2007-06-06 03:54:17 · 25 answers · asked by Gõlden angel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as we say here 3 strikes and u are out.
2007-06-07 02:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two chances total. Any more and you're wasting your time.
Everyone can make a mistake and when they do they deserve another chance. Sometimes the transgression was unintentional, or the bf did not know how you would feel about whatever he did. Or maybe he didn't realize he might lose you as a result. But once you make it clear that he messed up and that it better not happen again, the ball is then in his court.
The question then becomes what does he do with this second chance. Will he learn from it, change his behavior and do better or will he continue to repeat the bad behavior.
If he truly cares about you he will make the appropriate changes or at least try to work out some sort of compromise/happy medium. If he's not really into the relationship, or just plain immature he'll waste the second chance (as well as any others you give him).
Most women I've known have spent some time - usually their younger years - dating jerks with the illusion that the jerks are capable of changing their behavior. Eventually most women come to realize that true colors inevitably shine through - good people treat their partners well and bad people do not - and eventually after enough abuse (usually emotional) women come to a point where they realize they deserve better.
Unfortunately, while some women are quick to learn this life lesson, others often takes years of crap as they give the guys one more "last chance" after another.
Best of luck.
2007-06-06 11:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by QuestionsAplenty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, i cant relate personally because i've never actually had a serious relationship, but i think it really depends on the seriousness of the situation that you're going to give him another chance for.
I mean, some things really might not seem very important to the boyfriend but mean alot to the girlfriend, but everyone has their differences. Like for example, remembering Valentines Day or anniversary. I brought it up because my friend got together with this dude who was really well, ditzy. He forgot plenty of things. To call her, to remember something they promised together, etc.
Finally, they broke up because she wasnt happy. But i think if he forgets to call you a couple of times or something, he deserves a second chance, but if he cheated on you full and clear, maybe he doesnt deserve one.
But really, it depends. Maybe he is really sorry about cheating and he wasnt thinking straight or something. Then its a different story.
So i guess its completely up to you. Trust your instincts and go for whatever you think is right. Dont over think.
Good Luck! :)
2007-06-06 11:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely up too you how many chances you give to your partner.
Depends really on the sort of relationship that you have - And also what he has done?
2007-06-06 11:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by misslocke 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the severity of what he did. If it was horrible- none. I know that is hard if you love him, but you can't keep letting someone hurt you. If it wasn't that bad give him another chance. But if he keeps doing not so horrible things, end it now, because that is what he will continue to do.
2007-06-06 10:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dani 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depending on the severity of it. If it's the lil things he does that you dont like then give em a few shots to change, if it's sumthin like cheatin, thats supposed to be just one, anything after that is all up to u
2007-06-06 11:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by kevo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I would never cheat but if I did, I'd expect that to be my last chance. Cheating's a deal breaker, in my eyes!
2007-06-06 10:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he's done. If he cheated or hurt you really badly - done. If he's continually hurting you in some other way, why put yourself through that over and over? There are guys out there that will not hurt you.
2007-06-06 10:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's ur bf, u should give him or her about 5 chances..
2007-06-06 10:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by orangefairy123456 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
give him another chance but there would be a repeat. relationships is not a survey. it's a individual thing. to whom it may concern. good luck.
2007-06-06 21:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by kenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should only give him tw chances ...
if he messes uo the first time its his fault
if he messes up the second time its your faultt that how i see it
if he messes up the first time u can giv him a chance by making him realize what he lost ... then if he messes up thr second time that means thta latare on he can mess up like 5 time .. thing goood my friend
2007-06-06 11:00:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋