What do you do when your kid about about 14 messes up? When he does bad stuff, lies, breaks your trust, lets you really down? How can you correct him and make him become a good and trustworthy kid again?
2007-06-06 04:28:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know its the case of easier said than done..but i think that you really need to speak to him, ask him why he is doing all this, what makes him do all this, listen to him be patient, maintain yor tempo, ask what he wants in life, tell him what you expect from him, tell him that he is very precious to you and that you always want good for him, is there any way that you can help him out..indulge with his thoughts, speak to him your heart out, dont forget to tell him that you love him a lot and that he can be very comfortable with you discussing all the stuff...give him this assurance that whatever you people talk it will be between you guys..speak speak and speak...
listen a lot of children make mistakes at such an age, but when you keep telling them about this they get disturbed and all the more spoilt..so just dont be so..be calm and explain him..i'm sure its gonna help..May God Bless Both Of You! take care and good luck!
2007-06-06 04:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out what's behind what he did. Kids don't just lie for no reason. It's a symptom of something else. He's feeling like he can't trust you to support him so he lies to protect himself. Or he lies because he knows he did wrong and he doesn't want you to be disappointed in him.
Either way, let him know you love him and you support him and you'll be there for him no matter what. But he needs to know right from wrong and he needs to know there will be consequences to his actions. Don't hit or yell or call him names. Just tell him what he did was wrong, why it was wrong and what the consequences will be. Treat him with respect and he'll respect you.
Listen to him and let him know it's OK to say whatever he feels. Ask him what motivated him to do what he did. He may hesitate in opening up but in time, with consistant support and love he may start to feel comfortable in talking to you. In addition, be open to what he says. There may be some brutal truths that you have to face about how you've been relating to him so far. Take what he says with an open mind and consider that there may be some truth to it.
Be willing to make whatever changes are necessary to improve communication with him. This is a great opportunity for you to make whatever corrections are necessary to get you both on the right path before he gets into deeper trouble. Congratulations for taking action now. He's lucky to have a loving Dad.
2007-06-06 11:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well iT All Depends On Where He Messed Up, As A Teenager Mi Self i Kno Wat iTs Like 2 Xplain Sumthin 2 Ur Parents Because Dey Always Jump 2 Conclusions. Try Listening Nex Time Before U Du N E Thing
2007-06-06 11:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by LaDii CaRaM3L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You treat him like a 5 year old all over again. Take all his things away, tv, radio, play station everything and give him the bare needs. Make him earn them back. Embarress him really good like holding his hand in the store and maybe put one of those kiddy leashes on him. Let him know you do not trust him and let him see the humility.
2007-06-06 11:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
set forth more rule and limitations
2007-06-10 06:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋