I think he's stalking me, what should I do????

Question

I MEET A GUY I KNEW IN HIGHSCHOOL A COUPLE WEEKS AGO AND HE ASKED ME FOR MY PHONE NUMBER. WE GOT TOGETHER A FEW TIMES BUT NOTHING TO SERIOUS, WE BOTH HAVE KIDS AND HE IS GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE. IN THE LAST WEEK HE HAS STARTED TO CALL ME LIKE 7 TIMES A DAY, SHOW UP AT MY WORK W/ COFFEE AND JEWELERY, AND CALL MY FRIENDS PHONES. HE HAS ALSO DECIDED HE LOVES ME, IT'S ONLY BEEN LIKE THREE WEEKS, HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW ME!!! I'M STARTING TO GET SCARED, WHAT SHOULD I DO, I'VE ASKED HIM TO SLOW DOWN. I HAVE EVEN GOTTEN A LIL MEAN AND YELLED AT HIM, BUT HE STILL PERSISTS. MY FRIENDS ARE STARTING TO WORRY CAUSE HE CALLS THEIR PHONE TO.

Answer 1

If anything, be very cautious. If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with him, tell him and be firm. Consider cutting off any association with him, because it sounds like he has become overbearing and your children will be uncomfortable around him or nervous if you go anywhere with him. Avoid being alone with him. If you need to meet in person to talk, meet in a public place. Not being alone with him sends a clear message that you have no intimate interests in him.

Answer 2

Well first off sweetie there really is no reason to be scared, trust me I have been through far worse that required court. This situation is that he is probably just grabbing on so hard to you because of his situation of going through a divorce. I suggest if he isn't someone you want to date then tell him honestly, I just had to do that the other day, I told the guy I'm sorry I'm not ready for what it is that I know you are looking for he offered his friendship I told him I didn't really even want that, and he called like 4 times after I said no and since then I haven't heard from him. Unfortunately sometimes you have to be straight forward to the point and you have be honest and risk hurting his feelings. Now if you like him and want to date him but feel he is coming on to strong, be honest and tell him that he needs to slow down, it's a little intimidating to have someone coming onto you so strongly and ask that he slow it down, and if he wants to move forward with you he will respect your wishes. But no reason to be scared. And next time be more careful, don't get to much into detail with someone, like I live alone and they do not know where I live until they are my boyfriend, they don't know my friends til then, or anything. Be more cautious. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I had this problem once I gave my honest opinion told him Pump the breaks whoa to fast if he says he loves you already two thing he may have had a crush on you in high school. but i generally confront the emotion " how can you fall in love with me so quickly why is this so intense tell him to knock of the obsessive calling. If you don't want any thing to do with him say this is going way to fast for me and break it off if you feel threatened at anytime call the police. My friend has a guy like that now extremely intense their getting married Friday after 7 months of dating. I don't think it's a good idea. but i have noticed that, that is the way men try to sweep you off your feet these days with the persistent undivided attention thing and it is often creepy

Answer 4

How does he have their phone numbers? You need to block him from your phone and from your friend's phones!! Also, he might try to call from different numbers, or block his number. Make it a habit not to answer strange numbers!! Also, I would seriously consider getting a restraining order!! BUT because it is a simple piece of paper and no actual defense, I would carry mace and be aware of your surroundings at all times! Also, if your paths ever cross-I would let him know that if he does continue, you will have no choice but to call the police!! If he cares about his kids, he will back off...because I have a good idea that a restraining order is not the best way to get brownie points in court!

Answer 5

Change your phone number and make sure your friends do not give it out. Let him know that he is not welcome at your work and if he shows up you will call the police to have him removed for tresspassing because your work is private property. If he persists tell him you are going to persue a restraining order.

Answer 6

Police

Answer 7

let him know that if he doesn't back off a bit then you'll call the authorities....sometimes that does the trick and there's nothing wrong with calling them when you have someone who you've told to leave you alone hasn't.....not taking that step can get you in hurt or worse.....be smart about it and tell your friends to ignore his calls.....you might have to go ahead and get a restraining order, it will keep him from being allowed to try to contact you through a third party also (your friends)....be careful and good luck

Answer 8

HI THERE WELL I HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE SAME THING.THIS IS WHAT I DID.INFORM HIM IF HE DOES NOT STOP STALKING U AND UR FRIENDS U WILL GET A PROTECTIVE ORDER ON HIM BUT U HAVE TO KNOW HIS ADDRESS FIRST.AND IF HE'S GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE AS MY GUY WAS HE WONT WANT THAT...TELL HIM UR NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN BUT HE'S TRYING TO BE TO CONTROLING,TELL HIM U DONT WANA DO IT BUT HE'S SCAREING U A BIT..BE HONEST HUN....

Answer 9

I think you should stop answer in his calls and tell your friends to not answer his calls and try to find a new job and tell your mom or dad or somebody be for it's to lat.He actin like that and it's only been three weeks he could kill you and know one whould know so comin form me go to someone befor it's to lat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

hes obsessed, tell him if he wants it to go anywhere at all to slow down alot... or nothing will happen.. even if u dont intend on a relationship at all.. it will get him to back off if he realises he is ruining any chance.