when's the proper age to get marry? when did you marry?

Answer 1

I'm not sure if there's a "proper" age - it's a very personal decision and no one else can say if you're ready but you. However, my OPINION is that between 26 and 30 is a good age. Young women change so much during their 20's - it's a personal time of growth, learning more about herself, gaining financial independence, and making decisions on her own. I believe it's VERY important that men and woman both learn to live independently and take care of themselves before they can adequately take care of other people. With the divorce rate being what it is, it's just simply a wise decision for women to have been independent before marrying. They should know how to pay the bills, what it's like to juggle a job and other responsibilities, etc.

I got married when I was 30 years old which I think is a perfect age. I had gone through enough changes in my 20's to really know who I am, what I wanted, etc and be ready for that type of commitment. My husband and I got engaged after 10 months of dating which may seem fast but we were both in our 30's and knew it was right. I would suggest a longer dating period if you're younger! ;)

Goodluck.

Answer 2

I think late 20's is ideal for a woman, and early 30's for a man.

Both of you will have had plenty of defining experiences and adventures, will know more or less who you are, and will have hopefully had the experience of being single, living alone, providing for oneself, having a career, and bonding with other single friends.

I am 23 and have been dating a 31 year old for 3 years. I really value the fact that he chose not to marry thus far. He's an AMAZING guy and was in several long term relationships that should've ended in marriage, but he chose not to marry because he valued his own personal growth and journey and knew he'd regret it if he married any younger. It's hard for him that I'm so young, though I'm very mature for my age, simply because if/when we marry I'll basically be giving up a whole decade of my life. Which I've determined I'm willing to do because I love him so much. Not that he's proposed or anything...

But just remember you have your whole life to be married. You don't have your whole life to live alone, make decisions completely on your own, watch what you want on TV, come home or go out whenever you choose, spend your money on yourself, travel inconspicuously, not worry about saving money, and move to a new city or take a new job just because you feel like it. Those things are a lot more fun (and possible) when you're young as opposed to 35 and divorced or 65 and widowed.

Answer 3

I dont think there is necessarily a proper age, but rather a proper maturity level. When both of you feel you are ready for the committment, work, sacrifices, etc that a marriage takes.

I am 23 and my fiancee is 24, we will be 24 and 25 respectivly when we wed next year.

If I had to give an age limit I would say 25+

My fiancee and I are not the typical 'early 20's' we are very mature and resonsible for our age. We have lived independently, been financialy secure for a few years, raised 2 terrific dogs, we would rather spend our time together at the park with the dogs or renting a movie than going out drinking and club hopping, thats just not us.

So I think it varies for everybody, but definitely under 21 is too young, you do a lot of growing up between 20-25

Answer 4

The proper age is when you feel like commiting yourself to relationship that is built on trust, freindship and love.

"Proper" is an opinion and the only person who's opinion counts in this matter is you

I got married when I was 21 to my best friend. We have been married 5 years now.

Answer 5

love has no age limit. but, I say wait till you get all the flirtiness and partying out of you. I am 22 yrs. old and so is my fiance, we plan to marry this Nov.

We have dated for 4+ yrs and have children together so we are ready to get married.

Make sure the person is the person you will stay married to and not divorce. My fiance and I don't believe in divorce and have the same values. We aren't completely alike, we both bring different view points to the relationship.

Answer 6

I will be 22 and he will 24, we will have been dating for 6 years and engaged for 2.

There are so many more important things to consider than just age. Look at the back posts from yesterday, there was a very long question with plenty of answers about age vs. maturity.

Answer 7

there is no proper age. I am 30 and getting married in march 08 but we will have been together for ten years when we get married. You have to be right with yourself maybe have a career.You'll know when it's right just don't rush it, it will come

Answer 8

There is no proper age - whenever you feel ready. I was 20 when I got married and my groom was 21. Six years later and we are still happily married.

Answer 9

A lot of people won't like to hear this, but I think anything under age 25 is too young. People change so much before that age and don't really know what they want. Maturity is a big part of keeping a relationship together.

Answer 10

You can look up the statistics to it, but it really depends on an individual by individual basis.

In general, women are 2 years younger than men when they marry. The average age for a woman is 27, a man is 29. Employed men are more likely to marry than unemployeed men. In the US with more women going into careers, being highly educated more than 4 years (more than a bachelors), and wanting to be settled before getting married--the percentage of unmarried people is higher than married people.

Characteristics related to the probability of divorce include age at marriage, education, birth cohort, marriage cohort, religion, fertility, premarital sexual activity and premarital cohabitation.

If the wife was a teenager at marriage, the couple is far more likely to get divorced than if the wife was 20+. The statistic drops dramatically again at 25+.

After 10 years of marriage, 48 percent of marriages of women under age 18 years at marriage have ended
compared with 40 percent of marriages of women who were 18–19 years of age at marriage, 29 percent of marriages of
women who were 20–24 years of age at marriage, and 24 percent of marriages of women at least 25 years of age at
marriage.

The results of marital studies consistently suggest that the marriages of black non-Hispanic women are less stable than
those of white non-Hispanic or Hispanic women. The first marriages of black non-Hispanic women disrupt faster than
the first marriages of other women.

So the average for educated woman in America is 27, but the proper age seems to be over 24/25 in order to have better chances of remaining married. Also, couples that have known each other less than one year prior to marriage have a lot higher risk of divorce than those who have known each other more than 5 years. Results were not significant in breakdowns of 1-3 yrs and 3-5 yrs.

It also seems to be an average of 35 yrs old (averaging both genders) when society starts to think it is odd that a person isn't married. 30 seems to be when women feel they are aging faster than they realized and 33 seems to be when they feel they will "never get married" if not married by that point and when society starts to feel the woman is doing something "wrong" if she isn't married. However men do not seem to have the same society stigma until 37.

Thats enough statistics for you. As for me, my husband is exactly 2 yrs older than me and I was 25 (one month away from 26) when I got married.

Hope this helps! =)