When you first meet someone new, do you like or dislike them?

Question

I'm referring to the initial moments when you meet or introduced to someone new. What tend to be your feelings towards them. Is it warmth and openess or does it tend to be suspicion and hostility?

ps. I am referring to people of the same sex. Meeting the opposite sex is obviously governed by different, biologically driven reactions.

Answer 1

Hi,

i think this very much depends on the appearance of the person and also the situation you meet them. I know you aren't supposed to judge a book by it's cover, but we all make our first impressions based on looks..thats why at an interview how you dress and the handshake can be vital!

If i meet someone who is dressed similar to me, or casually i may not feel as intimdated, but it can also go on their gestures and facial expressions..obviously if they are smilinhg and open, my response would be similar and vice verse.

If we were in a prison meeting someone our first impressions maybe fear or hosiltity as apposed to meeting an old granny crossing the road..so i don't think there's a simple answer, it all very much depends on the situtation at hand!

best of luck xxx

Answer 2

I always listen to my initial instincts which are 99% right all the time. My natural inclination is to like everybody but there are those in the 1% of my instincts that I instantly dislike and sometimes loathe on sight! Same sex or not.....if my alarm bells go off then I steer clear. I am always polite mind you to everyone as no one is below or above me in my mind. If within those vital 2 seconds of eye contact and body language I sense that the other person is trying to or feels that they are more 'superior' to me I will send out more hackles and spikes than a hedgehog with goosebumps! If they meet me at the same level and with the same regard then I will always greet with openness of an 'old friend' and the warmth of trusted friend. Cross me and you will know you are in hostile territory!

Answer 3

It depends on the circumstances. I always give people a chance when I meet them. I'm never too revealing. I say what I feel in that moment. People tend to rub me in certain ways. I can feel suspicious of people if there is something in them that makes me not trust them. Then, there are others where I'm open. I'm always aware of my environment what's going on and react differently depending on the circumstances.

Answer 4

I try to keep an open mind when meeting someone new. I take the time to talk to them and get to know them for a few minutes before allowing myself to make a judgement. I have been wrong before about new people when I have judged them solely on looks and first impressions, so I try to give them a chance.

Answer 5

depends if i am jealous of them for some reason (money, beauty, ect) then i tend to dislike them also if i have a reason to be threatened by them such as my boyfriend is around and i do not trust the girl i will of course dislike her and be suspicious but if i see nothing wrong with the person i will give them a chance to make me dislike them and until then i try to be civil and sometimes on the rare occassion the person i meet strikes the right cord and i like them

Answer 6

I actually have a sister who used to pass with the aid of Becky yet she would not pass with the aid of it anymore. She is 34 now. The call 'Becky' is extremely Nineteen 1890s because of the fact a lot of 90s little ones that have been white females had the call Becky so yeah it does sound unusual for somebody in recent times to have it enormously if she is black. My call is Tiffany and that i admire my call

Answer 7

First impressions are created by the physical appearance of the person,their dress and their manner and speech.You may be attracted or repelled.These first impressions may obviously be revised as you get to know the person a bit better.I think we tend to be sympathetic to persons similar to ourselves but a bit hostile to those rather dufferent.

Answer 8

I'm usually warm and open, but I have noticed that many times in the past, people who I liked at first I ended up not liking so much later; and people who I didn't like at first I ended up liking a lot later!

Answer 9

To be honest, I start to treat them with suspicion, and try to weight them up, The quiet ones I have no time for them, But who am I , I'm probably to loud and common.

Answer 10

Whether male or female , I can tell if I like a person within a very few minutes of meeting them. It's all about vibes, they are either good or bad.