he said and did. She wouldn't have the card under the mattress if she didn't have strong feelings for him also. I would tell him straight up how you feel and if he really cares for you he will stop this nonsense, if they are only true friends she will understand how you feel. Maybe you should call her yourself and see what she has to say..she'll probably tell you more than he will. GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-06 05:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not acting like a boyfriend,you can do better. He is not worth your time. If you get upset with him he will sneak around,so break it off. He can't have it both ways . You deserve a boyfriend who is totally committed to you. There are lots of very sweet guys out there that would have more consideration for your feelings. Good luck!
2007-06-06 05:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by tota 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider this a flirting situation. If he keeps walking out on you with this old friend then he isnt really trying to consider your feelings and only has eyes for her.
2007-06-06 04:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Little Flower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i woudnt want to hurt you but it IS MORE THAN JUST FLIRTING. i mean he looks forward to her emails? cmon! that is so not right...and walking off without you is simply disrespectful...if it bothers you that much, then i think you guys better talk about it.
and if he reason's with fresh prince's answer that it doesnt mean anything because everyone does it...well not because everyone does it, doesnt make it right.
tell him how you feel about what he is doing...if he doesnt change or doesnt care aabout how you feel about it then you might jave to rethink the relationship.
good luck ;)
2007-06-06 05:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by wooo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally I'd say its flirting, but walking ahead without you while they talk is a bit of a red flag as well as looking forward to her emails every night.
He should look forward to YOU and YOUR emails. :)
Red flag coming up for sure.
2007-06-06 04:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋