i don't what to do.. i hate my boyfiriend but i miss him and I still love him...
thing is, few days ago, he said he will come to my place then we will go out together... so I called in sick from work and waited for im but he never showed up.. this is not the first time he did this to me, but I forgive him.. I mean i understand him, we used to be on the same office but he moved to another company for a higher position, so i have extended my patience and understand him.. but this last time that he didn't show up, it's breaking me like hell.. he only call me up on the next day which i havent answered also bec i am at work.. I broke him up thru email but he didnt email me back.. I erased all his information.. but I realized I missed him thats why i emailed him again telling im sorry... still there was no reply.. this whole thing is making me crazy.. please enlighten me up what's the best thing to do...
2007-06-06 04:45:56 · 25 answers · asked by jami... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well baby u should just let things happen, sometimes when u rush for things, it get mess up. so my best advise it to let him miss u, stop rushing on talking to him. let him realize the importance u have u his life. By the way u express ur self really shows the good heart u have. Me as a man, tell u that we like women to really look for us, but once we notice that the girl dont care no more we get in love and give the girl the importance she deserves. any ways think about it, and please stop calling him neither emailing him no more let him do it. take care
2007-06-06 04:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by irving r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but this man has very little respect for you. Even if he was running late or delayed, it would have taken him a whole 10 seconds to send you a quick text, email, or phone call.
You are making excuses for him when there really is no excuse for such disrespectful behavior on his part. If it happened once and he came apologizing to you, then forgive and move on. But repeatedly is not a good sign.
Perhaps you are going back to him because you like the comfort of having a boyfriend. But ask yourself, is it really worth all this? Trust me, there are PLENTY of men out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. So instead of wasting your time with someone who won't, work on ffinding someone who will!
2007-06-06 04:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you still have feelings for him or you wouldn't have said you hate him. The opposite of love is not hate - it's indifference. Unfortunately - he sounds like he is indifferent and that's not good. Why not take this time to spend on yourself and make you happy? Why not be the fabulous person you are in the meantime and let him come around to you for a change? He doesn't make you feel good. He makes you feel crappy and you deserve better than that! Sounds like you are in love with someone who can only provide lip service and can't back it up like a real man would. Don't you want someone that would not make you feel like that? He is letting you do all the work - you know why? Because he can. People only treat you how you let them treat you. And you are better than that.
2007-06-06 04:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl... I went through the EXACT same thing... he's so not good for you. I'll bet money that you could get a great guy who won't do this to you and make you feel just as good! He probably hasn't answered because he doesn't care... I know it hurts to hear but it's probably true... if he just ditches you and doesn't care enough to call you that day or email you or anything... just try and forget about him... excersize a bunch... take up a dance class or some type of thing like that... go to clubs and get back out on the dating scene... that's the only ways i could think of keeping your mind off him :) good luck!!
2007-06-06 04:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing in my last relationship. I would have put the world on hold for him if I could... and he left me,...for another girl....a week before we were to buy a house... he is giving you all the signs that he is just not that into you, and when he feels you pulling away he will tell you what you need to hear. He is most likely looking at his other options while you are on the side line. When he finds something else then you are gone... give up now...that situation is hopeless honey.
2007-06-06 04:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you boyfriend is unpredictable in this relationship, you have done the right thing. Life is to Short to worry over any man. Get yourself together because the next bus is arriving for you to be happy. In breaking it off let time take care of of those feelings. It will get better for you. Always take the time to talk in person. Leaving a email from him to read, that you breaking it off isn't a good one. Just live your life and be happy. Move on and talk to others. Don't let this change you. You hate him so why take yourself thur this.
2007-06-06 04:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to let him go. You should let no man get the best of you. You've given him a number of chances and it seems like he has blown them all to hell. You need to pick up the pride that you have left and move on. There are alot more men out there that you will understand and have a good time with and they will actually want to be with you. I know it hurts but you are too good to be letting a man walk all over you. You don't ever want to seem like you are someone he could have at any time.
2007-06-06 04:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by AprilleM 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows how to play you. You always forgive him and even if its him in the wrong, you are apologising. This is not right, even if you love him.
If you want some response, play his game back. Ask him to meet you and dont show up. Let him do the chasing for a change as you will lose your self respect carrying on the way you have been.
2007-06-06 04:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is age-old. You are letting him walk all over you. Sorry, but it's time to:
Look for someone else.
Stop wasting your energy.
Not look for little signs that tell you he just MIGHT be interested.
Realise that actions speak louder than words.
If he doesn't contact you back he hasn't:
Lost his phone.
Lost your number.
If he says he's coming around and he doesn't, he isn't:
Dealing with a sick relative.
Too scared.
Too shy.
Trying to sort out his feelings.
Sick in bed.
Been threatened by one of your ex's.
Been threatened by his ex.
Dead.
Face it:
He is not interested.
2007-06-06 04:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by ShoCh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi girl u dont need him maybe he is in love with someone else
and if u break up with someone by email and u see it aint working well dont email him and tell him that u are sorry
he should know why u are breaking up with him dont wast
your time saying that u miss him and that u are sorry
cause is not your falt it is his falt he lost u he lost and thats it
dont email him nomore and u see when he will come back to
u cause guys like when u on them and u are not with him they
love when a female is on them they love it and u showing him that theres no other man in the world like him and thats not true get over him u need more advice write to me and i will
help u ok byeeee
2007-06-06 06:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by sweet vanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋