my new guy says he misses me in the day when we are both at work,if this is true why does he not message me?

Question

my new bf says i missed u today, but we are both on messenger all day so if he misses me that much then why doesnt he speak to me, or call or text? when i first met him he used to speak to me in the day but now he doesnt which makes me think he doesnt miss me and he is just saying it? Its not like i wanna talk to him all day or anythin as i am busy in work 2

Answer 1

Because he's at work. His boss isn't paying him to think about and message you during work time. You're probably so clingy and needy that you're already turned him off. If you don't stop being such a worry-wort, you're gonna send him looking for someone else who's less stressful and dramatic. Please grow up.

Answer 2

Ok, first step: Read "He's Just Not That Into You" I'm sorry and I know it hurts, but do you really want a guy to tell you, (*down to the month*) what to do about your "loose-ends". He sounds very controlling, and his stress full work life is no excuse for his inappropriate behavior. I suggest working on your loose ends, and while you are doing that he can think about how stupid he is for letting someone like you out of his life. Excuse me, throwing you out of his life. But just ask yourself if you miss him or just the idea of having someone there, which it doesn;t even sound like he was providing you with the proper attention a woman deserves. And only text messages?! Oh I'm not going there. Move on buttercup, he's not worth your time. And apparently he feels the same, otherwise he would take the time to use his minutes and call you (and hear your voice) as opposed to a 10 cent text message. Hmm, 10 cent, do I hear a new rap artist coming out? Is this is big career switch?

Answer 3

You are both busy at work that is why you dont have much contact during the day. My boyfriend dont text me all day long but i know that he will text me goodnight and good morning and thats whats important. To be honest i would get annoyed if he texted me too much, it would be as if he was checking up on me. I really do think you need to chill more as this is what happens in most relationships, it doesnt mean that he likes you any less or doesnt think about you.

Answer 4

It tends to be like that when you first start to date a guy. They are always texting throughout the day and then it slows down or even stops. I think what it is is that when i guy is trying to get involved with a woman he goes out of his way to be keen and wants to speak etc but after that stage he becomes relaxed and knows he does not have to try as much therefore does not always chat as he prob knows he will speak later on. if it bothers you say something in a joking way like if you miss me you could always pop on messenger for a little chat haha. something like that? My ex was like that, he would call me everyday from work then it stopped and i would question it in my head and my head went that nuts and i turned insecure and the relationship went sour because while i was sat waiting for contact and too mixed up in questions in my own head my relationship was missing out on things and before i knew it it passed by and ended. But its prob like i said he does not feel the need to do that anymore cos he has you now and he knoes he will just speak to you later. but try and make a sarcastic joke out of it and see if anything changes.

Answer 5

stop over analysing
its nbot practical to have such a high level of contact all the time
enjoy the moments you have together and stop worrying about thye other time he is probably busy at work remeber men arent multi taskers he probably thinks of you alot but cant articulate it at works cause he is busy remeber
we didnt always have mobile phones and the internet
and people were perfectly fine with minimal contact in those days just cause we have it now doesnt mean we should wear it out

absense makes the heart grow fonder
dont make yourself into a pest otherwise he will loose interest

Answer 6

maybe he doesnt wanna seem like a dork or a loser....or maybe he's just busy and doesnt have time to message u...but if hes that busy, maybe hes too busy to miss u too and hes just saying it to be sweet...who knows. that doesnt help u at all does it, lol!?

Answer 7

maybe he is too bust in work to be able to chat, thst doesnt mean he doesnt miss, stop being so paraniod and just except what he says.

Answer 8

this happened with my girlfriend, i said i missed her she said the same, but we could talk on a messenger, every time i looked he was signed in at home.
i later found out she was screwing men at MY home.

Answer 9

Let him breath. Maybe he is busy. Men can still love you with out talking to you all day.

Answer 10

Get a grip woman. He is a man. Women need to verbalise more than they do. Try not to be so desparate and needy. He respect you for that.