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I recently graduated from high school and I did not feel any happiness connected to it, I was just like okay I graduated. I have this belief (and maybe it is partly true) that people around my age have too high standards for themselves these days and that we will never actually get to where we want to be. That is how I feel about myself except I don't know what I want to be so I feel like I will achieve...nothing. I don't have any abilities to become anything so it's like I'm wasting my time. When I think of the people congradulating others on graduation it makes me sad almost because I'm thinking okay we graduate but will we actually achieve anything? It's like all this happiness for nothing. I feel this way about myself but I don't know why. Granted there are ambitious people who have what it takes for certain paths, but not me. For some reason, I've been feeling worthless and not up to doing anything, and I pace all the time. Is this just normal?

2007-06-05 12:23:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

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i was just relieved to get away from the b.s. that comes with highschool. and no one has any abilities at graduation. take the classes that intrest you in college, and maybe you'll find your niche. everyone's good at something, you just haven't found it yet. and that's no suprise as young as you are. im 26 and still don't know what i want to do. not true, i know what i'm good at and know what i want, just don't know how to get paid for doing it. lol. lighten up on yourself. you've got a long time before you have to worry about being a failure. just do what makes you happy!

2007-06-05 12:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I felt that way, I graduated in 1970. And so I put one foot in front of the other, went to college, never graduated, then started working. I quickly got bored, saw no future and joined the Navy for four years. That was "fun" for three, and I got out when I got the oppurtunity. A friend of my sisters, got me involved in the carpenter's union. I did the four years of apprenticeship, and continue to this day making a moderate living. Look: you sound like me, who cares any more if it is normal or not. This is what we are. But, my friend, a little advice: You can't do nothing to support yourself. Their are many types of apprenticeships that lead to a good income. And college and middle management is not for everyone. If you can work with your hands, how about electrician, sheet metal, HVAC (heating, vacuums, and air conditioning), or mechanic, how about nursing, air traffic controler. What I truely wished I had gotten into, looking back, is being a pilot. It takes some money, but as you progress from private pilot license to twin engin, and instructor, you might teach part-time to make your payments. All is not lost, but you will waste a lot of good working time, searching for an unmarked path, and no real job plan. You must realize no one will carry you, and forty years from now, you need to think of retirement. It comes fast. One best bit of advice, what ever it takes is to get at least $2000 into and IRA. At your age, if you do, and never again put anything into it, you will have at least a million dollars to retire with--but I hope you do better than that. I still feel worthless, but I have a trade and support myself. I help others, and that helps with my worthiness. The alternative is wondering aimlessly, always asking, begging for money. People avoid you, more depression. Good luck, you will make a good choice.

2007-06-05 12:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by Nifty Bill 7 · 1 0

You just don't know what you really want to do in life yet, and that is not abnormal. Many people feel this way when they graduate. I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life when I got out of high school, so my Dad made me go work where he did. It wasn't a great job, but it was a job and the pay wasn't bad either. I just ran blue prints for engineers and draftsmen, and filed papers but it was alright until I got married and started a family. When my kids started growing up I started working again, at first as a receptionist at a pet groomers and then I did telemarketing for about 12 years. Now I know what I would of liked to gone into and studied, but at this point in my life, Ive already invested to much into my current carreer. Take some time and think seriously about what you enjoy, or subjects of interest to you! Good luck in what ever you decide to do in life!

2007-06-05 12:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 1 0

This actually is a big deal to some people. Others, it isn't. Depends on a person. But when you are feeling this way, you should probably get a goal in life, it looks like you're uncontempt but you are unsure about what to do now. You're done with school, which was the thing that most people use to get to thier goal. Now that that's over, you should most likely find a goal before it's too late.

2007-06-05 12:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sikono 1 · 1 0

normal. You just had a huge part of your life taken away so your a little depressed.

think about it what are you good at? What do you like to do? If you like computers or was just always good at math I would look into careers in that field and just remember you have a lot of time infront of you.

Heres a test that can help you
http://www.analyzemycareer.com/index.cfm?action=signup&test=aptitude

also a lot of young ppl that feel like you go into the military for many many reason's but you'll have that acomplished feeling and no matter what you once did something great.

Good luck

2007-06-05 12:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by i love being a mommy! 4 · 2 0

You sound like you have major symptoms of depression. I think you should check out a therapist. It is common to feel low or a "let down" after graduating high school, but it sounds like things have been happening for longer than that. A professional is necessary. It may really help.

2007-06-05 12:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0 2

do no longer difficulty. I felt a lot like this final 365 days too...even now it fairly is style of peculiar. the entire technique is absurd (a lot of youngsters in one college. You just about might desire to make new pals each and every 365 days in each and every classification) even even though it does furnish you with a raffle to fulfill some cool new people who you are able to have under no circumstances prevalent in M.S. considered one of my maximum suitable pals replaced into from yet another midsection college and we grew to grow to be fairly close after having like...4 training at the same time haha. So merely attempt speaking to the folk around you, attempt to no longer be shy and merely attempt leaping into some convos. i comprehend it is not difficulty-free in the initiating (esp. if your shy like me haa.) yet you are able to desire to objective..tbh i did no longer make any pals in my spanish classification until eventually at last a million/2 the 365 days replaced into over. And it replaced into SO fairly worth it as quickly as I made them. I met the best human beings in that classification and that i omit them sososo a lot now that I even have spa 2. :'[ yet yeah haa. merely attempt and confer with somebody which you will have prevalent in M.S and forgive your persons for changing. we are little ones and we do substitute a lot over those years. no longer something incorrect with that it fairly is merely how existence works. do no longer forget that a lot of those human beings have fairly cool personalities and that they are no longer undesirable...you additionally can get greater advantageous pals with the aid of the tip of the 365 days then once you have been in M.S. merely attempt to ward off the drama and have exciting!! i desire you experience greater advantageous quickly. (Oh I forgot. some issues you are able to desire to communicate approximately with the hot human beings because of the fact I, for one, comprehend it is not difficulty-free haha are: the instructor's annoyingness/coolness, homework (this might look lame even even though it fairly does paintings. as quickly as you commence doing homework at the same time you will experience greater soft to communicate approximately different stuff), different pals you men have in undemanding, the way you like H.S., how gay your classification is..haa there are a number of opportunities you purely might desire to take them.sturdy luck!!!)

2016-10-06 22:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by kurihara 4 · 0 0

it is very normal, you're just going through a separation anxiety right now. Once you go to college everything will change.

2007-06-05 13:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sabine 6 · 1 0

No. I think you suffer from clinical depression. Get some help. Good luck.

2007-06-05 12:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jax 3 · 0 2

normal...graduation is made to seem more than it is

2007-06-05 12:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by e m 2 · 2 0

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