One of my friends is having an affair/fling with a male friend of hers that she has known for about 10 years. The Male friend is married but the two women don't know each other. I don't want my friend to get hurt by this guy, I almost would like for the guy to get caught so is it wrong to send/call his wife and just ask her if she ever asked her husband if he is faithful and tell her if she hasn't maybe she should This could be done annonymously so my friend wouldn't know I was envolved.
2007-06-05 08:29:00 · 34 answers · asked by none 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish more cheaters would get caught... the more they do it and get away with it, the more they do it... I would say thumbs up in calling her only if you can keep it from your friend... otherwise you might lose your friend too... Good Luck
2007-06-05 08:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... while it might seem like the right thing to do is to tattle on the affair, I would not. Do you know for a fact the wife does NOT know of the affair? You'd look silly if she did. Do you know for a fact indeed it is an affair? If the wife does NOT know, even if you tell her she may not believe you, and your friendship would suffer. Really, it isn't any of your business unless asked. In my view "anonymous tips" are for Most Wanted Ads, not friends.
2007-06-05 08:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you may think youre doing a good thing by starting an thought process in this woman's mind.... I would just stay out of it. You didn't make the decision to be unfaithful... your friend is well aware of the decision she has made- and im sure she is well aware that this is wrong--- by you being "anonymous", you are basically going behind her back- and then by not telling her, you would be essentially lying to her. You dont want to do that. Your BEST bet would to just stay out of it... and be there for your friend when her life comes crashing down.
2007-06-05 08:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you think that this is an awful mistake, but other than that, I think you should mind your own business. It seams to me that your friend is an adult and even though you (and I) think that she is making a mistake, it is hers to make. Do you think that you "Tattling" on her will be more or less painful that when this person hurts her? If you try to destroy this relationship, behind her back, eventually she will know or suspect it was you. Then your friendship will be out the window, and you won’t be able to be there to help her in her time of need.
2007-06-05 08:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your "friend" already knows what she's doing is wrong and doesn't seem to care.
I'd tell the spouse of that person. She has the right to know and maybe the reaction it will cause will somehow teach YOUR friend a lesson that she won't soon forget.
2007-06-05 12:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"TRUST ME "if you even hinted to the wife that her husband is unfaithful she will "BLOW" up and" YOUR FRIEND"will get caught so the question here is how good a friend 10 years is 10 yrs and your friend knows what she's doing my advice is "MIND YOUR BUISSNESS" you will see that this will blow over and if you tell you will be the bad guy and youll loose a friend and they will still see eachother regardless.. his wife probably already knows and doesnt care or shes having one too and therefore stay out of the koolaid if you dont know the flavor ....."TRUST ME"
2007-06-05 08:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend should know what she got into when she got involved with this guy she's know for 10 yrs. So she must know she's married. She's going to hurt no matter what. Especially if you want to go tell the wife about her.
2007-06-05 08:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Babe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone that their spouse is cheating on them is really not anyone's business. Most people who do cheat will eventually get caught one way or another. My ex cheated on me with a woman half his age and I had no idea what he was doing. I had child support papers handed to me at my front door. It all came as a surprise to me. We are now divorced.
2007-06-05 08:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the wife what is going on. It is not fair to her. Also your friend needs to stop seeing him. He is an adulterer and your friend is also committing adultery. He won't be true to any woman obviously. So your friend would be better off without him and his wife will be better off knowing what a scum bag her so called husband is. Just think of it as if it was you who was being cheated on, you would want some one to tell you wouldn't you? I certainly would want to know.
2007-06-05 08:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one!!
Think of the consquences ... your friend will be hurt no matter what you say or do ... she knows the guy is married ... how could she not.
The wife will get hurt because her guy is cheating and a family will get ripped apart ...
Sometimes ignorance is bliss ... do what you must ... but do it for the right reasons ... your friend knows the rules of this game.
2007-06-05 08:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋