i asked this question a few hours ago, but i want more opinions.
quedtion: should i stop putting other people's happiness before my own?
additional details: i know that because i do this, i am extremely unhappy and have little to no confidence. i want to start putting my happiness first most of the time, but, first of all, how do i start? and second, how do i do it without becoming completely selfish?
2007-06-05 14:32:23 · 5 answers · asked by rt1290 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Helping others is one of the best things we can do as humans. Helping others when we can't afford to can be one of the worst. Don't exhaust yourself. Pick your spots. Don't succumb to narcissistic ideas that your happiness is all that matters, but at the same time, don't give up so much of yourself that you feel used. To elaborate on that, look around you and figure out who is abusing your charitable nature. Sounds cold, but distance yourself from them. Good people don't suck the life out of their friends.
2007-06-05 15:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always believe that you have a right to be happy without feeling guilty about it. Once you have truly done that then you can truly put other's happiness before your own. I don't want to disappoint you, before you weren't putting anyone's happiness before your own; you weren't happy yourself; you can't do that unless you are happy yourself. Now you collect all the happiness you can and when you do, keep it in a special place and go out there and share, share and share some more and see what you get back - I bet it'll be happiness in the true form.
2007-06-05 21:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have read a article similarly.
The topic was "Learn to say no"
It is hard for many people to say no to other. and because of that some people take advantages of it.
Be strong and positive, say no to people. If you are not happy you can't possible make other happy.
2007-06-05 21:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by logic ans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make plans to do things and then go through with them. If you can help someone, help them. If you can't help, you can't help. The only exception should be extreme cases, like, you can go out of your way to save someone's life. Have fun.
2007-06-05 21:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All and all you have to take care of your self first.If you want to give to others you have to be "whole" you need to be full before you run down your tank ...as it was.Happiness is a tricky thing.You might have to let it come to you.
2007-06-05 21:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by SHAWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋