I feel as though I get overlooked for a lot of things in life. Like when my church bought grad gifts for its grads, I was the only one they forgot. And at work, when I graduated from university, the two other people who were graduating were acknowledged with a cake as a congradulations and everyone celebrated them, but I was completely overlooked in that, even though I've worked there just as long, and graduated this spring, same as they did.
What can I do so that people will not overlook me like this? What kind of personality traits do I need to have, or what do I need to change? What's wrong with me?
2007-06-05 15:04:12 · 13 answers · asked by Kirky 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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Posting on the web as you have done is a way for people to notice you. I like my space and quiet probably in the same way you do. Being overlooked can be a bumer, I know. But at the same time, you know for yourself what your worth is. That is more important. Recognition is nice. Being the quiet acheiver is for some more rewarding. If you want people to remember you, one easy way is to listen to them. People love to talk about themselves. If you are there to listen, they will find in you a person to turn to in their difficult moments. Then you will know that you are not overlooked. Sometimes it's nice to be a social butterfly, but often it feels better to remain quiet in our own corner. That is your choice. If you feel overlooked, get more involved in things you enjoy. Hope this helps. Chin up. You are a special person waiting to be discovered.
2007-06-05 15:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by quebecinoz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to talk to people more, and share more of yourself. There's a fine line between being a mouse and a normal person -- and another one between being a normal person and a complete, self-centered boor! It sounds like you are more on the quiet side. Maybe you are good listener. But it's OK to talk about yourself, too!
One thing about being overlooked -- being shy is sometimes easier than going to the effort needed to make connections with other people. But people really do need people. The initial effort is tough, but the rewards are really good!
It sounds like you've just graduated. This is a good time to make a new start of things. Maybe you are ready for a new job, or a new position within your company.
Good luck with it!
BTW, Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is worth a look. It's an oldie, but a goodie. Also, take a look at Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. You should be able to find both in the library.
2007-06-05 15:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that what you do is right and if it's not initially acknowledged, someday it will be. Good people aren't good people because they get awards and recognition. They're good people because they know what good is and that doing the right thing is the best thing. Know and realize that and you're on your way.
Are you a quiet person? Be more sociable. Have a BBQ. Start a game. Whatever. But always involve other people. Focussing on yourself and what you can get out of situations will be reflected outwardly and this may be what people are recognizing above your actions.
2007-06-05 15:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You give, and forget about receiving.
Now you can give in one of two ways, either way they aren't going to forget you.
One) Give them a real hard sucker shot in the face in the most public place.
Or.
Two) Give a sweet hug and some encouraging gifts most privately.
The gifts can be words, or a helping hand, or a vase of exquisite flowers. Material, memorable words, thoughtful work.
Don't expect a return on your kindness, but expect a quick reply to the shot in the head.
One or Two darlin. Either way they will never forget you.
I would suggest the latter. Strongly suggest the latter.
2007-06-05 15:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step up and be loud. However your coworkers or friends act, act differently, show some real traits of high morals and standards. Try to stand against the grain, be different, and you are sure to be noticed. It takes nothing to follow the crowd but everything not to.
-MrC
2007-06-05 15:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Caucasian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man that stinks I know what it feels like to always be passed over.
But if you really want to bum those guys out then just go and do something amazing that will make them think. Her? That boring quiet one she done that! I would never have expected her.
That will get them talking. But anyway just be yourself and you will find people who like you for you.
2007-06-05 15:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more friendly. Be more involved in daily things. You most are the one that sits there and is quiet. Say something once in a while.
2007-06-05 15:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Simpleofmind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on graduating. Now put it on your resume and get another job, in another town, with another church.
2007-06-05 15:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by 17hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might sound stupid but try changing something about your wardrobe. im not a material person but i do remember quirks people have with their clothes. everyone has a certain style and if you make it unique, people see with their eyes first and that can make you stand out. like i like to wear hats, i go out a lot and i have people come up to me and say , yeah i saw you last time with that hat on. i dunno that sounds dumb but use your style to make yourself seen. noone remembers people that walk by and look like everyday people.
2007-06-05 15:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by bootleg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something totally outrageous.
2007-06-05 15:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by pcosgrove114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋