how did you deal with it?
2007-06-05 12:20:35 · 43 answers · asked by Kirsty 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yes, it broke my heart
2007-06-05 12:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle B2 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The worst ways I dealt with it was by having a highly emotional burst of blind energy where I was not really thinking right and just completely devastated whoever betrayed me, and confused anybody else involved in the matter by showing them I am not a quiet little mousy doormat after all. Wreaked total havoc basically and was self destructive in the process. The last couple times I've just taken it as much like an adult as is possible for someone with my temperament. A bit of crying, self imposed solitude (keeping away from those who did it). I've become a bit anorexic and more withdrawn. Hmm. Anyway. My point was I didn't go off the handle this last time. I had the angry thinking, the angry ranting to my husband about who did what and what I was going to do about it, but then I did nothing but bow and walk away. I'm proud of myself for that. They will get what is coming to them without my interference.
2007-06-05 12:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the extent of your relationship to the person who betrayed you and the level of betrayal that has occurred.
At this point you just need to take a step back and re-evaluate your feelings and relationship to the betrayer. If you feel that there is no way you can ever trust that person again, I really don't feel that it may be worth trying to work things out. However, if you feel that this is something you can bounce back from and that you truly feel that this person will never do anything like this again, then you should try to maintain the relationship (only after the betrayer has done a considerable amount of sucking up!!!)
2007-06-05 12:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and tried to figure out why the person betrayed me, theres never really a logical answer besides that person is messed up in the head or some long line of miscomunication. But in the end they betrayed you so depending on what your relationship is with them and their other behavior it's usualy best to get them out of your life, they dont deserve someone they would do that to.
2007-06-05 12:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Syn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 19 my boyfriend got me pregnant. He then dumped me & got a new & younger girlfriend. After a couple months his new gf got pregnant too. He then married her. By the time I had my baby he was a married man & denied paternity. I was left to raise a baby on my own. After about 3 yrs the state forced him to have dna testing & it was proven that he was the father. He then began seeing his daughter & pay nominal child support payments. It was really difficult on me at the time, especially since I would see him parading around town with a new gf & then a new wife while I was alone & pregnant. It hurt even more that he denied paternity, b/c all I really wanted was for him to acknowledge his baby & be in her life. Eventually I let go of the hurt & anger and realized I was much better off without him in my life. At times I get angry with him for how he treats our child. But I know I can't change him or the past. I can only deal with the feelings it evokes & allow myself the become a better person. Our daughter is almost 20 & she one of the most beautiful & brightest people on this earth. She & her brother graduated last year at the top of their class and have just finished their 1st year of college. They are extremely close & kids any parent would be proud of. The only thing I would change about what's happened is, I wouldn't have let the pain and anger consume me for as long as I did, and I wouldn't have plotted my revenge. But I am a better person in spite of it and I'm stronger as well. I was a single mother for many many years & pretty much destitute. But I did eek out an Associate Degree & work full-time. I think my daughter is an extremely strong-willed person with an excellent work and school ethic. I truly have no reason to complain about my daughter & her brother. I love him as one of my own. He comes to stay with us often & feels close to me & my husband. I'd say because of my ex's betrayal I became a better person & a better mom. Good luck. Remember hatred & anger are acids that eat away it's own vial.
2007-06-05 12:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by 2D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has been betrayed. I have been betrayed lots of times by people I trusted. Now I'm more careful about who I trust and am more guarded.
2007-06-05 12:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by sassymoomin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, twice very deeply.
Both times, I let myself cry, feel angry, and feel sorry for myself for a few days... And then I made the decision to forgive and move on. It wasn't easy to do that, but making the decision was the first step. I surrounded myself with friends and kept myself distracted, I never let myself have an 'unproductive' day, where I stayed in bed all day and didn't get anything significant done, and eventually I woke up one morning and realised I didn't hurt anymore.
It's not easy, and it'll take time. But wallowing and not allowing yourself to forgive will prolong it even more.
Good luck Xx
2007-06-05 12:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I finally decided to talk to them since they are family but I keep a tight lid on what I do and dont share and the amount of time I spend with them in person or on the phone cuz if something happened to my sister brother or Mom tomorrow I dont want to have not talked to them in years as far as friends it dpends on what the problem was and how much trust was ruined
2007-06-05 12:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by sue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and I moved on and made him jealous - because now I own 3 houses a puppy and our son has everything he wants where he lives with his parents . Move on from it and you'll be a better person. The only thing anyone should need in their lives is those they can trust and love.
2007-06-05 12:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by busybee26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. i've been betrayed by lots of people. the way i dealt with it was that i just moved on. i learned not to trust that person anymore. hopefully i won't have to fall for those kinds of people anymore.
2007-06-05 12:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Brittany♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , I have .Sometimes people just deal with it the best way they can.
2007-06-05 12:24:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋