i dont want to leave my boyfriend he has helped me through so much the past few months. we need each other.hes my bestfriend, i have never thourght about being with anyone else and i dont entend to be with someone else. i do get less attention than i did before which he says its just where we are in the comfort zone. when i do get all the attention i need (not sexually) im fine, and these thourghts automatically go away.
2007-06-05 07:22:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then what is it that you really want out of this relationship?
Only you can answer that question.
2007-06-05 07:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter who you are with, once the newness wears off you are going to get less attention than at first. When you first get with someone it's all new and you both give each other so much attention. But the longer you stay together you do start to get into that comfort zone and things aren't like at the very beginning. It happens all the time. If you leave your boyfriend and get with some new guy, then it will eventually happen in that relationship too. Take it from me. I was one of those people who would move on after the newness wore off. I was pretty much addicted to that new phase when you are totally obsessed with each other. But as I got older I realized that I couldn't keep going like that and that all relationships eventually lose the excitement that they had in the beginning.
2007-06-05 14:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by sweetypie_617 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships definitely evolve over time. Sometimes you'll feel closer to each other, and somethings you'll feel more distant. The level of attention to each other (sexual and otherwise) will also fluctuate. The little changes over time are completely normal and natural. It doesn't mean that anything is wrong at all. If you stick with it, you'll find that relationships generally get better and better with time. That amazing high that you have at the very beginning of a relationship can't last forever, but what develops later on is so much deeper and more meaningful. If you feel you NEED his attention to make you happy, then you really should take a hard look at yourself. Happiness comes from within, and no man should be expected to make you happy all the time. That's unrealistic, and will only lead to problems. Work on increasing your own self-image, and be grateful for the great boyfriend that you have. Good luck.
2007-06-05 14:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by ~Anne~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The initial honeymoon period is over-The comfort zone is natural but frustrating sometimes. I know. I'm going through it now. Eventually you have to realize that there are other things in life that require attention not just you. Its hard because you want so much attention from the person you love and when it starts slowing down it can leave you feeling insecure and thats normal too. Maybe he feels he has your love and you have his so he feels more comfortable to relax knowing that you love each other. maybe he is at a point where he feels like he has nothing to worry about because of that love. keep ya head up
2007-06-05 14:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by EspysMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is your question here? If you are wondering why you dont get more attention it's because your boyfriend is right. You do get to that point of comfort after time. It's 100% natural and ALL couples go through it.
2007-06-05 14:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should just let the relationship ride for a little bit and see where he stands. Don't get hasty with decisions as to stick with it or leave. You might make a mistake you regret. All relationships have their ups and downs and it could be that he is just settling in the relationship good and feels comfy.
2007-06-05 14:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by Scarlett 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. He's your best friend, you don't want to be with anyone else, and when you are the center of his universe, you feel good. But, when he's occupied with something else, you don't like it. Did I get the ins and outs right?
Hon, you aren't always going to get constant attention, from him, or anyone else. You've got to learn to make yourself happy. Otherwise, no one ever will.
2007-06-05 14:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by porcelina_68 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie stop complaining about a guy that loves you. This isn't even an issue that needs to be addressed here. As a matter of fact, this isn't even an issue!
2007-06-05 14:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just emotionally high maintenance. Thats not a bad thing, but if your boyfriend can give you what you need then get another boyfriend
2007-06-05 14:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Freako 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it probably has to do with how long you 2 have been going out. if its been for a while than it's understandable because people do tend to get bored when they've been with a person for a long time.
2007-06-05 14:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋