did you ever worry about being able to love the new baby as much as you do your first? i feel awful for thinking it but i look at my daughter and i cant imagine loving another baby so much it seems impossable, dont get me wrong i do already love my son (32 week pregnant) but im just really worried, i cant explain it, am i the only one who feels like this?
2007-06-05 10:29:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am 31 weeks pregnant with my first child, and I admit that I have already wondered the same thing! I think that it is a common feeling that most mothers have, especially since the second pregnancy might not seem as special or exciting as the first one was, since you've already experienced all of your pregnancy firsts once before.
Now, being that my child isn't yet born, the closest experience I have had is when my beloved childhood cat died and, as an 18th b-day present, my mom got me a kitten 6 mos. later. I remember being in tears, holding this adorable kitten in my arms and feeling guilty because I thought there was no way I was going to love this cat as much as I had my last. I ended up loving her equally and sometimes for completely different reasons because of her individuality and these are just cats, not human beings!
You will love your son just as much as your daughter and they will both have their own places in your heart, you will be excited for him for all of his firsts.
Congrats and Good Luck!
2007-06-05 10:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by witchikitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be shocked to hear if any mother HASN'T felt that way about the birth of baby #2!
Baby #1 and I had an instant bond and the love I felt was this over-powering, explosive emotion. I blame the hormones!!
With Baby#2 the love is there, but all the heavy-duty emotions of being a "new" parent are not. My love grew deeper and deeper over time in an entirely different way.
Now there isn't anything I wouldn't do for those 2 kids!
Your kids will flourish with any kind of love you give them...don't worry about needing to have it be exactly the same...KWIM
2007-06-05 10:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Edugator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-01 04:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I struggled with this, and still only have one child, but I heard something from my Aunt that helps me to overcome this.
I am always calling my daughter the most beautiful girl in the world...when I have another, I won't be able to say it the same way. So she'll be the most beautiful 'big girl' and my next the most beautiful little one.
I guess the love comes and gets you as is it did for the first...
I don't know if I helped you, though...
2007-06-05 10:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is amazing how much we love our first baby. Its almost as if your heart will explode. And what is even more amazing is how much we love our second child just as much as the first. They are different loves based on the child's personality, but it is an equal love. Don't feel bad for feeling that way. When we are pregnant, our hormones can be our worst enemy!!
2007-06-05 10:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by AnxiousMommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A mother's capacity to love grows with each child. It doesn't diminish.
Because you have known your daughter so long now, the bonds of love are really strong so they are more real to you. But as soon as your son is born, you will find yourself automatically protective and love will immediately start to grow again.
You will have more love than you ever thought. But you will love each child differently b/c each is an individual.
2007-06-05 10:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt like that way with my second...then he was born and I will tell you I love both my boys equally...and the plus side is they totally love each other..my younger son follows his big brother all over and they sit and play together all day! It is honestly more fun with two! Definetly more work but oh so worth it!
2007-06-05 10:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by JLee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i did....it's normal to feel this way. don't worry once the baby is born you wil love him just as much as your daughter. things have a way of working out. good luck =)
2007-06-05 11:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what I felt the same way too.
And you know what happen I end up loving more my second child.
My first one is a girl and my second one is my son. they are 4 years apart.
I don't blame you i know how you feel.
but know my daughter is 9 and my son is 5 and know i loved them both the same way!!
hope this helps..
2007-06-05 10:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my aunt has six children and she said with each one after the first she would think " God, how am i supposed to love this baby as much as my first" and after each birth, she would love them just as much as her first.
2007-06-06 07:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋