Should a married couple have roommates?

Question

My husband and I have been married for a little over two months now. We've never had a place to ourselves, and now that we are married, we don't want to have the typical "roommate" arguments with our current roommates. They are a couple, and the guy takes care of his 12 year old sister, so she lives with us as well. They've been the best roommates we've had, but don't live as clean or organized as we do. We don't enjoy inviting over our other married friends in fear that the house will be a disaster . We're tired of cleaning up after them only to have them trash the common areas when we're not home. We know how we like to live, and are getting tired of having arguments with our roommates about what temperature to set the A/C on, or which one of them took the trash out last (as though they even took the trash out to begin with...they stack it next to the trash can!). Any suggestions?

Answer 1

As newlyweds you deserve some alone time. Get rid of these slobs and get to know each other without a bunch of people looking on.
If you can't afford that, move to a smaller place. At any rate, you shouldn't be dealing with an entire family living with you.

Answer 2

What is your normal may not be for some one else.... In these trying times, we gotta do what we gotta do.... If you can make a *place* just for the two of you, that others CAN NOT come into, then you should be ok... But make it real clear and plane, that YOUR space is YOUR space... Married couple ONLY !! You will NEED your privacy and time.... sooooo, make sure you and hubby discuss it in DETAIL before you decide to do the room mate thing.... and I mean EVERY detail, cooking, cleaning, time alone, private time and space, going out, etc...... and make sure ALL room mates have a copy of the deal and agree..... I would even have them sign or initial the paper showing they read it and understood ...... sounds kinda paranoid and such, but hey, from experience I can tell ya, YOU will be the one left doing and giving and backing away...... so protect your marriage......

Answer 3

Newlyweds should not have roommates. When i got married with my husband, he was rooming with a married couple. I really liked them they were seriously awsome and cool! But as i moved in, problems arised, They started telling me what i couldn't and shouldn't make for breakfast. I was accused about leaving windows open while the A/C was on. I never moved anything because i still felt ackward living there. We also paid half the rent for ONE room and a bath room. While they had the kitchen, master bedroom, living room extra bathroom. All we had was a bed, and a tv in our room. Also i was told i couldn't get a chihuahua because the guy didn't like them. Yet they had a dog who would like to come into my room and take my underwear from my laundry basket! It was horror in my eyes!! Also they are like 28-30 and they had this way of thinking of life, that some foods shouldn't be cooked after hours, and about having children. They didn't want any. Also they invited all there friends over. To watch there things on tv (which the 42' tv was on the wall to my room) really late that i could hardly sleep when i knew i had to work at 6 in the morning. I finally told my husband we needed to move. I couldn't stand being told i couldn't cool fatt'in foods because it was there pans and it would stink up the house. Or that i couldn't have some kind of breed of dog. I even had to fold there clothes and give it to them soo i could wash my own!! It was murder!! I was soo mad and i told my husband that i didn't mind living at home until we could get our own house. Since he was on the lease too he wasn't gonna just bail on them. We got married in Jan. we didn't get out until May. It was sooooooooo AWSOME when we lived in our house. Made as much noise as we wanted and at at whatever time we wanted and i finally got the dog i wanted lol. Because of it, though it sorrowed my relantionship with them. That i told my husband to stop talking to them. Because i was just tired of there "Opinions" that i didn't wanna see them anymore. Soo it got that bad. Soo if you can, get your own place. Its more peace, than anything you ever believed.

Answer 4

Rooming With A Couple

Answer 5

I guess you're putting up with this as you can't afford to have the place for just yourselves, so maybe you need to meet with them to work out some solutions. Draw up some house rule which both couples must abide by. And maybe you could invite your other friends over when you know this couple will be out. But stick to your rules whatever happens, don't go soft on it now and again and just do things to keep the peace. You have to live there too and they must respect that!

Answer 6

you are married now, so it is better to not have roommates. If you are living with your friends in "their" house then be thankful you have friends to help you out, it is ok to live alone, being newlyweds think of the benefits you will have just being with your husband, keep in touch with the friends but have this special time to yourselves before the children come if any or if you don't have any already. good luck to you and i hope you have many happy years together.

Answer 7

What a headache to deal with - especially being newlyweds! Kick them out and enjoy your house to yourselves. There is no way I'd be letting anyone live with my husband and I if I was a newlywed like you.

Answer 8

Get rid of them or you and your husband leave. You are married and you shouldn't have to deal with that. I personally wouldn't do the roommate thing.

Answer 9

move into a smaller place, one that you both could easliy afford and then bam no more roomate problems. Roomates are a big headache for some many reasons! I will never ever have one again!

Answer 10

as newlyweds, you definitely need a place to yourselves. you don't need to be worrying about roommates. you guys should move out. you can still be friends with them, but just tell them that you guys want to experience living together by yourselves.