My husband and I just got married 3 weeks ago and we are 5 months pregnant...our pastor is the only one from our chuch who knows. How do you tell your church family that you are 5 months pregnant?
2007-06-05 12:29:35 · 17 answers · asked by Melissa B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just tell them, if they really love the Lord they will love you just the same. most "church people" make or have made bad choices too, God forgives us when we ask, so if hs still loves you why wouldn't they? congrats.... they'll be excited!
2007-06-05 12:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by karateJenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During joys and concerns (if you have that in your service) say with a big smile on your face "We're having a baby!" You don't have to tell them how far along you are unless they ask. When they do (and people will) just tell them how far along you are. No one is perfect, not Christians or non Christians. I have been there. I was 4.5 months pregnant when i got married the first time at 19. I didn't show at all, but certain people knew and obviously i started to show and had a baby 5 months later (i was 2 weeks later). There will be some people that will judge you, but don't worry about them. Worry about being ready for your little one. If members of the church really bother you speak to the pastor and have him talk to the members who are bothering you.
To the person who made a judgement about you not being a very good church person. As i said above, Christians are no more perfect then non Christians. We all make mistakes, as in sin. That is why we have this thing called repenting and asking for forgiveness.
2007-06-05 12:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're talking about and it IS a hard thing to confess to your church family. But don't worry. Remember that it says in the bible that no sin is greater than the next (that murder isn't any worse and better than telling a lie), so if these people truly are Christians, they won't be judgmental. They should welcome you with loving arms.
What does your pastor think of the situation?
Also, I would say personally, don't tell them. They'll figure it out (like everyone else is saying) and also (like everyone else is saying) it's really none of their business. Does everyone else announce that they sinned on Tuesday by watching a movie they knew they shouldn't be watfching? I doubt it. Why is it that just because your "sin" is going to be apparent, that you are obliged to explain it to them? The answer is, you're not.
Good luck and I hope you make a good decision!
2007-06-05 12:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by [♥]andrea[♥] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can really know that answer. My family was understanding with me when i wasnt married at all when I found out I was having a baby. I know they may ask if your husband is the father so dont get shocked there. Then the impending question maybe from your mom about you being pregnant being the reason you got married. So have a nice dinner with them all and tell them at once and not apart it works better that way. So when both of you are sitting there(you and your husband) they can ask everything that will not be as bold as normal (unless you have my very bold family). So its better to tell them sooner then later so that if a pop over from your parents(like mine do all the time) makes it worse then it really is. So talk to your husband and set things up for your family and make sure you are ready for all kinds of questions (even the ones that are againist you having sex before getting married).
Best of Luck
2007-06-05 12:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Arizona Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll figure it out on their own soon enough. Most probably already know. It is pretty easy to tell when a woman is five month pregnant.
2007-06-05 12:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur church has a bulitain (like mine does and it shows all the dates and things happening) ask the pastor if u could put something in it 2 tell every1 in ur church family that ur prengnet and ur going 2 hav a baby in 4 months
2007-06-05 12:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will figure it out on their own, you will be showing soon. They should be happy that you have chosen to become a family and be supportive of you and pray for a happy and healthy pregnancy. Good luck!
2007-06-05 12:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by randadell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell them striaght if its there business of knowing
fair enough ur baby wasnt concieved when ur married but atleast she or he will be born into a family now are married and will be loved should that be what matters?
2007-06-05 12:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down, "I know we made a mistake. We believe we made the right decision to get married and we need your support and prayers to get through this...otherwise, we wouldn't bother coming back to church." something like that. God bless us all!
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