How many times has this question been asked about spanking?

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And who is blue in the face?
What i want to know from the bleeding hearts is WHY do you think spankings are abuse? How did you get this in your heads? I can't believe you think they are one in the same. Abuse is: beating your child black and blue, not feeding them, leaving them unattended, and so much more i couldn't name them all. A spanking is a pop on the bottom. How the hell is that abuse? Can't you see how taking paddles out of schools has changed kids these days? What is wrong with you? A spank gets their attention and is over very quickly and effectivly. Taking a toy away, please, my kids are smarter than that. I would have to take every single toy away in the house for that to be effective. They just play with something else. You can't tell me spankings make them scared of you, or makes them abuse other children. That is such crap!
So tell me, what makes spankings abuse in your eyes?

Let me add that spankings are not my only form of punishments. However, i am not afraid to spank my kids if they need it. Like i said in another post. I have two children, one never gets spanked because other forms, ie. sending her to her room, taking away fun times she was waiting for, those kinds of things work. The other needs a spank to buck her up. The other punishments don't work, AT ALL.

I love all your answers so far. But i really would love to hear from the ones that think spankings are abuse. Or as they call them "a Beating".

Still no posts from the bleeding hearts. Where are you this morning. You are here everytime someone posts a "should i spank my children" question.

I hope you are writing a list for me. A long one. Because i really want to know the answer to this question.

Answer 1

I believe the failure to properly discipline your child is neglect. Spanking, as a means of discipline, works and is not abuse. Failure to teach your child proper behavior subjects them to a bad adjustment shock when they finally get out on their own, a shock some never recover from and never manage to fit into society. They have to learn in very short order how to behave and how to deal with all the rules and disappointments of reality. It can be very difficult.

Answer 2

I have three children, the first I spanked often, the second not so much, and the third rarely. My youngest is now 16 and the oldest 25 and they are all well behaved and no problems as of now. I feel that discipline in whatever form a parent chooses must be consistent, and the child must know you mean business. Often I see children misbehaving in restaurants and stores and I just see red that the parents allow this behavior. If one of my children misbehaved in a restaurant, I would take that child to the car (kicking and screaming if need be!) and there we would sit until the rest of the family was done. a missed meal on my part was well worth seeing my children well mannered in the future. This was effective because going out to eat or to the store was a privilege, and they knew if they wanted to go they had better behave! A swat on the bottom is not abuse, but use care, some parents probably shouldn't spank, I know there were times I didn't spank because I was so angry. Then it's time for time out for parent and child, until you have a clear head. That's my two cents worth, and if your child is obnoxious when your out, that's me glaring at you!!

Answer 3

I don't think a little spank in the bottom is abuse, I did it a couple of times with my two oldest sons, of course I was very young and now I realized that must of the time If I spank them was out of frustration....now that I am older and have more patience with my other two younger kids I don't spank them, I realized that talking to them firmly and take away privileges works for them. When you spank your kids you do it by the heat of the moment, because you had enough that your kid don't listen, if you instead wait a few seconds and think what is the best way to make your child listen to what you want him to do ...you'll see that there is no need for the spanking. I was spanked when I was a child and turned out well, no resentments towards my mother or violence against anyone. I mean...spanks works for some parents because they don't know what else to do, but if you try other methods like take away privileges works too, but I'm not talking about favorite toys, that doesn't work, I took away playstaytion,nintendos an psp and they don't care, they even bring it to me when they know they did something wrong...I go to something further...like not going to a place they were looking forward to go, or not eating something they really like ...(now...if they start to act up the one who is misbehaving will not get to go swimm in the pool...he will be just watching from outside while the rest enjoys)

Answer 4

You know, I'm soooo glad that you posted this. The spanking questions have been getting quite annoying, to say the least, and for people to say that spanking is abuse is just wrong.

Abusing your child and spanking your child is most definitely not the same thing. I was spanked as a child, my children are spanked if they do something so very wrong. We don't go on beating them, they just get a couple of swats on the bottom. There is such a difference between the two.

You're right about taking the toy away. Take away EVERY SINGLE toy in the house.

My children aren't scared of me or my husband. We have a loving and nurturing home.

Thanks again for pointing these things out. :)

Answer 5

The Bible says spare the rod spare the child and that means that if you don't correct your child and teach them right from wrong, the child is lost. In society today so many children are being lost because extremist think you should not spank your child. Well what has that got us, lots of unruly, disrespectful brats, thieves, liars and list goes on and on. I have a paddle and I use it in severe cases of misbehavior. I also spank my child if they need it. If my child does something a little less than that she gets time out. I also have a 12 yr old that society has brain washed into thinking that she can do anything that she wants and I can't touch her because every time she gets in trouble, she says "You can't touch me i'll call social services" this is a joke!!! I can't believe that the world as we know it today would brainwash our children into thinking we can't correct them. Sure I can take away a TV, a phone, or priviledges, but that alone does not make a child understand how they need to act. A spanking takes care of the problem when it happens, the child does not have time to forget what they did wrong, the issue is taken care of immediately. If she really does wrong she gets a paddling and priviledges taken away, simple as that. If somebody wants to tell me what I can and cannot do to my flesh and blood, then they can take the would be heathen and raise them, we'll see how far they get before they bring them back!! I was whipped, spanked, paddled, sometimes beat, but I am proud of the person I became. Had I not been "Corrected" where would I be today. I would have no morals, no respect for anyone or anything, & a dead end life probly with drugs, no job, and nothing to be proud of. Thats how I feel about this, and if people don't like it, then too bad.

Answer 6

I just starred you because I am 110% with you on that. I have a 12 year old boy who is defenitly going throught the rotten stage, try putting him in timeout thats a big joke. I look back at when I was a kid and a teen and yes there were some out of control kids but look at the kids today since everyone wants to cry abuse over a spanking, these kids are out of control, drinking, doing druggs, having sex, getting knocked up at very young ages, messing up in school, have no respect for law or authority. Why because we have nosey @$$ people who want to tell us how to raise our children and obviously its not working for these kids. I dont see anything wrong with a spanking when needed and personally I think they need to bring it back to the school system also instead of the schools wanting kids medicated because they cant deal with their behaivor. People need to focus more on the children that are really being abused,neglected, sexaulay and menatly abused, rather then keeping focus on good parents that are trying to raise there kids properly.

Answer 7

Thank God someone on here has some common sense when it come to disciplining these children. I don't know where these morons have gotten the idea that spankings are abuse. You are absolutely right. Abuse is not feeding your kids, or just whoopin on them because you are having a bad day. By all means that is abuse and needs to be reported.
When kids act up and you have told them time and time again to stop what they are doing or else, and they still do it, then you need to whoop their behinds. Sometimes you have to show this kids that you are not playing games with them.
I love children and I hate whoopin butts and I try my best to avoid this at all costs, but whenever thing else fails whoop butts.
Thank you so much poster for asking this question. It makes me feel good knowing that someone out their is taking th time to raise their kids up right. I know that you aren't one of those moms that I see out in the streets trying to negotiate with a 3 year old that is cursing you out.

Answer 8

I agree with you completely. Every parent has the right to decide what discipline works best for THEIR child - after all, God gave THEM that child and HE knows what He's doing! NOBODY has the right to interfere unless there is true abuse involved - and a pop on the bottom with your bare hand is NOT abuse. I know plenty of law enforcement officials that will verify this. (Judges, attorneys, and police officers)

The primary form of discipline should be age appropriate and may involve anything from time-outs to taking away toys/privileges to being accountable for the consequences of poor choices. However, there are times when a smack on the hand or the bottom is warranted, and I DARE anybody to interfere with the way I discipline children that are entrusted to my care. I respect the parent's wishes if the child is not my own, but most of them agree with the methods I use because they use them too. I rarely spanked my own daughters because they were disciplined (taught acceptable behavior) from the start. Same thing for my granddaughter. She is a toddler and every time we are out in public, I receive MANY compliments about how well behaved she is - especially if someone is standing close by when she asks for something, and I say "no...not today", then she says "Ok Nana", and that's the end of it. It's as though people have never seen a toddler who can take "no" for an answer without throwing a tantrum - they are completely in awe! I am disgusted by the number of children I see beating up on their mothers / caregivers in public places because they aren't getting their way, and even MORE disgusted by the number of adults who actually give IN to these children just to shut them up! And then they wonder why these children grow into self-centered, bullying brats! DUH! If spankings are handled properly, it will NOT cause children to abuse other children. Children who have parents who indulge their every whim are the ones who bully others & cause disruptions in class rooms, because they have parents who let them have their way all of the time, so they expect everybody else to do it too! Children who are victims of true child abuse tend to be WITHDRAWN.

Spankings may put a reverential fear in the child, and that is NOT a bad thing. Child abuse is a serious matter. I grew up as a victim of emotional and physical abuse, and I have also cared for many children who were legitimate victims of abuse. It is INSULTING and IGNORANT to put legitimate corporal punishment in the same category as abuse. I would've MUCH rather had one or two swats on the bottom with a bare hand out of love than the beatings with a hairbrush or belt or switch from a tree until my mom's anger was exhausted and she was just too tired to swing away anymore!

Answer 9

a great form of the bleeding hearts that think of spanking is abuse have probable by no potential been spanked as quickly as of their lives. they do no longer comprehend that there's no longer something harmfull in giving your infant some smacks to the butt with an open hand. some babies dont respond to holiday, loss of privledges or different "passive" varieties of self-discipline. look at 40-50 years in the past. each youngster have been given spanked, no longer in common terms by utilising mom and pa the two, aunts uncles grandparents even friends. in case you misbehaved you acquire spanked end of tale. there replaced into no the place close to the quantity to young babies violence that there is as we communicate. a college capturing wasn't even a concept to be understood returned then simply by fact babies knew the thank you to act and what replaced into envisioned of them. i think of that the government could haven't any say in how mom and father self-discipline their babies. If a infant is being abused fantastic step in for the protection of the youngster yet while a infant receives spanked while he does incorrect stay OUT OF IT. Odds are that youngster is the only which will by no potential see the indoors workings of our justice device!

Answer 10

I am not against spankings myself. Whippings, paddles, belts, wooden spoons-YES. But a good old fashioned bare butt spanking is a good thing. Hitting out of anger of course is wrong and will always be. When I was a little girl and got in trouble my mother got down on her knees, told me what I did wrong, sent me to my room and about 15 minutes later she would come up to spank me. She never hit me out of anger, and I think the waiting for her was a great added discipline.