we have talked about it, but he always change the subject and we havent been married for that long only a year.
2007-06-05 16:25:56 · 13 answers · asked by Jore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well he has an issue somewhere with either sex or you. He could be having an affair but you did not mention him being gone at odd times and behavior changing. If he is not willing to talk about it then there is not much you can do. You can try to do things to turn him on and see if he accepts you, like go in and sit naked beside him on the couch and kiss on him. things like that. If he still does not respond to you then he might have problem with his plumbing down there. You said you talk about it but he change the subject so i am guess you talked about it but he really did not. Right now you have to figure out what is going on with him. Why he suddenly does not want to have sex with you. Is he older? But with so little detail it is hard to say. Hope you figure it out but just keep trying. Sooner or later if this keeps up it could wreck what you have if it bothers you so much, yes i know you have your needs and he has his but is he getting them met somewhere else? How long have you been together and how long has this been going on? So many questions left unanswered. Contact me if you feel the need to talk and get a guys point of view, just don't want to get you into hot water with him.
2007-06-05 17:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by Will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. That's all. The libido is not something you can control. Many people feel that since they are not having sex as much as they did when they first got involved that it means they are no longer attractive. This isn't true. Men, and women, sometimes simply lose interest in sex. The good news is that his desire to be close to you will return. It might take 6 months, six weeks, or six days. Don't force the situation; and don't panic. In the meantime, enjoy other ways of expressing your love. Your husband's desire will return eventually; so just be patient, and wait.
2007-06-05 16:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by bg4gb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons for his lack of sex drive, maybe he is under a lot of stress at work or dealing with adjusting to married life. Has he put on weight? Also depression can also cause a man to lose his drive. Try to gently talk about it. Just don't make him feel worse. Let him know that you are concerned and ask if there is anything you can do to help things along.
2007-06-05 16:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by PharmNerd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...it sounds like you two need to have a serious conversation and if he won't talk to you, you need to suggest some counseling to get you two communicating. Can you think of anything that has changed in the relationship, either with you or with him? Are there any stresses that are pressing on the household or on him personally? Is he otherwise sweet and loving towards you? He might have a physical issue that needs addressing. Good luck.
2007-06-05 16:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm that is a difficult question to answer, but will try.
Sometimes it takes a "spontaneous" action that you actually set up.. hahahah I am thinking perhaps one morning, roll over, put your leg on him or something, snuggle up to him, or in general, do something that you know will excite him and see what happens.. I am not saying you should have to do this each and every time, just once to "get the pump primed" and see if that helps. What do you think happened?? did he catch you? does he have a problem that is nagging him? work, medical? homelife? money? stress can reduce desire in a lot in men. Can you remove that stress or problem? or are you that stress or problem? Or is some other woman the problem? You probably know the answer, look deep..
2007-06-05 17:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by billy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...think of these possible scenarios i listed below......as to why he won't even talk to you about it and he's changing the subject when you try to talk about it...
do you have bad breath ?
do you h ave body odor ?
do you smell down there in between your legs ?
do you give a really bad bjs that don't satisfy him ?
maybe he's been getting it from someone else..maybe an old friend ?
Good luck to you...
2007-06-05 16:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by cnn360coffeebubbles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this but I think he may be having an affair. I have been married for about 11 yrs and my hubby is willing anytime I am. I'm so sorry but there is something horribly wrong here for a man not to be interested in sex its just against nature.
2007-06-05 16:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by RoseyRevisited 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Is he Gay??? If he won't, get love from some other man. I've lived 40 years this way. Don cut yourself off. Leave him!!! Make a good life for yourself while you are young!
2007-06-05 16:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lin c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insist on marital counseling to find out what is going on. If he won't go, go yourself to help get the tools to cope with your divorce. And get one. Don't live your life like that.
2007-06-05 16:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him see a doctor and a shrink. The doctor could get him some viagra and the shrink could help him if it depression.
2007-06-05 16:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋