I only have 2 friends that I am close enough to to phone everyday. Is that normal?

Question

I do the same things with my two friends seperately (1 boy 1 girl) day in day out. There is hardly anyone else I feel I could be comfortable alone with. All of my 'acquaintances' seem to have friends comin out of their ears and are constantly on their phones. I feel as though I need to branch out and make new friends but the only people who show any interest in me is usually lads who are just tryin to come on to me. I find it difficult to get to the stage of swappin numbers and going out with other girls especially. I work in a pub and am as friendly and chatty as I can be (although im quite shy), but girls never seem keen to become real friends with me. Doesn't help I'm might be kinda sorta starting to see this lad who is MR POPULAR and I think he thinks I'm some kind of social failure because I'm always with the same person.

Answer 1

I don't ever call any of my friends everyday! I have 2, maybe 3 close friends, and the rest are aquaintances. Those people that are on their phones all the time, are usually talking to the same person, or same 2 or 3 people all the time..... My boyfriend is on his phone all the time too, but it's the same 2 friends or so that he hangs out with almost every day....and he makes me feel like a social retard...LOL

In summary, don't worry about it, if your man has a problem with how many friends you have, he's very shallow, and you can do better!

Answer 2

It is normal to have just a few very close friends like you do. I only have three. As far as other acquantances, it should not natte how many you have. People should not be measured by how many friends they have, but who their friends are. We tend to surround ourselves with people that reflect who we are. The tend to have the same ideas, values, likes, dislikes as we do. As far as your other acquaintances having friends out the ears, don't worry about it. Some people just "collect" friends, some are naturally more outgoing and get to know more people, and then some surround themselves with as many people as possible so the feel wanted or like they are popular / important. I would rather have a couple very close friends that I can share anything with than hundreds that I do not trust enough to tell them anything private. As far as Mr. Popular, if he can not like you for who you are then he is not worth your time. He should not think of y ou as a social failure, but as a true friend and person. Who knows, you may form some new friendships with some of his many acquaintances! Good luck!

Answer 3

Most of my friends I've met through school. Or met them through someone I met in school. But now I'm not attending classes anymore. Although I have to admit that one of my best friends, I actually met in middle school.
I wonder the same thing sometimes. I hang out with a small number of people and progressively I'm trusting them more and more. It's not easy to just meet someone, regardless of gender, and ask for their number to hang out at a later date.
I don't do it.
In general, I don't really like people. To be honest. That might be because I live in So Fla. but anyway, there's nothing wrong with having only a couple close friends.
Some people don't even have that many!
And as far as your peers having pals coming out of their ears, how meaningful do you think all those relationships could possibly be? It's a matter of of knowing yourself and being comfortable on your own. The insecure person well want to be constantly bombarded with phone calls to reassure them that they "matter."

Answer 4

Ok, I am this way as well. I have a small group of intimate friends but would like to make more. There is nothing "wrong" with this but if you decide that you want more friends you need to make the effort to make it happen. If you are shy or more reserved you need to work on communication skills and being comfortable with people. Above all, I think people respond to genuineness. They can just feel it. Some people are just innately more shy than others but that doesn't mean you can't work on making yourself a more sociable person. Its all in your hands. Some counseling might help as well.

Answer 5

Nooooo waaaay!!
I have a about four friends, MAXIMUM who i consider to be proper friends. I'll tell them nearly anything and they're pretty much the only people i enjoying hanging out with.
I'm 'in' with a large social group but they are just acquaintances and i only tag along or join in with their socila activities if my closer friends are going aswell.
Theres nothing wrong with it, well I don't think so any way. It wouldn't matter if you only had one friend, if your happy then it doesn't matter weather other people see you as a loaner.
But if you really wanna' find new friends then it wont hurt. Just try and find a way to be involved wiht them or something their doing, team work builds friendship they say, i think they do any way. I don't even know who they is. ><
^_^ good luck?
And don't worry!

Answer 6

There is much to be said for STEADY friends versus all the ones that are more fly-by-nighters! WE don't have enough hours in the day to have deep, meaningful relationships with everyone we know! Let's face it! I personally think you are brilliant to have the TWO that you have!
Be easy on yourself, if having more friends is important to you, I'd consider making a power list to attract to your life the kind of folks you want. Get a paper, write down what qualities you want in some new friends, how many you want , how you want them to treat you, what values they share with you--all you can think of!!!
By doing this exercise, you will reinforce to your MIND just EXACTLY what you want , and then your brain will recognize it when it comes to you, or crosses your path.
I know that this works! I have "created" my perfect car using this method, and even found a Husband this way!
Try it!
YOu will be amazed!!
Good LUCK!
(Be specific and be careful what you write down...(wink!)

Answer 7

SHUT UP!!!!!!!!
i will not lie and say that is normal, but if you havent noticed, most of the "normal" people you meet with tons of friends would just as soon turn down one of their friends as they would make new ones!!!

but listen to me
one of my older teachers told me this, and ill never forget it
the truth is, not many people on this world have friends
the people you think have tons of friends...they dont
their all fakes
have you ever truly understanded the definition of friendship?
in a life time, it is impossible to have more than four or five friends, despite how many people you hang out with and call your friends
for example, some of the people i no would stop being someones friend if the other person simply did something like date their ex
i mean ya, that is kinda wrong, but really...if those people were true friends, than something this frivolous wountnt even scratch their bond of friendship
i personally hang out with a couple people from time to time, and even call them my friends, but they arent really
i mean, my definition of friend is someone you confide yourself to withought the other person finding your true self in the least bit disturbing or such. a true friend, in my opinion, is someone who most of the time has got your back, and someone who will at times take you seriously if need be
now, most people have views of friendship, and say thier friends are everything they want them to be, but if that was so, how could someone find so many people that would do that for them???
you see, this is just being foolish

for you to have two really good friends, thats great
it means that their for real, unlike some people who have many unstable "friends"

i no this is long, and i didnt explain it very clearly, but all in all what i think is that its better to have one or two true friends than many people who are just "friends"

be grateful for the two people you have
and dont put on an act just so other people will make you their so called "friend"

Answer 8

That's normal, absolutely. I've found I can't manage having more than 3 close friends that I speak to daily, simply not enough time in the day.

It's gonna vary from person to person though. If you feel you need to be more "popular", try being mean, people like that for some reason.

Answer 9

to have 2 good friends that u can trust is a good thing some poeple have tons of friends but u have 2 GOOD friends that r probably worth more than the many many friends other people have

so having just 2 good friends doesnt make u a social failure

Answer 10

Some people use the term friends loosely. When they really mean acquaintances. You might be one of us few. Who give the word the importance it should have. That is why there are only two you truly feel close to.