Well, I am with this guy that got his ex pregnant, if you want to read that, look at all the questions I have posted and see that,"should I brake up with him, Urgent" Well, I called him yestarday with all intensions of a break up and I heard his voice and I couldn't do it, I wanted to break up with him and tell him that it is best for him to be with his baby mamma, but I couldn't I am actually in LOVE with this guy and I want to break up with him I really do but I can't CODE RED!!!! HELPP ME
2007-06-06 03:10:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, just because he has a kid doesn't mean that he can't be good for you too. If he loves you and you love him, there is no reason that you can't work things out. As long as he maintains his responsibility to his kid. The kid is what is important, the the mother. My husband had 3 kids when I met him and was raising his step son too, I swore I would never marry a man with kids, but you can't help who you fall in love with. It is a relationship that takes a lot of work, but it doesn't mean that if you are both mature enough to handle it that you can't. You may want to hold on sex, think about what you want to do, but don't forget to talk to him about it too.
Kids mature a good person very fast and does nothing to an immature one.
2007-06-06 03:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by carrie_penny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a little more mature about this first of all.
Yes he got his EX pregnant. Many people do get pregnant by people they are no longer seeing and know what they do? They make a life, a family!
Granted, the mother will most likely keep the kid, but be the one that shows maturity and understanding and be there for him. You don't think he's got stuff freaking in his head too? You say he should be with baby mumma. Is he with her or you? You. So cut it out and look at it what it is. A man that you are with that happens to have a kid with someone. Were you a virgin before you met him? What happened if you were pregnant with someone elses kids but you loved the guy you were with, would you want him to say. Nah, you need to be with the father of the kid and work things out... NO! So don't do that to him.
2007-06-06 03:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be in love with this man, but you also have to remember that he is always going to have his baby mamma and his child in his life too, which may get in the way of your relationship. You need to way out your options and decide whether or not you are ready to deal with this man, his baby mamma, and his child if you keep the relationship going. If you intended to break up with him, it seems like you already know what you want, but you are just not strong enough to do it. Call him on the phone and tell him what you are feeling. You love him, but you might not be physically and emotionally ready to handle the baby mamma drama that may come out later on in your relationship. If you're going to break up with him, do it soon. Don't be afraid to hurt him now by breaking up with him, you might end up even more hurt in the long run. Good luck & Best wishes!!
2007-06-06 03:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be an instance where email works best. He got another girl pregnant. That is what you should be holding onto not the way his voice sounds in your ear. Think he was giving you any thought while he was dipping into the other one. Believe me it is best if you move on
2007-06-06 03:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you LOVE him and he's with you i think its obvious that he got his ex girl pregnant not on purpose..nnuurr duuurr..but my point is if you really love him then your with him for a reason..as for the baby on the way he HAS to be involved but who says you cant be too?...no one your just nervous cuz its notyour kid but you can make the best of it..if he's not with his baby momma then i dont think he wants to be..dont break-up becuz he needs his kid but he might need you just as much!...if you feel so strong about it talk to him but dont make a decision just off the top of your head becuz then you 'll always think of what could have been..dont take the easy way cuz the hard way has always rewards and better outcomes.!
2007-06-06 03:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a child with my ex it doesnt come between me and my girl. Just know that the child should come first and his ex is always gonna have to be in his life. If you love him this shouldnt change anything it's a child not an illness
2007-06-06 03:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, I think if you DON'T break up with this guy... he will definitely break your heart. He'll probably get some other woman pregnant, too. And... you'll have the added stress of his baby reminding you... you'll have to live with that too! Don't answer the phone.
2007-06-06 03:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by LynneL99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to get over it, if he's with and he's gotten some else pregnant he sound like a very good man to have, you need to find someone who will treat because right he ain't s***.
2007-06-06 03:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by xtina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can make the decision. It's time to move on.
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2007-06-06 03:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you know it's best than make yourself do it, you may regret it if you don't...Just be strong.
2007-06-06 03:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋