who is always yelling at his stepchildren, for everything they do??? And if your kids hate him in return? My husband is not the father of my kids... But he is always yelling at my kids for everything they do. It is beginning to make my life misreable. I've tried talking to him, but he won't listen. Instead he just tells me that they need to be punished. He just went off on my son and his friend because the dog jumped upon the trampoline.
2007-06-05 14:50:10 · 15 answers · asked by polonium-210 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
frigga88, I've been through a lot with him... I stayed by is side when he had cancer and when he had a strok.. at the ages of 22 and 23.... We are both 30 now. He has these kids terrified of him. But a small part of it might be me wanting out, but it's a direct result of the miseary he causes in the house.... I'm just not sure if Divorce is the answer.
2007-06-05 15:01:42 · update #1
What the hell is the matter with you? You can't let anybody make your child's life miserable like that!
These poor kids are suffering, because you married some idiot. You better get your pride, respect and value back with some control, power and strength and confront this so-called husband, telling him that this is going to stop right now, or your filing for divorce. If he fights you once when you tell him this, then file, because he doesn't love you.
Those are your children! They are living a miserable life and they will be affected the rest of their life. They will eventually take it out on you, because you let this happen. You let this guy disrespect and abuse them. That is your responsibility to put a stop to it, because your the one that brought him into their lives. Why should they pay for your mistake!
2007-06-05 15:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need to consider how long you have been married, how often this is occurring and whether or not family counseling might help the situation. My second husband does not have a good relationship with my children from a previous marriage and this has made for very tense times when we are all together. Consider why you fell in love with this man to begin with and then see if there is anything to salvage before you walk away.
2007-06-05 15:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by fairiepenguin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No children should have to be put thru any kind of abuse. Certainly, not by a step parent. In my opinion, if a single mother is going to marry there needs to be a connection between the children and the new man. If they can't stand each other, then the marriage will not work out. Talk to mr. man and ask him what he wants to do about things. If he says nothing is wrong then tell him you want a separtion.
2007-06-05 15:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by RayRay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow...where is the kids dad? If he is in their life maybe discuss this with him...if not, maybe you hubby is right and they need some sort of father type discipline...as long as he is not abusing them, there is nothing wrong with him punishing them by yelling....sounds like you dont want to be with him and this is an excuse to get out?
Well then instead of asking people on here maybe you should also talk with your children and him...if it doesn't resolve then leave..your kids are important I understand that believe me...good luck
2007-06-05 14:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know as to say if I would divorce him..but I would suggest that you sit down and make some guidelines...My brother had this problem with his wife and her kids...Eventually it came to a point when she told him that it would be best if you raised and punished your kids and I will raise and punish mine. The kids were talked to as well...as it was a little confusing for them at first eventually everything worked out and before you knew it all eventually got to normal (helping each other raise each others) and before they knew it and they got along a lot better.
2007-06-05 14:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by ventity325 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is being abusive don't just jump up and leave and divorce him.. my goodness! If he is abusive get yourself and the children out, but give him the chance to seek family counseling before you divorce.
If he is not physically abusive, tell him what's happening to you, and to the children, tell him how you feel and how they feel and tell him you want the marriage to work, ask him if he wants the marriage to work and suggest counseling for the enitre family.
If after you do these things he isn't willing to work on the family relationship, then consider your alternatives.
2007-06-05 15:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he should seek counseling to deal with what seems to be anger and resentmant tell him you will not tolerate him damaging your children.the children mustent no about his altumatum it could cause them to act out .if he refuses tell him you will not tolerate it and take your children and leave.(maybe family counseling would do better everyone could use some guidence in this situation.and re evaluate the situation and make sure its really him and the kids dont just need a little discipline.
2007-06-05 14:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by hot choclate 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes i would but im the type of girl that doesnt take **** off of no one especially a man. one that doesnt treat my kids well too. thoes children are your own flesh and blood and in a sence he is disrespecting your own flesh and blood get rid of the dirt bag there is plenty of other fish in the sea
2007-06-05 14:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you guys may want to try to get help first there's a very high divorce rate among marriages where there are step parents involved
2007-06-05 14:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by bnbmotors66 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your children do not deserve to be put through this type of abuse and don't fool yourself, it's abuse.
Either this man get some help, in counseling or anger management, or leave. These precious innocents don't deserve this turd.
2007-06-05 14:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋