At what point can children do their own laundry and/or clean their rooms without being traumatized/overwhelmed

Answer 1

When you can trust that your child understands the use & care of the machinery and the products they will be using, then let them use.

If you think about it, there are kids in tribes of other countries who, at 4, are able to stealthfully wield a machete that can take their arm off, and kids who are in garment districts working with their Moms at 6 who can run sewing machines with both speed & accuracy...there are little ones of 6-8 who can do things on motorcycles, skateboards & bikes that I would never even imagine trying! LOL

A clean room, however? Lots a luck, Dear Parent! LOL This is what a door is for! Seriously, though...kids learn what clean means by the way their home is kept elsewhere...whether they decide to employ that knowledge in their own realm--their room--should be up to them...usually kicks in gear when they have someone coming over that they would like to impress or they come to their own point of not being able to live in their space...hopefully. My rule was that anywhere that all members of the family had access was to be kept in acceptable state--this is co-existence. If they had to share a room, (including having someone over) this rule applied...if they were presented with the responsibility of their own space, then it's condition reflected their personal care, as long as it did no harm to the value of the home, it was theirs to do or not do--they had control. Believe it or not, many of the sloppiest of children turn out to be the neat-freaks as adults.

Answer 2

A three-year-old can be taught some "room cleaning" routines. Last thing before bed, all the toys go in the toy box, or on the shelves they came from. If they are old enough to get them out, they're old enough to put them back. Other "cleaning" tasks can be added as the child becomes physically able to do them. Laundry is more "advanced." The child should be tall enough to load the washer while standing in front of it. He should also be reponsible enough to sort his dirty clothes and use the machine correctly. Traumatized by doing chores???!!!

Answer 3

Laundry-13
Clean room-6

Answer 4

Kids can be taught to pick up after themselves pretty early on though it might take some help. I "trained" my nephews to help pick up when they were about 18 months. It grows from there into picking up the room. As far as laundry, that would depend on the child but I think 10 is a good age for them to do their own by themselves. You can start having them help by sorting colors as soon as they understand the concept. Start them early and keep them involved and it'll work out fine. Good luck.

Answer 5

Traumatized, are you kidding? Kids should learn to clean up after themselves when they're old enough to pick up a toy and walk to the toybox with it, and laundry when it's physically safe for them, starting at 10 or so. Why should a kid be overwhelmed by learning to wait on themselves?

Answer 6

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You may have to "traumatize" them (only a little verbal encouragement) so they understand that it is an expected behavior, not just a desire on your part. At first it doesn't have to be done "perfectly". Children are the definition of selfish and as they grow and learn they become more social and start exhibiting acceptable social behaviors (due to either negative or positive consequences to their actions or lack of action). Their first social setting is the immediate family.

Answer 7

i'm 14 and i do all the laundry in the house, plus keep my room clean and do dishes.

Answer 8

My 4 year old cleans her own room!

Answer 9

If you've just always insisted that the child do so, as in participating w' the child 'to put up the blocks' , as they get older these seem like normal routine. It will seem like a punishment if sprung upon . Be consistant.

Answer 10

the second they're physically capable of doing it