Compulsive Liars?

Question

Have you ever known a compulsive liar?
What did they do/say when you confronted them?
Do you think they'll ever change?

My friend says it's her "flaw" and everyone is flawed (basically saying there's nothing she can do about it)...I think I'm going to have to end our 10 year friendship b/c of this. Do you think someone like this would ever change?

Why do people lie like this? About everything...for no reason...

Answer 1

Did you believe her when she said its her flaw? Do you know when to believe her?

More importantly, was she a liar when you first met her? If so, why do you expect her to change? If your personalities can't get along, then go seperate ways. This hasn't bothered you to this degree in the past, that's how you have a 10 year relationship. What has changed in you?
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Answer 2

No, a compulsive liar is not automatically a cheater too. Unless of course they've cheated and lied about it...then add cheater to the list. I've learned that compulsive liars lie because they honestly believe their lives are nothing exciting to talk about...which usually means they have really low self esteems. I know it causes anger, frustration and pain, but making that person realize the actions of their lies, only encourages them to lie more so that they spare the feelings of those around them. I know it sounds odd, but it's true. Think about it, would you rather tell your loved one that they look like crap...or look for something nice to say? Even if you have to make it up. Most liars start off with those little lies to spare feelings, then it just becomes habit. If you want to break the habit, focus on the honesty...even if it's the most mundane of a detail. The more interest you show in what truth that person actually tells, the more likely that person will be to share the truth. And here is another point to ponder. Picture yourself as a child who just got into trouble. we've all been there and we've all lied to spare the consequence of a stupid action. If this person knows that you are going to be mad about something he/she has done...you are going to get a lie. If you react differently, you might start getting some truth. I wish you a ton of patience honey, you are going to need it.

Answer 3

a friend ship of 10 years shouldn't end you should be a friend and ask her if she likes being a compulsive liar? ask if her past was different would she want to be a compulsive lier... then tell her and help her study habits and the sub counsious mind. do it together and you help her make the connections from the exampes givin with in your ressearch...

humans are scared of change if she has been this way for x amount of years then it's going to be hard for her to change and her mind is tells her every time she lies that this is how you live this is the correct way you have done it x amount of years and we are still alive so it must be right! but in reality it's just a bad habits and habits can be broken! 14 years of smoking i quit cold turkey it's been 7 months and it was all habit based and a motivation book let me see that habits are hard to break but if you put your mind to it and have support from loved ones and friends that you can over come it!

let your friend know that your there for her and that you are will ing to help her change if she is.. if she don't even want to try to change then tell her she is hindering a friend ship because your care about her and would like to see her not get hurt in the long run from this nastly little habbit!

Answer 4

I have known a number of compulsive liars in my life-time:
Some were occasional liars.
Some lied to impress, or to cover up.

Some lied for no reason at all, and at all times. This is the most shocking type of liar. How do you tell when they are lying? Their lips are moving! There is a total lack of conscience regarding their habitual lying. Remain in this relationship and you have years of deceit, mistrust, unpleasant revelations and consequences to look forward to.

You deserve a better relationship than this one, and I hope you seek and find it.

Answer 5

Well, I just tell a story, first I say this;
There are two things I hate most. A thief and a liar.
A liar is just a liar, but, a thief always lies.
There was this guy, many people knew him and that just life. He was a thief. One night people were talking and I not remember what all was said, but, I laughed and said; "Get ____ to steal it for you he a thief".
Well a few days later he confront me and say; "Why you tell everyone I was a thief"?
I said; "Because it true, if you not proud of what you do, then STOP doing it"!

Answer 6

I had a friend like that. She said she did it because she was bored and liked to stir things up a bit. I did confront her, but then she just lied some more!! I'm not a therapist and decided to end our friendship since she also began to lie about me.

Answer 7

they are afraid of hurting ppl or getting hurt themselves . they will make up scenarios not give you an answer or try to avoid a question and there very defensive . Good luck if you cannot trust her then yes it is time to end the relationship . a true friend doesn't lie .

Answer 8

I HATE THEM! they all piss me off, i was suspended becuz this girl said i was going to Kill her, DUDE i could have went to jail just for her saying that. it was a huge deal and i didnt even say that. she is a psycho and will NEVER change, i hope she drops off the face of the earth if you ask me, but ne who, no i do not believe most of them will ever change its a STRONG mental disorder and takes a LONG time to fix, its like breathing to them, if you told someone to stop breathing they might "hold their breath" but will end up breathing again, same with them. they are nuts