My husband was getting into going to Church recently and getting into it. Since we had a argument last night i called the pastor's wife (she is also a pastor too) and told her that i would like to set up a time to talk with her, cause i needed some help. He came in and told me that he wasn't going to go to church anymore because of that. (His mom, brother, sister goes there too) he said he didn't want everyone to be in his business. But the pastor won't say anything to anyone! He was calling me childish and immiture and he took my cell phone and hid it. He told me he was going to shut if off, because when we argue i called people and told them our problems (this is not true) this is the only time i have called anyone because of our arguments. I used to call my brother's wife when we were arguing for some advise, but that was a lone time ago. It's like he is bringing up the past........
2007-06-06 02:05:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
But what can i do? I've been praying and asking God to show him something to help him. See he recently got a job that we prayed for him to get. We had finiancial trouble and we prayed and God showed up. God sent my husbands ex with some groceries, because he had no job and we had no money. How does he do this, knowing that God has doing all this? He sees that God is working in our lives but now is trying to refuse. Also when we go to Church and have praise and worship, he sits there like bump on a log, he doesn't listen to the preaching, or anything. ?????Can someone give me some advise????
2007-06-06 02:10:26 · update #1
Thanks Sybil, but we are adults. My husband blows his head at nothing, so do you think i should get mad or just bite my tounge? UHHH, I'm not a little girl, I'm a woman and my husband should not talk to me in that way.
2007-06-06 02:13:07 · update #2
We cannot change anyone, only they can change themselves. And in order for that to happen, they have to allow God to work in their heart. This is the case with your husband. I know how hard it is. I have a terrible temper myself and my husband can be terribly stubborn. It aggravates me to no end!! But, the best thing I have found is to just remain as calm as possible. "This too shall pass." That is my mantra!!:) But again, your husband will only change or realize his wrongs if he allows the Lord to work in his heart. Just keep praying and try to remain the mature party. Allow him time to cool down and come to an understanding. Go talk to your pastor or his wife. Just having someone to talk to who is strong in faith makes a world of difference. If you love your husband and want to make this all work, then keep your faith, pray and be patient! The Lord will sort it all out as long as you give it over to Him. But you have to release it, realize that God is in control and lay it down before Him.
2007-06-06 02:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First just pray, pray, pray. Try to keep a level head even though it may be hard. I think there is more going on with him in order to make him act this way. Maybe he's having some personal struggle he doesn't know how to deal with. Since he is already this frustrated I can see how he would turn your trying to get help into you just gossiping. I think you should continue to pray about. Maybe for now you should go along with him and not speak to anyone else about your problem and see if he opens up to you. If he doesn't or if the situation gets worse then you should again talk to the pastor's wife or someone else who can be of support. Even in his anger be kind, loving and respectful. Try not to snap back with cruel words, which most couples tend to do. It will not be easy to do, but God will help you through. Keep the faith.
2007-06-06 02:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your not going to like what i have to say but you should have consulted your husband before talking to anyone. I know I may have done the same thing but eventually I would have to realize that he's the head of the house and I am to respect that. The power of prayer way outweighs the power of people and I would have just prayed on it everyday until it got resolved.
Everything in time (in God's perfect timing) would have been handled. God is bigger than your problems.
Have faith, Pray, as I am praying for you in your troubles.
You know God will deliver YOU from this situation even if your husband is not positive toward bible study, he will deliver YOU and he will do it HIS way which might not be the same resolve that you have for yourself. Trust him, and ride it out.... it'll be bumpy and I can tell you are frustrated but hold steadfast in his will and hang on.... when you get through it (and who knows how long) you'll be a better person for it.
Faith testing - it's hard but you can do it!
And remember you can't change your husband's heart yet God can.
2007-06-06 02:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by sassinya 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please consider reading this:
"Me? Obey Him?" Revised Edition, by Elizabeth Rice Handford
Sorry but your husband is right. I wouldn't go to a church that claims it's OK for a woman to be a pastor. Of course, religion always claims it's OK. Religion say it's OK because it bases everything on humanism. A Sunday school teacher to other women and children is biblical. But for a woman to claim herself as a pastor to men,...you can't pick up a King James Bible and prove it's biblical. Sorry, but "I think," "I feel" and "that's not fair" don't count. If they do, show where such terms exist and are justified in the Bible?
Now, your husband is wrong about the issue on the cell phone. Rest assure, God will deal with him about that. But God has appointed your husband to seek out which church you both should attend.
If you want to make trouble for your marriage and yourself, bad mouth him in public. Then God will deal with you.
2007-06-06 18:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As Christians we believe that life brings us many trials in order to test our faith, and th may also be one of them.
It seems through your question that you strongly believe in the power of prayer. The first thing you should be doing is praying to God to give you strength, patience and guidance to come through this trying period.
Then you need to start behaving like a mature adult. You cannot go running to other people to tell them about your marital problems without having discussed them with your husband first. It is understandable that he would feel hostile to you speaking to somebody else about your problems, especially when you make it sound like you are not really going to seek help, but rather going to have a gossip session.
Make sure your intentions are appropriate, that you put God first,and that your heart is in the right place, and all else will follow suit.
2007-06-06 02:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please seek competent advise about this with a liscenced Christian councelor in your area. your marriage is very important and sounds like you guys have some unresolved issues that you need to deal with so your relationship can grow.( dont we all?) Try praying together. Divorce rates are 50 % nation wide and sometimes higher in churches. (go figure)
But among couples who pray together and pray for each other that drops to 1 in 1500.
share that with your husband and see if he will begin to pray WITH you every day.
2007-06-06 02:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by walked365 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some deeper issues here than Y!A can answer. You need marriage counseling from someone other than that pastor.
In the meantime, don't trust others with too much information in the future, unless you are in a formal counseling situation. It can make your partner feel betrayed.
2007-06-06 02:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Free To Be Me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A husband and wife should be of one mind. Apologize to him for not discussing it with him first and tell him that you have concerns about your marriage and think you and he should talk to someone about them. If he is uncomfortable talking to the pastor because it's "to close to home", tell him that you understand and see if both of you can agree on who you can talk too. Try to find solutions to your problems together as a team.
2007-06-06 02:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. E 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are guilty as charge. Before this , you just told the Pastor's wife, but now You've told the whole world.
I think you are a willful and spiteful wife, scheming to destroy your husband compulsively without shame and even take it to the world stages to get people on your side to slander him.
If I am your husband - I will show you the door unless , of course my answer shock you to your senses and you repent before God and ask your husband for forgiveness and change over a new leaf !
Shame on you woman !
And you called yourself a christian !
2007-06-06 03:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe if he is absolutely assured of privacy in the matter.....he will go.
Pray for the situation first and foremost.......
You are simply reaching out because you are concerned and you love him. Has your pastor called him personally?
That might help too.
2007-06-06 02:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by primoa1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋