I'm Pregnant and only 14?

Question

Ok so here's the thing basically I'm two weeks away from my 15th birthday and found out a week and a bit ago that I'm 3 months pregnant...The main thing i'm worrying about is how to tell my parents...I told the father and he said to just abort it...but there's no way i'm doing that i'm keeping it I don't wanna regret giving it away in the future. So if you were me what would you say to your parents? Please help!

Answer 1

Mom, Dad, I'm pregnant and I'd like to raise my baby. Please tell me that you will help me. I really need your support.

Answer 2

Well, since you're going to be a Mommy, you're going to have to take the adult approach. Just tell your parents that you need to sit down and talk to them. Tell them you've made the mistake of sharing your body with a boy who wasn't ready for the consequences and now you're pregnant and you have decided that you will not abort the baby.

Since the father obviously doesn't want anything to do with what he helped create, either you can consider adopting your baby out, or join the adult world a few years too early and raise your baby with your parents' help.

Some teenage moms have still been able to finish their schooling, but it will be hard. There are usually programs for teen pregnancies & parents. So see what is available in your area and get a good support group & help going.

I'm sorry you've had things happen to make you grow up so quickly, but stick to your instinct & conviction against aborting and it will turn out.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I would tell your parents when they are in a good mood for one thing. Being a parent at such a young age is very hard. I am 28 and still have trouble with parenting. Everyone does at some point. The fact that you put yourself in this situation means that you need to now take responsibility. As for the boyfriend, he too is probably young and scared. It is your choice, but when you put yourself in an adult situation then you better be prepared. I'm really sick and tired of all these kids having babies and just thinking they can kill it because they didn't use protection to start with. There are alot of people who can't have kids and would do anything to have children.

Answer 4

Just tell your parents. You are just a baby yourself, there is no way that you will be able to take care of a baby by yourself. Think about your future, and wouldn't you want to give your child the best life possible? How would that happen if you are only 14? You may regret having an abortion at first, but when you grow up and get old enough to actually have kids and be able to take care of them you will be happy that you made the right choice.

Answer 5

You wanna keep it? You're only 14! Are you sure you are ready to care for it and give it a good home? It's really not fair to bring a child into the world and not be able to take care of it. Babies are hard work and at 14 you have so much more ahead of you. If you don't believe in abortion, then talk to your parents about adoption. The baby will obviously have no father if his first response was for you to abort it. just sit your parents down and Tell them the truth.

Answer 6

What a painful position. But telling your parents is just the beginning of your pain.

Just tell them. It won't be easy, and they won't like it. But, I have three children, and I had them after I was 23, and raising kids is much tougher than telling your parents.

I am sorry that you have to grow up so fast, and I wish you the best of luck.

Raising kids, is about giving up yourself, your time with friends, studying and partying. Many of your friends, may no longer want to be with you, and you simply won't have time.

I assume that if you are prego that you were partying, That has to stop now, and I hope that in the last few months you did not put in chemicals into your body that harm growing babies, because then you will not only live with raising a child at 15, or the knowledge that you gave a child away to someone that will love them, but that your behavior caused damage, not only to you, the guy, your friendships but to the child too.

Also, do not expect the 'guy' to help you if that was his attitude.

recommendations that I have for you is to start reading about parenting now. Love and Logic is one of my favorites, because after the baby is born you won't have that much time.

Wishing you the very best. Be strong, be patient, be kind, and take care of yourself.

Answer 7

Well the decision you have made is so much more important than getting in trouble by your parents. I know it is hard but you just got to bite the bullet. I would try talking to your mom first and ask for her input on how to tell your dad. Your parents are going to be upset but not b/c you did something bad or dirty. They are just going to feel sad that your future options will be somewhat limited. Having a baby is not the end of the world. It is going to be very very hard, they know that b/c they've been thru it. Parents just want the best for you, and so they will just be upset that life is going to be harder for you (not to mention, they will be the ones having to pay for most of it). Once you tell them, you need to talk with the father's parents as well. He needs to be responsible for his child too and if he is not willing, well his parents can sort of make him. I hope everything goes ok. Remember, you are going to be a mother soon yourself so you need to act as responsibly as possible, even though you are young, b/c that is what adults do. You have to face the music and own up, b/c that is what you will want to teach to your baby. And anyway, holding this kind of stress in and going thru this alone isn't good for your or your baby. Good luck and congratulations. :-)

Answer 8

Just sit them down and let them know that you are pregnant and how you feel about keeping the baby. Then think long and hard about how you will be able to pay for this baby. It will change your life. I am 9 months pregnant right now and I know at 21 it will be hard to take care of my baby and the father is here to help. Im sorry that you have to go through this but never think about abortion its not worth it. Good luck

Answer 9

OK,Well i was 15 when i got pregnant and the first person i told was my male cousin,Of course he freaked out but gave me some good advise,he told me the only thing to do is to tell me grandma who raised me like her own,She told me to abort it and they next day she set me up to do so....I deep inside my heart would never have done so just because it is just not right,I saw pictures of what they do and it is very sad!!!!!!! And i would never have gave my baby away no matter what.....I did it all by my self i raised my son with no father and became a very strong women because of this,I earned my GED and became a nurse.....I am now 31 and my son is 14 and i would have never ever look back and did it different.....Think about it.......I'm going to give you a web site that shows what they do to babies when you have a abortion

Answer 10

First off, tell your boyfriend that he could take his little attempt at getting out of responsibility and shove it up his a**. I would tell your parents in your best attitude that you are pregnant and need their support. Tell them you need them because you have no emotional support from the babys father. Tell them sooner rather than later because you are seriously running out of time before you start showing. If they start to notice your tummy changes before you they hear it from you then that will make them very nervous. It will make their first knowledge of your pregnancy a bad experience and you don't want that. Also, you really need prenatal care immediately. That's much easier to get with your parents helping you to get it. Hope this helps. Fell free to email me for advice. I'm 21 years old and I'm 23 weeks pregnant. Hope this helps.

Answer 11

It's not the father's decision. If he told you to "just" get an abortion, he clearly doesn't understand what's involved in that! He probably told you that because he wants to avoid paying child support. You're smart not to listen to him!

Tell your parents exactly what you told us- that you are pregnant, and that you are going to keep the baby. Tell them you're sorry that you've disappointed them, but that you're going to take responsibility now, and let them know how much you would appreciate their support.

If you ever need an ear, email me or go to a women's center- http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp

You're doing the right thing! I wish you and your baby the very best!!!