We had a very turbulent 10-year marriage. He threatened divorce several times. He moved out several times. When I finally agreed that we need a divorce, he refused to move out. Now that the divorce is moving forward, he is extremely angry. Why is he so angry? Why can't he move on with his life?
2007-06-05 16:28:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because over the 10 year period he used to the d word to get you upset
now that its moving forward he has realized his ploy has backfired and is p$%^ed
maybe thats not why he is angry but its my 2 cents worth
2007-06-05 16:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by rage6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's angry because he got to make the decisions about all of those things. The threats of divorce? His call. Him moving out? His call. You telling him you want a divorce? YOUR call, and he doesn't like it. He never thought you would actually go through with it and now that you have, he can't handle it. He's not in charge anymore when it sounds like he was in the past. Now he has no control over what's going to happen and it's a very unfamiliar and unwanted feeling. He's very angry that you've taken control of the situation.
And I say, way to go and stand up for yourself! You deserve a wonderful man that you can count on. Best of luck to you.
2007-06-05 23:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Reality has set in and he now knows that things are going to change and they'll never be the same. Some people can deal with change and some people have a hard time with it. Could he be angry because he has to move out? It might be best if you both moved out and started fresh in new places, this way it's fair.
2007-06-05 23:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a controller. Here are 4 signs of a controller. #1 if they don't get their way they begin name calling, if that doesn't work they move up to #2 guilt tripping, if that doesn't work it is on to #3 anger, if that doesn't work it is on to the ultimate #4 abandonment. He has been trying to control you, and several times he has gotten to stage 4. He is the insecure one, but he is trying to make you think you are. He doesn't really want to split up he just wants you to do what he wants. His tactics have worked up until now. Now they have backfired because you are willing to get the divorce.
2007-06-05 23:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he didn't want a divorce he just wanted to be able to be passive aggressive and have you put up with tantrums all your life. What a baby! Do yourself a favor and get the divorce and next time marry a man not a little boy.
2007-06-05 23:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has been using the threat of divorce to manipulate you. What he has done is called "emotional blackmail." Now that your relationship has reached a point that the blackmail will no longer work and he will lose the ability to manipulate you, he is angry. The person he should be angriest at is HIMSELF! Serves the idiot right.
2007-06-05 23:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bubbeh C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just mad you went through with it . He most likely thought you would be there for him( you were before!) Divorces can be messy some people can't see when the marrage needs to end even if it was bad.
2007-06-05 23:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tina D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't really want a divorce. Maybe he realized that he does love you and wants to work it out but it's too late. Maybe he's having second thoughts. Have you guys tried counselling?
Good luck.
2007-06-06 01:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by smileygurl80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems angry because you followed through with his threats. Hopefully the divorce won't be to ugly and you didn't say whether or not their are kids involved but hopefully there are none in yours.
2007-06-06 00:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's angry because you called his bluff.. you said no more ... and went forward ... he won't move forward because this is not what he wants. He assumed you'd allow him to threaten forever. You deserve better. I wish you the best
2007-06-05 23:33:44 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋