Is crying "normal" in a relationship?

Question

My girlfriend is extrememely emotional and cries all the time(whether it's about her day, or misinterpreting a joke as an insult, etc.). It can literally happen at any moment. She says that I should be happy that she feels comfortable enough to show her emotions in front of me.

Like the boy who cried wolf, she's done it so often, that what upsets me now is that I don't feel bad when she cries.

Should I accept this as "normal," or should I try to learn to be more accepting of her high emoional sensitivity?

Answer 1

crying is normal, however not at everything. You are right, when a girl crys that often you wont know when she really needs support or when she is just doing it for attention. I actually use to cry often with my boyfriend as well (not as much as your gf though) and he and I talked about how he felt (exactly how you do) and we both have come to a comprise that i have to not cry all the time if I want him to have emotions for me when I am crying. And also he is trying to be more understanding, such as if its that time of the month or so on. Tell her exactly how you feel, and both of you should talk about it and come up with a comprise. It will make the relationship stronger and better, ours is!

Answer 2

I think everyone is different, and everyone has a right to express their feelings in whatever manner he or she feels comfortable in. That being said, if you don't feel comfortable with her crying all the time, you may need to think about the big picture. If 20 years from now the thought of you being with her and all of her tears doesn't sound appealing, then you should gently break it off. I'm not saying that her behavior isn't normal, that's really not the point. That is they way she is and you shouldn't try to change her, just recognize that it may not be a quality that you would care to live with for the rest of your life. And if that's the case, you should break up with her soon; it's better to realize now that you won't work as a couple than stay with that person and decide later that enough is enough.

Answer 3

While crying is "normal", excessive crying isn't. Your girlfriend may be depressed, and not even realize it. You can be "highly emotional" without excessive crying. You might want to sit down, and have a talk with her, encourage her to get some counseling. I'm not saying this is her case, but some females use crying as a tool to control their significant other, so be careful. Sounds like you two need to sit down and do some serious communicating. You obviously care about her, a great deal, so take the time to open the lines of communication and find out what's really going on in her life. Best of luck!

Answer 4

All the time literally isn't normal. It is a sign and I mean a key sign of depression. Crying when something triggers them like anger, an argument, talking about certain things is normal, it is a sign of comfort around someone.

I cry when I am livid, when I am talking about (and to) my husband about when he offered me his kidney and liver (mine failed- and I am crying because I am that happy) and I cried when we got married because I was so happy to be standing in the church with him.

But I don't come home and just cry all of the time. I would sit down calmly and ask her what is making her cry about everything that is happening, is there more going on or is she that flaky. If you really love her and want this to work, you could work with her and see if she wants to talk to someone about what is the trigger for the tears. I do have a degree in psychology (don't practice I don't want to get an MD or work in a HS) and without knowing either of you, I would advise seeing a professional on her part. There are therapies out there that can help with emotional disorders, I am not a big fan of pill popping.

Answer 5

You should understand that not everyone is emotionally tough. She may have been through some bad experiences in the past that make her think this way. I'm sure that if she could, she would feel no need to burst into tears. Best thing to do is give her re-assurance, that no one is out to get her etc. After all, if you were upset, you would expect her to be there for you, rather than telling you to toughen up and telling you it's not a 'real' problem. Bottom line just treat her as you'd like to be treated.

Answer 6

Have you thought that your girlfriend could be suffering from a mental illness - such as a form of depression.

I used to cry all the time at the drop of a hat for no reason at all. It turned out it was because I was suffering from a depressive illness. After treatment with a psychologist I am now back to my normal self.

You need to be understanding and perhaps encourage your girlfriend to seek some sort of help. A good start is her local GP.

People that say she needs to grow a back bone, or are retarded are the reason why many people don't seek help for such problems. It is nothing to be ashamed of, it is an illness just like Cancer. But if someone has cancer you don't tell them to get over.

Support your girlfriend, encourage her to seek some form of help, be it her local doctor or a psychologist.

Answer 7

Hello, Im a very emotional girl too, i take things the wrong way and if i have a bad day i cry. Now if she is crying everyday she maybe needs you right now. Maybe something is going on in her life that is bugging her that she hasnt told you yet. I think that if you love her alot you will try to be more accepting. I know my boyfriend has and i have got less emotional since he has been helping me feel better. Try to find something that will make her happy and slowly try to better her from being overly emotional.

Answer 8

crying and being sad is a normal healthy emotion but you said she has done the "cry wolf' often and i wonder if there's other issues going on...alot of people thrive on getting sympathy and its really not normal to cry all the time about everything...dont feel sorry for her, just empathize and tell her youre sorry that she feels that way and u understand and leave it at that...she may think that crying and getting overly sesitive is a normal way of getting attention from you or anyone else and not really knowing too much about her i couldnt really say but maybe you can suggest talking to someone about it...there's deeper issues going on there...this could range from anxiety to major depression..there's no telling..

psych. mental health nurse practioner..

Answer 9

She sounds a little TOO emotional for a girl. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do... I would probably laugh or roll my eyes. I'm not trying to be mean but It unnecessary to cry that much. If i have a bad day i don't weep about it, yeah i ***** but if something happened to make me cry i would hope my significant other would feel sorry/remorse for me not annoyed. Sounds like you should buy a box of tissues and sit her down and talk to her about it.....Let her know how it make you feel!! Men do have feelings too girls.....I have a very strong relationship w/ my man of three years and we live 600 miles apart. Communication is key

Answer 10

I watch a movie and cry like a baby, I am not emotionally unstable, I think sometimes some of us are very sensitive. I would talk to her about it, and try not to upset her with the things that you say, if that is making her upset. You said your jokes, she took as insults, women just wouldnt say things to hurt a man, in a joke or otherwise. You may not intentionally mean to hurt her, but you do, so try and be a bit more understanding and dont set out to hurt her.