I have been friends with a women for several months and we have such a great time with each other. We go bike riding, on cookouts, swimming, have dinner together, etc. She knows I love her and want to be with her, but she said as much as she loves me, it's only as a friends. She said she just didn't feel a "spark". Should I wait and see if her feelings change. She still makes me happy and we are always together. When I first met her 6 years ago I actually hated her and didn't find her attractive at all. But now that I really got to know her my feeling have done a complete 180. I figure if I can change my feelings, why can't she?
2007-06-06 04:08:32 · 10 answers · asked by Greyman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we met 6 years ago it was a chance meeting and we didn't see each other between then and last April when we met again. We knew who the other was when we met again but that's it. But for some reason she took a chance and started talking to me. That's when we started becoming friends. It wasn't that we knew each other for 6 six years straight. And it wasn't until about a month ago when I revealed my feelings that we really ecame close and started doing so much together.
2007-06-06 04:31:57 · update #1
No way! I have a friend just like you that I love spending time with - as a friend. I could never be attracted to this guy as anything more, although he is a great guy. You deserve to be with someone who loves you unconditionally and that you don't have to try to convince to have feelings for you... I know I will never develop any deeper feelings for my friend.
2007-06-06 04:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew a very wise woman some years ago who gave me good advice"
Barbara, she said, Marry someone you can live with - not someone you can't live without. Because what happens when they leave? And everyone leaves everyone else - if only through death...
That said, no. Don't wait for someone to love you. It will never happen.
Keep your dear friend, however. She sounds like a good one to have - but if she isn't romantically interested in you - then it's time to look elsewhere. The old saying about fish in the sea and stars in the sky is true, by the way.
AND - you never know. Just when you start getting serious about someone else, she might just change her mind about you. Then you have a new set of problems.
2007-06-06 04:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a women who has been in this situation before, I would have to advice you to move on. If she has already made her self clear about what kind of relationship she wants from you, it's because that's all she wants. I don't believe her feelings could be changed already you have known each other for six years. Instead enjoy the valuable friendship you both share and look for love in someone else.
2007-06-06 04:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nap 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"T's better to have LOVED and LOST then never to have loved at all"-----that quote (although I can't remember who spoke it) is SOOOO true. You are friends with this lady---you do a lot of activities with her... she obviously is comfortable with you, and if you left her, she would miss you--and it sounds like a "WILL AND GRACE" kind of relationship without the "gaydar"......some day, she will realize that the "spark" was always there, she was just blind to it..... unfortunately, sometimes this realization comes too late... Maybe what she needs is to see you dating other people to wake up that "SPARK" in HER.... if it is meant to be, it WILL be... .....but NEVER think of being in love as a waste of time no matter HOW the relationship turns out....LOVING and BEING LOVED is the most IMPORTANT thing in life that we DO... without it, we have no life!!!!!
2007-06-06 04:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of which you would be able to hold on somewhat longer, you adore her for a reason... I waited a three hundred and sixty 5 days for a guy that hated me and now we are going out! and yall are friends so youre definatly going to social gathering... purely wait somewhat longer, possibly she'l comprehend that she needs to be extra advantageous than friends! sturdy success ;-)
2016-12-18 15:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by zagel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait for her...if she says she just wants to be friends, then that's all she wants right now. You might even miss out on Mrs. Right if you get too hung up on this woman. I'd just stay friends with her, move on for now and date other people, and if things are meant to happen with her, they will naturally at the right time. Good luck, I know it's hard.
2007-06-06 04:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait it out, but not forever. If someone else came around that you could fall in love with and that fell in love with you then waiting for the other person is just worthless isn't it? You have to be with someone that can make you happy and that you can make happy.
2007-06-06 04:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by LiL' Momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it happens, no matter how painful it seems somtimes women just do not get the "spark" shes talking about. Give it about three weeks and if it doesnt change i would break up.
2007-06-06 04:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by ecko_mr.bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it would be best not wasting you time on someone that doesn't feel the same as you do. while you are pineing away for her you might end up missing a chance to be with someone who would have the same feelings for you. you don't have to let her go, but move on to find someone who wants to be with you.
2007-06-06 04:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by asguard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its worth every second of hurt and pain. I had to wait and I am glad I did.
2007-06-06 04:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋