I am only 46 years old. He was 12 years older than I was and had just retired last September. Our plans were to travel in our RV and just enjoy life. Now I am lost about what to do in my life. He was my best friend. I have family and friends, but it just isn't the same.
2007-06-05 08:41:32 · 15 answers · asked by Tracey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I'm sorry. Really rely on family and friends at this time. You need to plug into a local church too and find close fellowship on a spiritual level, more importantly, you need to find God. I know a lot of us are going to be in your shoes someday... I'm not sure what to say to you. Sorry. : /
2007-06-05 08:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Since your loss happened so recently, I would suggest that you just take a little time to grieve before you decide what you are going to do with the rest of your life.
I had a friend that went through the same thing. Her husban was killed in a pedestrian accident. They had not gotten to the point of retirement yet, but had great plans. It took a great deal of time for her to get on with her life. It has just been 7 years now and she is happy again.
Time will clear things up and then you can make better decisions about what you want to do.
Divorce is not anything like what you are going through, but when I divorced a few years ago, I felt many of the same feelings you express. I had plans. She was my best friend. Nobody could replace her, but she's gone. I haven't replaced her, and yet I go on.
Good Luck and God bless you.
2007-06-05 09:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Insurance Biz CT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grief is a weird thing. It takes time to recover from it. You probably lived your life in his back pocket. Now you need to make your own life. Go out and find out what you like to do, you don't have to consider anyone else now. There is a whole big world of things to do and places to see. You are right, your life will not ever be the same without him. It will be new and different. I would suggest not rushing into any new relationships with men. Take time for yourself. Be brave take the RV out touring yourself, see new places. Try to enjoy life. I'm sure that's what he would have wanted you to do. You are just beginning the next chapter in your life.
2007-06-05 08:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I would suggest giving yourself time to decide what is best for you. Time to grieve time to heal.
My father passed away less than a month ago and i am telling my mom the same thing, take it easy and try to deal with everything day by day. dont rush through your process as it takes a while to go through all the phases. I hope that you can find a small amount of peace in knowing that he is now watching over you and protecting you.
If you choose to travel or sell the RV remember that your husband had happiness planned for your future so please find a small amount.
2007-06-05 08:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I can not speak from experience, but something I heard in the past that made a lot of sense, hopefully this will help you: Don't wait for life to get "back to normal. Life will never be normal for you again. What will happen is eventually you will a "new kind of normal" and life goes on from then. The only other thing I can think of is try to live life the way your husband would have wanted you to.
2007-06-05 08:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tracey, so sorry to hear about your loss. You need to learn to get on with your life. I know it is hard but hang out with family or you know what. Take a couple friends and go on that RV trip in his memory. Again very sorry for your loss.
2007-06-05 08:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Selvaggio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it maybe a little to early but you need to start looking for a new friend. not to have a relationship with just someone to do things with. Get out. Travel on your own. This may help with the pain of your lost. Hope this helps and pray. He's in a better place.
2007-06-05 08:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sooo sorry to hear about your loss. I myself went through a sudden passing not too long ago myself. What would your husband want you to do? Go on and enjoy life right?
When you are ready, start enjoying your life and make your husband proud.
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2007-06-05 08:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lekim R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry about your loss, my dad recently passed away, i have been unable to get past the shock part of the grief process, it will take time. i realize dad, and your husband are now in a better place, the key to all this i believe lies in our faith in the lord, know that it will never be the same as it was, not ever. u have to create new things of interest, maybe helping others less fortunate than yourself. my dad meant the world to me, and i realize i will never see him again in this world, but one day i will. good luck and god bless u.
2007-06-05 09:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's only been a month. Don't expect family and friends to take his place, because they won't. Give yourself more time to grieve. It's going to take time, but eventually it will get easier day by day. "This too shall pass." Again, I'm so sorry.
2007-06-05 08:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋