Hello,
Since my dad died and my mum kicked me out, I have not spoken to my mum, I am doing well in my life, I was living with my gf,whos parents happen to be close friends of my mum, now that I have broken up with my gf, my mother is trying the old, I care about him alot and vindictive trick to make people think she is nice and caring and I am the one with the problem,
the question is I don't want her back in my life, I am getting along just fine, what would you do in this situation.
PS: My gf dad clearly like me and would like to see me and thier daughter together, but my drama with my mum who is their mate is making things difficult, now he has been asking what the story is?
2007-06-06 02:12:51 · 10 answers · asked by Intellithug 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dont let her back into ur life unless u're ready & want to... as for the gf, u shouldn't break up with someone just b/c of family issues. talk to her & her family & let them know whats going on. if u want to be with her & she wants to be with u... then it'll work. & if her dad really trust u, then he'll see the honesty in u & not care what ur mom is sayin.
2007-06-06 02:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to perfect the "raised eyebrow, blank look" expression. This is what you use when someone asks you what the story is with your mother. You raise your eyebrow and say "I can't see why this would interest you" and then change the subject.
Your situation with your Mother is your business, it is not anyone else's business. Politely, but firmly, tell people you don't wish to talk about it and they will eventually get the hint.
BTW, if you're fine without your Mother in your life that is your choice. Since you are an adult, you can make this decision and shoulder any consequences/repercussions of your decision. As long as you are comfortable with that, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-06-06 09:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i was in your situation.The best possible thing i would even atttempt to do is to sort out the problem with mum. Find out y shes against u and turning other people against you. Then have a chat with ur gfs father and give him details on the situation so he has an idea of whats going on. But overall i dont think u can live without speaking to ur mum.
2007-06-06 09:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by sexy alli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't no how old you are but I do no that sometime's we forget how short life is and that we don't get to do it over. Unless your mum has done something unforgiveable to you (abuse mental or physical etc..) There are adult way's to handle the relationship without excluding her totally from your life (something you may regret, only you know that). Iam 40 yrs old and my dad is very arguementative (gets worse the older he gets) but i have figured out that that is who he is so I refuse to participate in an arguement with him, so I have him in my life because the good in him farr out weights the bad and I love him but when he gets on a soap box i accuse myself say i love you and go on.That way I will never have regrets when I have to say my final Goodbyes to him. Family is important , sometimes as you get older you ll find out family is all ways there for you good and bad so if you can try to find away to include you mum in your life so that you won't have regrets when you dont have that choice any longer. I hope this helps or makes some kind of since to you.as i said i don' no your true situation.
2007-06-06 09:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a man - to - man talk with your GF's dad and tell him precisely what happened - including why you broke up with his daughter.
You don't say how your GF's mom feels about you - and I would imagine that may have some drama of its own.
Make sure GF's Mom knows the story from your point of view as well.
Then it will be up to them to remain friends with your mom or not.
2007-06-06 09:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be thanking God that you have a mother that is alive and well and wants to be a part of your life. Whatever the problem was with your mom you need to forgive and forget and let it go. Life is too short to walk around holding grudges. They never solve anything. Forgive your mom and love her and make up for lost time. I wish that my mom were still alive.
2007-06-06 09:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by joyce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your situation I would have a casual--but not close relationship with my mom. Just because you don't want her in your life doesn't mean that you can't be at least polite and cordial. I think that you should just be nice to her and keep your distance. As for the father it is none of his business so he needs to butt out.
2007-06-06 09:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them the Truth and if you still like your ex gf give it another chance don't let anyone to mess your love life, and about your mom, just ignore her, talk to her once in a while she is your mom after all, but don't get to touchy
2007-06-06 09:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a man to man conversation with him & tell him the truth.
2007-06-06 09:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What, is he asking you whose story it is from the grave?
2007-06-06 09:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋