I have been with the same guy 7 years IM 25 He is 27 we were engaged in 2005 and were to be wed aug 19 2006 my mother and me planed a butiful wedding and put a lot of work into it and quite a bit of money as well money that my family worked vary hard for we are not a rich family by all means so for my parents to give something this big meant a lot to them and to me two weeks before the wedding the groom walked out and I have not fully recovered sense I was vary hurt AND my family to this day have a hard time trusting him as do i we have broken up and gotten back together with the intentions of marriage three time and each time we get close to the date and he runs we tried again in feb this year and I told him he could plane the wedding and I would be happy with any thing he plan im not a material girl I should mention his family hates me because im not rich and THAT has a lot to do with the break ups I feel like I have lost my best friend and my true love
what do i do
2007-06-06 00:37:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Honey, it is time to move on. The first time he ran should have told you that he is not the marrying type. You should find a man that not only respects and loves you, but respects and loves your family. Your parents have every right to be very cautious with your ex because he screwed them over badly. He needs to step up and offer to give your parents back some of the money they lost due to him being a jerk and a loser.
If he was your best friend and true love he would have stayed put and married you. If his parents are that superficial about money then they need to grow up too.
2007-06-06 02:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake was taking him back the first time you broke up with him even before the 2005 bomb shell.
This ought to tell you something. He isn't ready for marriage. And neither are you, for that matter.
For heaven's sake - you call him your best friend? Yet, he runs out on you 2 weeks before the wedding? Shesh! With friends like that you don't need an enemy!
Listen to your family and ditch this jerk. He's caused you enough pain and embarrassment already. Not to mention costing a fortune in wedding deposits. What pig.
2007-06-06 01:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him when he grows up to call you because you are tired of him being so childish. If you let him come back so many times you are being a fool. You are trying to hang on to him because you have been together so long but if he is not willing to grow up then there is no future. You should start dating someone else. Don't hurt your family anymore with this insensitive guy. It is hard on your parents to see you get hurt over and over by the same guy. He is not your best friend or he would not treat you this way. He doesn't love you much either or else he would stand up to his family for you.
2007-06-06 15:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that this happened to you. I agree with the others that are saying that you should leave him. He doesn't sound like he really wants to get married yet. You should find someone else that will love you more then he does and won't just stand you up right before your wedding. He may be 27 but I think he's still immature and isn't ready to settle down just yet. Dump him and find someone who will love you for who are and who will see the beautiful person you are. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-06-06 07:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sound like he really doesn't love you as much as you love him. When a man is serious about a woman you know. There is nothing that will keep him from being with her, weather it be mother, father, brother or whoever else. Sorry this happened and yes it will take time to heal, but try to do your best. Also, try to recoup some of your money too if you can. No need to be pissed and poor.
2007-06-06 00:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by newsgal03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should make him feel you are going to leave him. Have a male friend pose for your new boyfriend. Tell him that you want to get married and since he's not serious about it, you will marry this other guy. If he really loves you, that should get him over his fears and you live happily ever after. If he gives you up, then you are lucky to leave and move on. Good luck!
2007-06-06 01:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he choses his family over you then trust me,you dont want him anyway,been that road and I will guarantee you,the family will find a way to break you up no matter what.If he truely loves you then he will commit to you and tell his family to respect his choice and to treat you with dignity,otherwise it is just not the right choice
2007-06-06 00:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a bit like you may like the drama - why else would you stay - really?
dump him for real and move on - your 25 - get on with your life
2007-06-06 01:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by roadrunner426440 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep going back to this guy? He has shown you three times that he doesn't want to get married.
Stop wasting your time, and your parents' money, and dump this guy. It's time to move on!
2007-06-06 01:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to jot down a foul gram to him and comprise each and all of the failings she desires to tell him, then burn it. Remind her that she is fortunate to ascertain earlier she married the jerk! And advise councelling. Its very infantile of her to break individuals's large day. i could tell her that if she went all drama queen lots as as quickly as approximately me marrying, i could drop her like a foul date. If human beings save letting her wreck out with this habit, she'll save doing it!
2016-11-05 02:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋