Attn: ALL MEN..I need a MANS POINT OF VIEW..HELP HELP?

Question

1Met a guy who is 33 yrs and I am 28yrs
2We had sex on the second date.
3There was major chemistry/and lots of attraction .It felt right, to have sex
4This is the first guy, I have ever had sex this early. I have had past 2 relationships, which lasted 3-6mos and never slept with them.
5I can seriously say, there was lots of ENERGY when we met, and magic.
6We discussed about our past relationships in great detail.
7His ex cheated on him, and he caught her red handed.
8He has been dating since his breakup, which, was about a year ago
9He has never felt a connection such as with me.
10He does appear to be a gentlman, never pressured me once
11When we had sex, he held me all night long, and we talked softly about what our fav cereals and celebs are
12I was sleeping at his place multiple times during the past month
13He introduced me to one of his friends, who is his roommate
14We cooked together many times.
15We had De Ja Vu moments, such as I read his mind before he would mention what he was thinking
16There was a moment, when we were together and didn’t have sex.
17There was a moment, that he thought he offended me, over a misunderstanding, he got a hold of me the next day -- and when no response from me, he thought I was about to dump him.
18We have mutual friends
19We are very private about us seeing eachother.
20After 4 weeks of seeing eachother, I said to him "that I care about you" and he just FREAKED OUT.
21I freaked out, coz I never have sex this early on, and felt vulnarable.
22He noticed, that I am being anxious on the relationship part.
23Since, then, he would reply to my phone calls or messages w/delays, not how they used to be.
24I have stepped aside, and am giving him some space to himself, and coz I need to think over things myself.
25After a week and half, I get a text from him saying “hello”. I responded back to his message 2 days later w/just a hello. He messaged me back saying, “he is feeling really upset right now”. I replied back saying, “why”
26Why won’t he pick up the phone and call me, instead of texting me?
27You think he is wanting to dump me?
28What could be the reason he is being upset?
29Do you think, he has had me on his mind a lot? Do you think, he is going to say that he is falling for me?

If we get back together...I will wait on the sex part for 3-6 mos. he will have to respect that, if he wants to keep seeing me

Answer 1

1. Dear... looks like you have some feelings for him now. If so, why don't you just pick up the phone and try to talk to him and figure out what is bothering him. If he is feeling upset, throw off your ego and call him. Do not wait for him to call you.
2. After having sex, this guy may have stepped back a bit because he may think he got the ultimate thing but even if this is true, I would suggest you to have a close observation of how he behaves.
3. Be in touch with him and give him a chance. You will make out yourself what he wants.
4. You are right about avoiding sex with him for some time.

-Amit

Answer 2

If you really like this guy be open and honest with him... tell him how you feel regarding what has gone on and ask him exactly how he feels. It seems as though there has been a break down in communication and that you both may have got your wires crossed. Just maybe neither of you wants to get hurt again emotionally and are nervous about appearing too eager. Upo until point 20 it all seemed great... you need to ask him why your saying that changed everything. Only then can you really decide if the relationship is worth fighting for. Good luck.

Answer 3

Guys which were in dedicated relationships and harm,on the whole are very wary and the min they scent dedication they're long past. The truth that you've had an on going together lucrative courting, guess it public or individual, signifies that there was once or is anything approximately you that allowed him to confide in you. That was once a subcincous selection, and if you introduced emotions to the vanguard, he normally bought freaked out out of worry of having harm once more. By citing emotions that you've for him, it compelled him to truthfully see his emotions for you. The prolong in line with you wasnt to offload you, it was once the small quantity of house he had to transparent his head and manage his emotions for you. Where you MAY have long past incorrect was once preventing all conversation, rationale in his brain, you too became your again and betrayed him just like the final girl did. His textual content was once a final request for the awareness he was once getting within the starting. When you behind schedule your reaction to that, you (once more, in his brain) justified his perception of betrayal and turning your again on him. Thats why he wont decide on up the mobile and speak to. If you wish to hold this courting, you will have to move to him, say sorry no longer to your movements, however for the best way they made him consider, retaining an open and sincere conversation. Another factor to do not forget is that due to the fact you 2 have already got a bodily courting, when you try to implement your three-6 month preserve out, that too might flip him away. The greatest factor that you simply have got to do not forget is a person that has been emotionally harm ago reacts just like a wounded animal, and will near humans out in their lives on the first signal or preconceived belief that they're approximately to move down that equal emotional avenue. Even regardless that the man or woman the close out, could also be the high-quality man or woman for them. As within the above animal analogy, manage him with care and admire, openness and kindness, conversation and freedom. Everything will have to determine. Remeber additionally to be reasonable to your self and recognise if and while you hit your limits and tolerances. Some guys will take your go back as their opprotunity to stroll in every single place you.

Answer 4

Already having sex, most guys act weird and some just dump. I wouldn't be paraoid about it. Unless you did something majorly wrong, he's probably got something else in his life causing problems he needs to handle.
You're right giving him space, and for trying to stay in touch. Don't give up yet.
Just in case, you might want to be prepared to let him go. He might have realized he's not ready for another after his ex.

I know the sting of heartbreak when it shatters into a million little piecs of glass. For guys, it takes a while to trust again.

Answer 5

It sounds like he just got a little freaked out that you two are falling for each other. Yes, I think you have been on his mind a lot and he is just scarred of moving too fast. Be yourself, don't play games and wait to see what happens. Things will work out in time. Don't put time limits or restraints on yourself or the relationship, just be yourself and follow your heart and instincts.

Answer 6

Hello dear!
First: you can right a book, be a millionaire and he will return!
Second: You arrange to meet and talk with him.
Third: you don't have to change, he loved and respected you, not the other one you are saying you will pretend to!
Fourth: Do you really want him now?
Fifth: You are a woman, does he really want you? (You will find out at your meeting, face to face, his or your place, preferably - thus you can express yourselves! )

Answer 7

I think he is a great guy who just had the L word shoved at him to soon give him tome to calm down and think about what it is like with out you in his life . If it is meant to be he will be back .

Answer 8

Sorry...you lost the right to hold out sex when you let him twist you out.....if you start holding out now you look like someone who is confused on what she wants. What makes you think this is all about u? consider his feelings too, it sounds like you are being very self centered and selfish about this.

Answer 9

He's already had the sex, how do you think you can call the shots with him now? I don't think he'll have a problem getting it anyway...do you?

Answer 10

Why did you number your entire story?