my husband is one in a million why do i treat him bad!?

Question

i did not want to get married at such a young age but i did it c/c thats what my mother wanted! he treats me so good and im so mean to him how can i be a better wife!

Answer 1

Is it connected to your monthly cycles? Maybe it is as that's the most common reason. I've been married 28 years and usually about a week before I get grumpy, etc.

Answer 2

You have to change your attitude about him and try being nice.Treat him the way you would have him treat you.It is never nice to be mean to anyone and it never solves anything.
You should find some professional help to get your mind sorted out.Talk to your doctor and he will help you find the right person to talk to.
I think it all stems from your mother having you marry at such a young age which should never have happened.That was very wrong of her.
You weren't ready for marriage and now it's making you feel as though you're backed into a corner with no way out.I'm glad you realize your husband is a good man and that you want to be a better wife.Get the help you need to get over this and maybe it will all work out for you and him.At least you'll have tried your best.
Good Luck my dear and all the best.

Answer 3

Why do you treat him badly?

I understand you didn't want to marry at such a young age. But the fact is you did. It's a sensitive area for me because I have sisters who did the same thing. I did the opposite. It hurts to see them unhappy. But being single can be overrated too. Being unmarried does not guarantee one's happiness, either.

I presume nobody held you at gunpoint to marry the man you married. I presume he is overall a kind of good man or you would not feel bad about treating him bad.

It's not fair to him to take the brunt of your resentment for a decision you BOTH made together at at time you were too highly influenced by others, such as feeling the need to please your mother.

You can be a better wife simply by being a finer human being. Be accountable for a choice you made. You have a big part in creating the life you have. Decide if you want your marriage to end or if you wish to stay and contribute more positive things to the relationship you are in. If he's good toward you and is trying to be supportive and good to you, find it within yourself to do the same. Love people how you want to be loved. Decent people will respond in turn.

What you have been doing is not productive and you know that. You are growing as a person and you want to break out of an unhealthy pattern - Whoever you are, I'm proud of you on that point.

Answer 4

Sounds like you have some pent up resentment toward him.
That could be a big problem down the road if you don't deal with it.
You are even concious of the fact you treat him badly, but yet you don't stop.
Understand that he had to give up some things to get married too, not just you.
You say he treats you "so good".
So the next time you are starting to treat him badly, you need to ask yourself "Does he deserve this?" and act accordingly.
Marriage is a lot of work, for both spouses.
Don't let resentment be the thing that ruins it.
That's what it sounds like to me, since you mentioned not wanting to bet married so young, that you are resenting not only the marriage, but him because you are missing out on what all the single people your age are doing.

Answer 5

I'm pretty sure you already know the answer to this question.

How do you treat your friends? Why not try treating him as a friend?

The poor man. You say he is one in a million and yet you have the audacity to treat him badly. You are angry with your Mom, not your husband. See if you can deal with that anger first. I hope the rest will fall in place before you hurt your marriage and this man irreparably.

Answer 6

The answer lies in you. If you really loved him you would do right by him no matter what. Maybe you need o spend time with him and make promises to yourself. Im pretty sure you care because you asked this question so work hard to see the beauty in him. It will be hard but another way for this to go away is for him standing up for himself. Not like fighting, but dont back down to your blows. Just try and be more nice and make promises. Be Safe, Be Smart..God Bless :)

Answer 7

Get a divorce and go out and date men that will slap you around then you will be more comfortable , then he can get some other woman to treat him like cr**p.

Or you could grow up get some self-esteem and begin to treat him like a human being, he could develop some self esteem and yell back now and then instead of being a doormat.

As it is now you have a very dysfunctional marriage that could end in tragedy.

Answer 8

You're obviously driving him away because of a subconscious matter that your conscious self is not aware of.

Try to think about what is that pisses you off about him, or who/what are you REALLY mad at. Are you mad that you did what your mother wanted (marrying him)? that you couldn't stand up for yourself? are you mad that she was right, and you don't want to addmit it so you try NOT to show how great you think he is? Maybe subcosciously you don't wanna be with him and you're trying to drive him away...

I don't know, think about it...b you're the only one that can figure it out.

By the way, I would suggest counseling for you... it will help you to find out what the real problem is.

Answer 9

Let me tell you My husband was one in a million, I took it for granted I thought we where for ever no mater what, I was wrong and now we are apart still married but he is with someone else and I can't deal with it. Don't be me if he is all you say he is love him give him the kind of live he gives you before it's to late and you can't fix it.

Answer 10

See a marriage counselor. Go by yourself at first,
the counselor may suggest that you both come
together later. I'd guess you feel you were forced into marriage before you were ready, and you are angry, and tha ti show your anger is coming out--at your husband.
But I'm no expert, only guessing. Good Luck!