I need to know how I can find out if my girlfriend/fiance is cheating on me. Its a very long story and I need help. Is there a way to find out her internet activity emails,myspace,phone calls etc. Im not some wackado Im just going nuts. If anyone has any good idea about software or somthing that has worked for them please let me know. If you have somthing that works I would be glad to explain whats going on so you feel more confident in sharing info with me or helping me. Thanks!
2007-06-05 16:04:14 · 13 answers · asked by William P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said Fiance!! Sounds like Your getting a bit Paranoid!!! Cold Feet maybe? Why don't you just ask one of her closest friends!! or the people she hangs out with!! It's probably not true, your just getting paranoid about getting married!
2007-06-05 16:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. Take a deep breath. Let me ask you... If you install software on the computer (and yes, there is such a thing) and catch her cheating, how would you feel? I presume, terrible. Anxious. Angry. Upset. Deceived. Etc. etc. Probably not much more different than you feel right now. In your mind, you have already made her guilty. Because you have already made her "guilty", if you don't catch her after installing the software, you will still always wonder. You don't want your marriage to get off on the wrong foot, like it is. Do the right thing - talk with her. Tell her your concerns. You can't live your life spying on her or wondering. In fact, have enough self-respect to REFUSE to live that way. You deserve better. Communicate and see where it goes. Good luck!
2007-06-05 16:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I don't mean to sound rude but you have a problem. You should not be in a relationship if you are this untrusting. What you are talking about is virtual stalking which is a complete invasion of privacy. If you don't trust her then don't be with her. Even if she isn't cheating on you I can tell this relationship is not going to work because you will eventually suspect her again or if she finds out about you stalking her she will be completely freaked out and not trust you. Frankly I think it's rather terrifying for a guy to do something like that.
2007-06-05 16:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by al l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your intuition is kicked in, chances you are right.
Click on sent button in emails and see who she is sending to if possible. Phone calls for cells are listed with mine anyway, get the tracking list and look at the numbers. Call and see who answers. Get a hold of Best Buy stores or electronic places that deal with computer know how. See what kind of services are rendered to get set up that would be to detect incoming emails and calls on the cable line or whatever. See what can be done to set it up so that she would not know about.
Film her by calling the tv show Cheaters! You will know for sure and she will be on tv for everyone to catch her.
Watch out for extra underwear lacy stuff, new clothes, out of her way for over time, extra long meetings, out of the way errands, not eating much at home.
I hope you are wrong, but most of the time you are not. Could there be drugs involved?? Use caution and don't assume anything, it is dangerous any way you go.
2007-06-05 16:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by donna D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing. My husbands best friend told me that he was cheating on me. (It turned out to be a lie, and that he was in love w/me...) What I ended up doing is calling his friends-specifically the ones that I was worried about. I asked them directly, and they were honest with me. I told him about it later that night, and he ended up breaking off the friendship with his best friend because of it.
Another idea is just to ask them directly, find out their passwords, and look into his old mail. It won't tell you everything, but it will either confirm or deny your suspicions.
2007-06-05 16:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Chris G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm you would have to put it on her computer and i think that is illegal. She can't cheat on you via computer, email, etc, she can only make arrangements to cheat...
You will know if she is cheating on you... you can tell by her actions and attitude.
there are keytrappers on the internet for free if you want to go that route... I wouldn't... sometimes we find out more things than we should know... be forewarned.
2007-06-05 16:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by billy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File Rescue plus ...... All files you delete sits on the hard drive tell the hard drive needs the spaces and overrides them. This software will let you view and restore the delete files on the computer.
2007-06-05 16:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by ladyluckisme2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relationship is to communicate with each other. Please do not SPY on someone. You're not helping yourself, you're creating more problems. Grow up young man, it's not end of the world. Just how much do you put trust in her...... Wake up.
2007-06-05 16:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tan J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have trust in your relationship, you dont have a relationship. Stop beating yourself up. It's not worth the time OR effort.
2007-06-05 16:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make up a phony myspace account and ask her out.
2007-06-05 16:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋