Should I CUT this GUY out of my life - AFTER HOW HE MESSED ME UP! WHAT HE DID TO ME?

Question

Met a guy 10 months ago through another guy friend we were like best friends & were also very attracted to each other. During the early stages he told me that he wasn’t looking 4 a serious relationship with any1 at the moment. So we were not intimate but stayed close & got EVEN closer than b4. That was when he started sayin that Im someone that he would really like to b with as I am very intelligent, ambitious & very articulate. I even went to the US on holiday & he would call me from the UK & talk to me for ages were so close. Then we started seeing each other officially & things didn’t 100% work out as he wasn’t in the frame of mind for a relationship & he was a very self centered he's a Gemini. Every time we tried to move on we would always somehow go back. We finally broke things off 4 good as I gave him 1 last chance 2 tell me what exactly he wanted & he said that we should b just friends & would no longer be intimate as it was confusing the whole situation as he was not ready

So I moved on never called, he ALWAYS called me, making excuses to call. Then we had the 1st ever massive argument and he was very RUDE as he can be. I said that he has mislead me, He said that he never mislead me, when he DID many times. I had reminded him of 1 of the times when he told me to wait and see what happens and he said to me “WELL IF I TOLD YOU TO JUMP OFF A CLIFF WOULD YOU DO IT?I was really angry and started crying, he was hugging wiping my tears saying that he went humble straight away.
I said to him that I didn’t know if we could work this out as it has gone too far and he said that he wants to work things out!
He really messed me up, I was in a state. and didnt know if there was any going back after that

He called me the next day to see if we were on good terms again and at the time I said yes, but have changed my mind! am I wrong?
He has called me 5 times since and left a message for me to call. I havent returned them. Should I??
I just dont feel that there is any grounds now for anything to go forward between us as it has gone so far and nothing has come out of it! do I return the call, his birthday is also next week?

Answer 1

Yes, cut him out. Sounds like you've already made that decision...stick to your decision.

Answer 2

Listen to your heart!!!
There is always difficult to tell anything on the situation you have, because you know that much better than anyone and only you who can solve it. From your short story, i understood that you are not so much interested in that guy, because you feel uncomfortable about his behavior and his words. That's a serious step in life - to start the relationship with someone else - you should take the responsibilities for that person and trust him/her your heart, yourself.
In your situation it would be very difficult to do so, to trust yourself to that guy.... even after his words "if you would jump if he would told you" - this is nonsense. You shouldn't cry in the situations like that, but you must be strong to answer, that the person, who takes the responcibilities for the other one, for the one he loves should care and cover him/her with love, but not "saying what and how to do".
I think, you may be the good frinds with each other, congratulate each other with birthdays and go out sometimes, and care about each other as friends. But for some serious future, there are too many things both you shoudl take into account, and follow each other's breath to stay happy.
Think if you can trust that person, if you can follow his steps and feel his breath - then you willl definitelt understand what you should do!!

Best of luck to you!!


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Answer 3

You posted this question 20 times.
You need to seek the help of a mental health professional. You are obsessive and a pathalogical liar.

There are plenty of other gay guys or gay girls or straight guys or straight girls (depending on which post of yours a person looks at) out there you can have relationships with.
Get over it and stop calling him.


Move on, it was not meant to be.
Get some professional help, or think up some other questions.

Answer 4

geminis are the greatest manipulators you will meet my dad is one, i am a taurus and personally have onyl met two that are good people. and it is always the golden rule to cease all communication after a "serious" relationship.

Answer 5

you should move on not return the calls ect you are dealing with what i term a wishy washy person that does not know what they want so best to leave them alone

Answer 6

tell him where to go. that **** aint got no respect for a girl. move on and get a man that will never treat you bad and be controllive or violant etc. you may need to change ya fone aswell. do you have bebo?? email me. im jus wondering. bless, k. frosty

Answer 7

Your in crisis, when was the last time you were in a relationship before this?

His words were only as good as the actions behind them. His were scripted, and now your in pain. He admits his doings and is equally confused. I could go on and on.

Cut your losses, you experienced a bad relationship.
Seriously tell more about your last relationship.......................................................

Answer 8

i think he was too rude. but you should also call him don't leave him hanging. friendship is something that should be cherished, if you have a chance to save one then don't hesitate. even if things might never be the same, save the friendship .

Answer 9

ahh.... ??????... AFTER HOW HE MESSED ME UP! WHAT HE DID TO ME???????

It takes two to Tango ....

is this relationship a positive experience at this time in your life, is it adding joy to you..... and both are growing from the experience or is it sucking the life out of you both?...

answer that and figure out what your next move is.

Answer 10

He's using you, this relationship is unhealthy. You need to be more sure of yourself. You both need to work on yourselves.